What is it with women and money? Its like crack to females.

I chose this subject because lately I have been having relationship issues, when it come to spending and saving money.

My wife has a spending habit, I might even go as far to say its an addiction. I mean she will nickle, and dime you to death. Funny thing is, she doesn't make expensive purchases, she makes many small ones that you don't notice that add up. When she has spent all of her money, she tries to stick her hands in my pockets. If I say no, it becomes a major issue, kind of like a crackhead needing money for crack- serious issues. Then she go's as far as bar rowing money, which really upsets me.

I used to be married before, along time ago, and in that marriage I learned allot about what could go wrong and what can lead to divorce. There are 3 main reasons that will cause strife and divorce.

1) Communication, 2) Sex and 3) Money. If one of these things are a source of arguments, fix it quick, or get ready to go through hell!

Communication

When you cant talk to each other on a daily basis without screaming and yelling at each other ....that's a warning sign. Without communication you cant fix the issues your having. When you don't talk to each other, and start avoiding each other; a person can become bitter and resentful. When two people are resentful towards each other, its kind of hard to make up. Which brings me to ......sex.

Sex

Sex is a beautiful act to show you love someone, but lack of it in a marriage can cause a slue of other problems, that wouldn't normally exist. This is usually where cheating beings. What I hate about this part of the problem is that women, cut you off, or "shut it down" just to teach men a lesson. But in reality, it pushes a man to do stupid things he wouldn't normally do. The Bible talks about this in Corinth 7- basically saying, a husband and his wife should not keep themselves from each other, due to lack of self control and temptation. I'm all for this fact, but a pissed off woman doesn't care.... not even GOD can move her.

But lets go back to the beginning.

Money

This subject causes more drama, then any other subject in a marriage. My x always put me down about not having enough money. I was not educated then and it was hard trying to find a good job, so you took what you could find. We were friends, but money issues destroyed the relationship beyond repair. Poorly handled fiances, or lack of, can destroy marriages. Like I said before, my current wife loves to shop. She will spend until she has change in her pockets. To be honest the shit drives me crazy, and the way gas prices are going, we need to save as much as possible. As for my spending habits? I rarely buy anything for myself. I just don't like to spend money when I don't have to.

Don't get me wrong. Me and Marcy have a wonderful marriage. But the spending could have the potential to cause problems that don't exist right now. But my woman is hard headed and at times selfish. And one thing I hate, is to argue about money.

I am not saying we are heading towards divorce, but I do know what can get you there. Kill the weed before it infest your whole yard. I want my grass greener on this side.