Does age really matter when you so call are in love with someone? Well, that's our discussion at hand. In fact, this topic came to me from a friend of mine that is experiencing some issues in a relationship.When my friend approached me, it wasn't on the topic of age, it was more like drama. Indeed, which leads to the age difference in that particular relationship. You would be merely foolish to believe that age doesn't impact people's relationships, because it does!

When you're a woman involved in a relationship with a younger male then there's definitely going to be an issue reguarding immaturity. Most men 24 years old and younger can be very immature. They need attention exactly when they want it, just like babies. Also, they have a way of trying to make you feel guilty for wanting to spend time with other friends, but you must remember you need your space. Once you start to allow something in a relationship then your partner expects that each time and nothing less. For example, if you start to give them leverage over the things you do, who you talk to, and where you like to go then it's a wrap. Everytime you decide to do one of those things it's going to be a major issue, so make sure you nail that in the bud at the beginning. Make sure each one of you has an understanding of what not to expect in the relationship. Of course, the younger the harder it is to receive some sort of understanding. Why? They're not interested in understanding, they're only interested in getting their way and making you feel guilty to get it!

Most men when they're young they're not ready for any type of committment. No matter how much you pressure and ask, they're simply not ready. Now listen when I tell you that they're going to try and make you believe that they're actually ready for something real and true. That's when you analyze the game that they're trying to run. Such as, telling you what they're supposedly are about and what they're supposedly going to do to show you. Well, words are exactly what they are, WORDS! There's a major difference in when a man tells you something then when a man shows you. You must remember that action speaks louder than words and every man has something that he's after, whether it's for the good or bad it's up to you to decipher that.

You also have those immature types, that doesn't know how to express how they really feel to you, so they knick pick on you to drive you crazy and make you really irritated. When they do decide to call you, it's nothing positive on their mind or coming out of their mouth. All that is coming out of their mosuth is interrogating questions and assumptions. Why? Their on concious is bothering them for the things that they have been doing but, are too afraid to admitt. See they feel they have to keep you in the dark to avoid you from really dismissing their ass, because they know once we see the facts for ourselves the probability of the relationship lasting drops drastically. You must remember that you have the control as the woman over the relationship and a man only does what you allow. Stand firm and strong in conversations and arguments if you feel that you've done nothing wrong, don't just give in for nothing. You're giving them power over you and not even realizing it, and once a man has figured that out, you don't stand a chance!

I'm just going to go ahead and give you a quick list of things of what to NEVER do when no longer in a relationship with an ex or old lover. Please make sure you read these things carefully, because it can save you from making a fool of yourself and hurting yourself.

1. Never call an ex back after they have hung up in your face, no matter what the circumstances are. If it's that important for them to speak with you they would've never disconnected in the first place. That's their plan though, to see if you're going to call back. That way they'll know, if you're still interested or if they still have you right where they want you.

2. Never stop what you have going on to comply with their needs. You must abide by your schedule that you've set for that day, and if you don't have one, make one up. Even if you want to speak with them, you make something up off the top of your head, so that you are busy. If not, they will surely know that if they call you whenever that you will be there whenever. You don't want to give them that sign, especially if it's not your current man or husband!

3. Never beg for them to talk to you when they're not talking. If they call you to just hold the phone and not say anything, then you must tell them that you will call back. Please believe me when I say, there's a reason that they called, but again they're too immature to tell you. If there's no conversation there's nothing to talk about. Don't make an argument about not talking, that's just they're way of getting you to talk. Don't fall for the games.

4. Never give them an explanation for anything. When even asked by them to explain, don't do it. By explaining your're basically confirming that you still want to be apart of their life or even be involved in a relationship. You must remember, you don't owe them anything especially an explanation. If anyone needs to be explaining it should be them for whatever shit they have done to you or about to try and do. Foremost, you shouldn't even have time for them to explain that, because you really don't care.

Well, I'm going to keep it real with everyone, when in a REAL relationship you are going to argue. So, if you ever hear that's it's going to be all peaches and cream, then they're most definitely lying to you! The subject at hand hear is, how far do you take it when arguing? Or even how far do you allow the other person to take it? Do you allow yourself to get involved in a physical fight with your partner? If you had to think about any of your answers for the questions above, then you must continue to read.

Now, I'm going to tell you about my little experiences so that you can get a vision of where I'm coming from. In one of my previous relationships, before I met my husband, I did experience physical abuse. He literally tried to kill me by choking me to death, like I had tried to kill him or something. He was straight trippin' with himself and wildin' out, all because he wanted to keep me prisoner in his house! Now, when you're discussing that sort of physical abuse then, you need to get out of that relationship someway, somehow. When you're involved in that type of relationship then there's something wrong with your self-esteem and you must LOVE yourself enough, to LEAVE!That person is going to try and bring you down all the time, tell you that you that no-one would ever want you, and basically ruin your self-esteem. It's up to you to make a change to better yourself!

