Good Luck in the Chase!

It’s pretty safe to say a lot of girls spend half of their lives chasing that storybook romance, only to find that Prince Charming fails to show up at their doorsteps. And sometimes those who think they’ve located him later live to realize they have a second guess coming, paying dearly to learn from mistakes that make their lives miserable ever after. It’s also true that when they finally decide to call off their search, they could be left in the lurch carrying a lot of luggage. Then when they kiss sobriety welcome to understand that love for some like themselves, might mean being with a special someone for better or for worse under coping conditions, their strings attached become fetters to fear. That is, some give up, thinking Mr. Right is a figment of the imagination, and they must live with the reality. But that’s after they arrive, divorce dangling, with two or three children on their hands at a very tender age, disillusioned, yet still keeping one eye open just in case they stood corrected by somebody else’s intuition. They had heard so much about love, and their emotions are so apt to corroborate the calling, that they can’t just fold their arms and concede that what has befallen them is true. They must at minimum make a last minute ditch at burying their heads in the sand to be in denial that luck isn’t just what they really need to get what they’ve been promised, namely the soul-mate everyone is talking about. Good luck in the chase, almost everyone needs it!

This article entitled, Love Needs No Luggage gets up to the challenge to charge that a lot of relationships, both marital and common-law are strained before they even start. More females are entering partnerships, their hands tied and with so many strings attached that love alone cannot help their cause. Children and divorce rear their ugly heads to add a different dimension to the course of courtship, and it becomes a matter of which men can weather the storms that individual stories wage, that will ensure the survival of some hook-ups for anywhere past a year. The guys, though entering unions with similar sundry standings, are less conspicuous on account of being incognito in their escapades. They might be mentally carrying the same load, but often, they step over the stress because they manage to leave their ex-mistresses holding the bag, with the children that means. In other extreme cases, the men might be completely unaware that they made the mess if after a breakup the girls allow their emotions to persuade them to leave without a trace and give the burden to some other unlucky guy. Thanks to paternity testing, some dads might get a rude awakening years later that a seed was sown somewhere in the saga. Let’s break it down in simpler terms to see how this tends to shape up to become the love and luggage lunacy for the couple next-door.

In these times, by the time a grown girl uses up a quarter century on her lifeline, she is already so jet-logged by a jeopardizing quantity of luggage that, even if Cupid slapped her in the face with a flaming arrow, she wouldn’t know what hit her. Teenage divorcees are on the rise, as millions of young women, not necessarily made of marriage materials, are taking on the Brittney Spears’ bacchanal in the cosmetic couple cook-up. They are looking for that match made in heaven fairytale-style, but wedding wielders are wadding their pockets at the expense of those who play fast and lose. Wooers spend a few years in the knot and then suddenly surmise that that wasn’t what they had bargained for, not quite the turnout they had been expecting. Hence, there comes a time when a girl reaches the climax of her commitment, or the lack thereof, and must apply for a decree on condition of some irreconcilable differences. By then, children would have gotten in the picture, and perhaps a host of other incidentals to improve the impediments that fight against a healthy, problem-free existence.

Now perhaps 25, she is still green and at odds reconciling her feelings towards finding her fantasy fellow, and fitting in with the immediate reality of her single status on standby. Any lover that lopes along can’t move with the mother overlooking the calves. Therefore, her next prospect that comes up for air has a lot to face in light of her luggage, strewn along a pathway etched with stress, frustration and the possibility of her refusal to take love at face value. Once bitten, twice shy and so, mind over matter, she who feels it knows it from any distance. She has a lot of baggage to spare, and any supposed suitor must understand where and how far she is coming from, separately counting the cost of his vulnerability of biting off more than he might be able to chew. A prospective partner has a tough decision to make, taking on a young girl who not only has children but also roaming eyes, looking for love, an obstruction in the path of their progress.

But this is what the 21^st century social scene has been trumping up in presenting human romantic relationships. There seems to be a combination of factors responsible for this upsurge in behavior, prominent among which, could be the changed face of working warranties involving women. The independent and industrious diva uses her job as the leeway to make her own decisions, and she has chosen to be the material girl, unbridled by any restrictions to realize her dreams, including finding a man of her mettle. Let’s try to put a face on the fickle situation facing a career girl in the mood for romance, yet finding herself on the infield with one or two mouths to feed on her own, plus keeping her pairing options open, while still in her youth.

Many girls start their romantic routes watching televised daytime, passionate dramas and reading magazines made for the modern Cinderella seeking to meet her fellow, with the hope that some real life conversion could be conceived by some kinkiness of the inspiration. The odyssey is methodically planned so that by say seventeen, many hope that they will have been well on the road to chasing what is now turning out to be their tail. Records show that girls usually get to business with settling down on their minds much sooner than the guys, despite the most recent musical rebuttal that girls just want to have fun. But while they’re at it, there is a sifting process that women must use as their defense mechanism, and that seems to be where danger lurks to put them at a disadvantage.

