The truth is, marriage isn't all it's cracked up to be. It has it's ups and downs, but it takes work. Lots of work. Constant work. Is it worth it? For some, yes. Others, not so much.

I fell in love with the idea of marriage in my teens. I thought there was a natural order to things: meet someone, fall in love, get married, have children, happily ever after. I married at the age of 19. We were young, in love and ready to start a life together. Little did we know that there were little problems nestled in between the natural order. No one tells you what happens in the middle of the fairy tale. The money problems, the boring job, the mother-in-law, the sex issues and oh yeah, the SEX issues.

Sure, before getting married those in love go at it like rabbits. Did they forget to mention that something happens when that ring falls onto the finger where both parties forget that they like sex? I mean, who doesn't, right? But the fact remains, something gets lost at the alter,. It doesn't happen right away. For the first 2 or 3 years of marriage, you continue your rabbit-like habits. But suddenly, you're not interested anymore. You still think about it, dream about it, wish about it, but you don't do it. Why is that? I wish I had an answer, it would solve problems for women around the world.

Suddenly you have a companion. Someone who knows your every move, every quirk, every chuckle and what it means. They say it takes 3 years to REALLY get to know someone. I've had 7, and he still has no idea who I am or what I need or want.

What gives?