Now involving my current husband and love of my life, our physical abuse to each other is completely different. When we have an argument I'm always the one initiating the little fighting that we do. I run up to him wanting him to put his hands on me so that I could have something to use against him. I know that's wrong but ladies we have to keep it real, we do that sometimes, I know I'm not the only one! When my husband puts his hands on me majority of the time it's in a mannish manner but, only a few occasions does he hurt my feelings by placing his hands on me. He does little things like push me down on the bed, or pull my hair a little bit, and grabbing me and shaking me. The most important thing is, we dearly love each other and we always sit down and talk about the things we've done to each other that we don't approve of. Communication is the most vital thing to have when in an relationship. He always lets me know that before he literally puts his hands on me he would leave to cool off and then come back to talk. Honestly, I know I can be a bitch sometimes and completely step over my boundaries as his wife, but it feels good to know that no matter what happens I won't have to worry about those issues anymore in my new and current relationship.

The advice I'm going to leave you with if you're confused about whether to stay with your partner do these 4 steps to help you determine:

1. Grab a pen or pencil and a piece of paper.

2. Fold the piece of paper in half, symmetrically. Write on one side of the paper "Good" and on the other side " Bad" ,

3. Now on the side labeled "Good" I want you to write down all the good things your partner does for you making a numbered list. On the side of the paper labeled "Bad" write down all of the bad things your partner does to you.

4. Now if your good out weighs the bad then there may be hope, but if the bad over weighs the good then you must let it go.

Everyone is different and voice different opinions when it comes to discussing fighting in a relationship, so I'm also going to give you a chance to voice your opinions by taking the poll below.

When men are tired and need a break from us, (which should never happen) I feel they should just tell us how they feel, instead of making all sorts of excuses for them to get some alone time. For instance, my husband is so silly like I'm dumb or something. He's sitting right here at this moment playing his xbox 360. This game along with me of course, is his life. He can not live without this system or else he would have a nervous breakdown. He just asked me," Baby you can go outside if you want too". Like I'm some sort of pet or he has me confined in the house?lol. Nigga please, don't try and run that game on me! See ladies, you have to read between the fine lines of what your man is saying. He's really trying to tell me I look bored and I need to do something instead of just watch him play. The main thing that he fails to realize is that I'm blogging on my laptop so I'm not bored and neither am I paying attention to NBA 2K9 on xbox 360, that's my least concern. Oh, but there's a different story when I keep it real and let him know he's getting on my nerves, or that I need some girl time with my girls, or even when I may want to hit the club. Every man has there own tactic of how they try and get what they want from their woman, and women we do the same thing to our men. It's all about knowing how to give each other some space sometime especially, when you live together. That's another topic itself, so keep checking in on my hubs for that "Living Together" topic.

I know everyone has had those friends since elementary through high school, that their family knows yours and etc. Well, to be honest the closest friends are always the ones trying to push you to the limit. What I mean by that is, once you've told them you're in love and you've found someone that loves you back with your flaws, then either the hunt or investigation is on! They're either going to try and push up on your man or try to investigate some false dirt to make you want to leave your man. Ladies take this advice from me when I say, " If you can't prove it or didn't see it, he's innocent until proven guilty". What us women need to realize is that there's HATERS, in every form and fashion. So with that in my mind, your home-girls that don't have a man and can't keep one, watch them very closely. I'm going to go ahead and give you a heads up with at least 5 things to look for if you suspect your friend wanting your man:

1. If every-time you speak with your friend she's inquiring about where your man is and what he's doing, then you need to be on alert.

2. When at the same location as your man she always has extra conversation for him, especially when no-ones discussing that specific subject, she just can't seem to stop talking to your man.

3. If whenever you and your man decide to go out on a date, she has some sort of objection to why you shouldn't go, watch out she's hating on you girl.

4. If she has something to say about how much income he's bringing in, or how many kids he has, then she's just looking for something to bring to your attention hoping you would change your mind.

5. Lastly, if she comes around you and your man in some skimpy outfit with cleavage showing and her butt all out, and it's wintertime, she most definitely wants your man!

I know alot of people are confused about getting married or settling down, well I'm here to advise you that it's not an awful thing at all. In fact, being in love is the most wonderful thing you could ever experience. Yes of course, it's not easy, but that's what makes the relationship stronger. I'm not going to tell you that you're not going to have trials and tribulations, because that would be a lie. Actually, from my point of view it brings you two closer together and helps you to build communication skills with your partner. Now, keep in mind it takes two to be in love together, it won't work if only one of you are trying and the other one isn't......you're heading for disaster already if so.

The most two important things to remember when envolved in a relationship, is that you must have trust and communication. Please understand when I tell you, that if you don't have these two vital pieces then the relationship will not work. I'm going to give you a few examples of what I mean so that I won't confuse you by what I mean:

1. If ever an argument occurs and noone never wants to talk about the situation at hand except you, then you are the only one who actually cares about the relationship. If it is true love, (trust me when I say TRUE) then neither one of you could sleep or rest your mind until whatever issue was resolved.

2. If you don't agree with your partner then you should be able to tell your partner your reason for the disagreement and that you disagree. If you're unable to talk to your partner then you definitely have another issue. Especially, if it's something minor like, burping or farting. Again I'm going to tell you that communicaton is the key.

3. Another main key is RESPECT. Both parties should always remain some form of respect for one another especially, when there has been an argument or disagreement. Most couples tend to lose some form of respect when there's an argument this is due to being angry. You must remember, never to say something you will regret, just because you're mad at one another. This could hurt both of you in the relationship but, that will only happen if it is true love. Every real relationship has arguments, but it's the real ones that work through them.