Women are very competitive with each other, men are competitive when it comes to physical and athletic ability, but women make it personal. Have you ever noticed how your friends act around the new guy your dating? Maybe you have kept your boy toy in the closet and now you're ready to come out and let him meet everyone. Sometimes, you've been together for awhile and all of a sudden your single friends act differently when your man is present. Perhaps you have dished too many details about your relationship, like how great the sex is, how good he treats you, or whatever... some women cannot be trusted.

It could be your friend, best friend, sister, cousin, or even an aquaintance, you can never be too careful. Do you remember in high school when you'd see a guy going out with one girl, then a little while later he's with her friend? or someone close to the her? That is never ending and you don't want to be the next victim of this nasty female girl power TRIP! Women always think they are better then other women, we think we have more sex appeal, "I'm _____ (prettier, smarter, nicer, better etc.) than her, he should be with me!" Is what the psycho voice inside our head tells us. Sometimes the guy will confide things to your friend, sister, who-ever, and all of a sudden, she's on his side and then before you know it, they're engaged!

What is wrong with women like this? In some ways, we are ALL guilty of this because we all want to be with that really great guy and we will crush anyone that happens to get in our way no matter how much you care about your friend, sister, cousin, etc. Think about the guys you've dated that you knew had girlfriends. It doesn't really affect you until it happens to you! Its only when your heart gets broken that you have learned from your karmic retribution. I know I have dated guys when they were in relationships while I was single, and as long as the guy wasn't married or engaged, he was free game to me. Now, I didn't go out hunting for these types of guys, and I would tell them that I wasn't comfortable dealing with them while they were in a relationship, but I was realistic and never expected them to leave the other girl for me. The only two guys I dated were my ex, while he was with my replacement, and my chacha. (If you read my hub, "Why WOMEN Cheat" you will know exactly who my chacha is and how important he is). I felt that I was way better then my ex's new girl, and no one could tell me any differently. As a matter of fact, I still think I'm better then her, but as long as she isn't related to me or one of my friends, I don't care if she gets hurt. He has told me that she is intimidated by me but that she thinks she's prettier then me, if she was, then why would he still be chasing me and telling me he loves me? He didn't cheat on me to be with her, but he did cheat on her to be with me, and that wasn't right. I really should have just left him alone, but I did it without thinking about the consequences.

While I was single, I brought over this hottie, he was this sexy brotha that I really wanted to get serious with, and I let him come over when my new friend, Bonita, was hanging out at my place. She had never dated black men before so I didn't think I had to worry, but I was shocked at her behavior! She was totally flirting with him, and he was flirting with her, right in front of my face! I was upset to say the least! He commented on how pretty her feet were, and I looked down at my big, ugly, forest fire stomppers and I felt so ugly, even though he and I had engaed in some mind blowing sex! I made a comment about her not being into black men and she retorted with, "Well my Daddy is black!" (referring to her foster dad). I couldn't get him out of my studio fast enough! I made her leave right after and we were never the same again. Now, as you know, women don't go out without a fight! To get her back for this incident, I hooked her up with my cousin, who I knew, is a dog; she slept with him the night they met and she couldn't wait to see him again. Bonita went on and on about how great he was and how much she really liked him, but I knew there was no way he felt the same. We used her little magic three-way call feature and then I asked him about the night-he said it was alright, but when I asked if he wanted me to bring her over to hang out, he asked "What for?" He didn't care enough about her to see her ever again because he got what he wanted the night before so there was no need for a follow up visit. besides, he had a girlfriend back home who was having his baby anyway. Bonita felt so stupid but after we hung up with him I apologized ti her as she cried. Secretly, I thought to myself... "Thats what you get!"

Years ago, I worked with my sister and brother-in-law, who had been there for years, so I knew a lot of the employees from way before I started working there. I remember one day when I came into work my sister told me she had to tell me something. I could tell she was hesitant, but I demanded to know wht the hell was going on! She told me that the guy I was dating, Rob, who also worked with us, had sex with one of our other co-worker friends, Raquel. I was so upset, Raquel knew how much I liked him, and their timing couldn't be any worse! He started working there right after my grandmother passed away, he was my little ray of sunshine after the storm, and I was head over heals! Raquel was there when I picked out the perfect Valentine's Day gift for him because I felt so "lucky" to have him in my life. He apologized to me, but I didn't care, I started dating black men after that because I knew he would get jealous and I was tired of being cheated on by Hispanic men. Later, she apologized to me for what she did, but it was never the same. In attempt to act like I wasn't hurt, we went to Tijuana together and I got her so drunk she was throwing up in the bathroom. I was fine after that, I ended up with a hang over but I was totally satisfied by her misery. I was glad to see her go when she quit and to get him back, I filed a sexual harassment case against him. It was a few months after the incident when he pinned me down in the warehouse, he was trying to kiss me and was grabbing all over me and I told him to leave me alone, he was terminated.

Another time, one of my co-workers, and very good friend, ended up hooking up with Rob a few months after I left the store. It was weird, she would always talk badly about him, but in his face she was real sweet, come to find that when I quit, he started dating her some time after. While he was with her, he had a girlfriend, and when the two girls confronted one another, he ended up staying with his girlfriend and she played the fool that time. Again, that's what you get! I didn't know he had a girlfriend and when I found out, I left him alone, because while he was seeing me and during the time he slept with Raquel, he had a girlfriend! I asked my so-called-friend, "what makes you think that you're so special that he won't do the same thing to you that he did to me?" This goes to show you how sometimes women think they are better then other women, even their own friends.

Unfortunately for me, I had my heart broken by a spineless, skank that swooped in on my ex-fiance while I wasn't around, two months before our wedding. She may not have been my friend, but she was my future sister-in-law's friend. Apparently they had talked years before and she found him on Myspace, she knew he was living with me and that we were engaged and she still persued him. I thought it was a set-up because his mother didn't like me, his sibbling didn't know me enough to care but good ol' mom had already had them thinking I was something else. Since his family didn't want his brother to marry his wife, the family tried to get the brother back with his ex, whom they had all loved. My ex ended up kicking me out of our apartment, left me without a dime and that was my heartbreaking karmic retribution in full swing! I accepted it as such and have moved on from the experience because I learned from it. He ended up ditching her too, stupid skank! She shouldn't have given it up so easily, and that's why they ended up talking over the phone for two months all the while he was persuing online whores in his hometown while she was falling for and dreaming up a fake future with him two states away. From this experience, I learned that no matter how great I think I am, when it comes to other people in the universe, whatever I think, say or do, will absolutely, 100%, come back to me. And that's what I get!

It's hard enough to get over the fact that your man cheated on you, but who he does it with can be the real knife in your back! It could be someone you trust, someone close to you, and you may not see it coming. Depending on your relationship to them, that will ultimately determine the outcome. No matter what happened, dump the guy! You may never trust the women who back stabbed you, especially if you're related, but even then you can limit how much contact you have with your relatives. If they aren't related, they didn't care enough about you to walk away from the temptation and the bitch will probably do it again. You really don't need friends like that, besides, you will never be able to trust her 100%. If it's just an aquaintance, those types come in and out of our lives and they can easily be replaced. It's never worth the argument to fight over a guy because men are a dime a dozen, or better yet, a 2-for1 at a penny store! If you're going to get with a dog, get yourself a puppy! If you won't be satisfied unless you seek vengence, be very very careful! It does give you a sense of redemption, but it doesn't change what happened. All in all, if you were the guilty person who has stolen a man from someone, even if you don't know the girl, exepect those actions to come back to you because when you least expect it, your karma will return to you without sympathy.