Dating divas run into many complications, and sometimes they are left holding the dirty end of the stick, at the ruses of the rugged ones. Casual sex gets 75 percent of the votes for those setbacks that are rife to get in the way, and if nothing else happens, she could learn the hard way that a girl can’t do what the guys do and still be a lady. But wait! Don’t you sing that tune yet! The sisters in Sex and the City beg to differ in this chauvinistic regard! These girls seem to have been struck by some lightning along the way in their search for the man of their dreams that they have decided to sleep around to see how much they could beat the guys in the friendly match-up. The guys they date go primarily for the sex, so why shouldn’t they? The leggy princesses in the episodes represent the new breed of gals, who must necessarily be seen as pioneers, piloting the swing of romance from that which used to portray women as the victims, to a verboseness that turns the table for the vixens to become victors rather than victims.

The new attitude sentences virgins to become scarce, while young mothers spring up from the selection screening to give the go-getting girls gloom when they go for the kill. Meanwhile flies forever swoop down on honey, no doubt about that when the flies epitomize the men, as the sweet substance represents women. Not surprisingly, the guys go for the thrill, hardly turning down offers served to them on platters. Then, moving on to other eligibilities, they seem to be enjoying the stakes that are high in their favor, welcoming women who make themselves readily available for the predatory prowess. When the night is over, the winners walk away clean as a whistle with no strings attached, unless they are stalked to prove their guilt in fathering some unfortunate seed.

Development of technology doesn’t do much in diminishing the risks of downloading the devil in disguise. Many teenage girls are turning to the Internet in trying to ensure that the trick works in turning the tides, but that’s tantamount to selling their souls to the sphinx. The end result is that they sometimes limp along with too much on their plates, and might have to count their blessings should they live to tell the horrifying tales. It turns out that countless conned victims turn twenty, with burden so great that they try salvaging their sanity by looking for love in all the wrong places.

In the past, men compare notes to add a few dos and don’ts to their scratch pads. The guys knew after a while that girls they meet at the clubs and in the parks would not make the cut on their shortlist. Maybe the girls could copy a page from the lads’ notebooks. This, to guard against Internet creeps, whose inability to live up to a desperate woman’s expectation of romance, is so in line with the boys’ obvious lack of strength or other wherewithal to shoulder the corresponding luggage girls often leave at their feet. Lately, many men are interpreting that girls who go looking for a life on the Internet after being let down so many times before, should not only be taken with a grain of salt, but also be taken for a ride. Hence, it is not uncommon that guys are labeling girls as gold diggers, when the divas go digging for eligible bachelors in the most unexpected places. Yet, these dudes might even be on the verge of declaring bankruptcy, reiteratively speaking, not having a red cent to their names. This attitude put relationships in a very volatile vigor to break at the slightest shuffle, because the responsibilities that a woman racks up to induct men into her company, can sometimes inspire awe. We might have heard of the runaway bride who was overcome by the load of commitments outside love, and got cold feet before she could even make it to the altar. Men on the other hand, might not handle the stage fright in similar fashion, but as different animals, they might split hairs just to find a way out of the straight jacket that they’re often given to wear from the get go.

So in times like these, when women go hunting for a hook-up, they might need to drag their young ones along, to assist in picking a partner, in like manner as when frisking for kids’ favorites at Toys-R-Us. It spells sense to activate this new attitude because Mom is not the only one to please, and as for a stepfather, well, let’s just say he’s a household name that makes a big difference in this mind game called love. However, there are other factors to consider, but another articulated effort based on this topic might be necessary to get to the heat of the hubbub on the romantic scene. In the meantime, enjoy the music, courtesy of Youtube.com, and you can sing along, using the words provided by google.com to give you a good idea of what Love Needs No Luggage is really implying.

Wanted, young man single and free
Experience in love preferred,
But will accept a young trainee
Oh I'm gonna put it in the want ads,
I need a love that's true
Gonna put it in the want ads, my man and I are through

At home I find myself, lost and all alone
My man is playing the field, the thrill is gone
He stays out all night, says he's with the boys
But lipstick on his collar, perfume on it too
Tells me he's been lying, tell ya what I'm gonna do
I'm gonna put it in the want ads, this girl's in misery
Gonna put it in the want ads, somebody rescue me

I spend my nights alone, cryin' bitter tears
Although I cry aloud, nobody really hears
And when I need him most, he's never by my side
He's either playing cards, or drinking at the bar
He thinks that I'm a fool, I'm going to the evening news
Gonna put it in the want ads, I need somebody new
Gonna put it in the want ads, my man and I are through

Extra extra, read all about it,
Wanted, young man single and free
Experience in love preferred,
But will accept a young trainee

Extra extra, read all about it,
Wanted, young man single and free
Experience in love preferred,
But will accept a young trainee

Oh I'm gonna put it in the want ads, I need somebody new
Gonna put it in the want ads, my man and I are through
Gonna put it in the want ads, this girl's in misery
Gonna put it in the want ads, please somebody rescue me

Lipstick on his collar, perfume on it too
Tells me he's been lying, I'm going to the evening new
Gonna put it in the want ads, I need somebody new
Gonna put it in the want ads, my man and I are through
Gonna put it in the want ads, this girl's in misery