Have you just gone through a break up? Are you going through a break up? I'll bet you feel like you just got kicked the guts don't you? This could be the best day of your life. Because you will never be the same again. If you handle this right you will be smarter, stronger and more capable than you ever were before.

Use this little breaking up exercise to your advantage. Be thankful for it, even you don't feel like it.

There is an old saying something like this. "There is no great loss but what there is not some small gain." My daddy use to use that one whenever things did not go very well or he lost something.

There is another one I like and I think you will also. "In every adversity there is an equal or greater reward." Now, don't you feel better. Things might feel like they are going from bad to worse and they will if you do not take a moment or three to realize just how lucky you are and just how you are.

You are the most important part of this relationship. You are OK. You need to hold on to that thought. "You Are OK."

Now, You need to kick back and take a couple or three deep breaths and give yourself some time to settle down and become the calm cool cat you were before this happened. There is a reason for this. You need the time think about how you are going to make up or even if you want to.

First of all, do you want your ex back for sure? And if you do, do you want them back in the same old relationship. I mean things must not have been so ducky if you are on the outside looking in right? So what needs to change to make this relationship one to be proud of? One that is mutually satisfying to both parties. Time will give you the chance to reflect on these things. Do it now. Think about what you want for real.

Emotions are your enemy right now. They make you do stupid things. Emotions can get you locked up. So cool your jets before you decide anything. Give your ex some time to start rethinking the situation also. Things may not be as dire as you think right now.

Do not call your ex and do not go see them. If they call you be friendly and upbeat. But do not carry on a long conversation and do not agree to a meeting, no matter how much you want to. Give it a month at least. Trust me. You will regret it if you do otherwise.

If you do not figure out what went sour, any reconciliation will be short lived. Nothing in this making up will have changed and someone will be back out the door.

Now is the time to be good to yourself. It is not time to beat yourself up over something you can do nothing about right now. Now is the time to enjoy the new freedom you have. Your chance at being single again. Go date that hotty you have been wanting to. Go dancing. Go do something even if you think it is wrong. You need to be active so you do not dwell on what might have been. Now think about what can be. Just get your mind off of the break up for now.

Guilt and remorse are natural emotions when suffering from loss. Just do not spend any time there. If you will do these couple of things, I guarantee you your chances of getting back with your ex just went up 10 fold and your feelings about yourself will also. You take care of yourself and things will work for you for the better. I promise.

Making up is hard to do if you do it right. So get yourself in shape for when the work of making up begins.