Marriage at early age
73Marriage Age
What is marriage age? It depends on different places. Some place it is 18 years some place less or some place more than 18 years of age. Physically or naturally marriage age is at puberty, if some one, a boy or a girl, wants to marry. Or say physically attracted to the opposite sex.
In old days, even now, we read/heard child marriage. It is said child marriage is not good. It is immature age for marriage. Early marriage spoils life of a boy and a girl.
If we look from parents' prospective, early marriage is good for children's life. Parents always, most of the time, wants good life for their children. They look for a bride or a groom for their son or daughter so that their (children's) life is secured before they get 'spoiled'. When a boy and a girl get marriage at early stage they (children spouses) can play together, live together and spend happy life together for a long time. They know each other from the very begging of their life. A boy or a girl does not need to search for 'unknown partner' for dating when one grows! There is no question of dating violence! There is no question of HIV AIDS. Sex is right in the house for both of them; do not need to go anywhere else when one needs, if one is already married at early age. It is a great relief to the parents as well as to the 'children' spouses. The only point is that a girl gets early pregnant and not good for the 'health'. It will affect the education and so on. If a person is naturally (physically) matured there is nothing wrong. The parents need to provide support as needed. What is needed is good health care. When there is no good health care women are always at risk during pregnancy and child birth.
In modern days we read news about teen (parents) mothers and fathers. I read one of the news that a girl at the age of 12 became mother. The father of the child is 13 years old. This is worse than child marriage. Nowadays teen sex is increasing day by day due to lack of guidance from guardians. In one of the African school, the news reported, a principal issued circular that if any student gets pregnant she will be expelled from the school. Teen sex is getting much more serious. HIV AIDS is increasing among teens more than ever before.
Talking into consideration of these two extreme aspects: 'old type of child marriage' and 'new teen pregnancy' the better way is to adopt early marriage with modern concept. This means early marriages before puberty of children, i.e. before children become conscious about sex with adaptation of compulsory family planning measure until they are fully equipped for life and until they finish education. By fully equipped for life I mean at a stage when they will be able to live independently. If we practice this concept I am pretty sure unwanted pregnancy (at early age) and HIV AIDS will reduce considerably saving a lot of money and recourses of a country and the world.
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NarayanKrishna, thank you for this interesting hub with a different point of view. While I don't think children should be forced into marriage against their will, I do see the advantages that you suggest, for those who are past puberty and wish to marry with their parents' blessing. I'm glad that you mentioned contraception in conjunction with such an early marriage.
Many thanks to Hot Dorkage and Aya Katz for the feed back. In my view teen age pregnancy and HIV AIDS could be avoided with the practices of 'early marriage'. Yes early marriage is arranged by the parents keeping in view of children's benefit. Parents look for good bride and grrom keeping in view of family good background and others. There are good and bad aspects in every areas. I feel adoptation of early marriage has advantage over disadvantages. Teen pregnancy and HIV AIDS can be avoided as one does not need to go around for sex without knowing risk involved. Child marriage is not forced marriage by parents, it is a kind of blessing by the parents to the children. When children grow up they may not like their spouses (either by a girl or by a boy). There is more possibility of divorce. Yes, divorce is also invitable in some cases. Even 'love marriage' turned into divorce in many cases. My feeling is that child marriage help to know each other more from the childhood, early marriage have more chances of understanding between each other on the one hand and on the other hand less chances of going around for unsafe sex.
My strong view is, early marriage (by the parents of course) helps a lot to avoid teen age pregnancy (using contraception as mentioned earlier with the help of parents) and HIV AIDS. Because such couples do not need to go around for unsafe sex when they need sex.
This is a topic that's good for discussion. I was married at 18, and it failed. I don't know much about the pros and cons of arranged marriage. I think marriage is good for 2 people who have an understanding of why they are going into a partnership. Your hub definitely raises a lot of questions. Very interesting!
Below is a news clip published on 22 May 2009 in Nepal for information. As it is linked to my hub:
Two year olds tied in nuptial knot
Hardly aware of the repercussions the event would have in their life a two-and-half-year old groom and a two-year-old bride got married in Jitpur of Bara on Thursday, reports say.
The youngest son of Gultani Mali of Jitpur, Bara got married to the daughter of Lakhan Mali of Madhwan-Mathaul of the same district, Nagarik daily reported.
The groom, clad in traditional wedding attire, was in his mother’s lap at the time of the wedding. “He has not seen the bride, but he is happy as he got to wear new attire,” Chanawati Gultani, the groom’s mother said.
‘I have also taken her (the bride) in my lap. I know they will make a good couple,’ Chanawati added.
According to the groom’s father, there is tradition of early marriage in his community. However, the bride and the groom do not stay together immediately after the marriage.
The bride is left at her parents’ home and brought to the groom’s house only after she becomes adult, he said.
Marriage before the age of 18 has been long outlawed in Nepal. nepalnews.com May 22 09
This discussion of early marriage is very interesting although it tends to be shocking to Americans who believe that love should be the reason for marriage. Good hub.
Thank you for stop by and comment on the issue of early marriage. I am getting more knowledge and infomation as well. It is too early to marry at the age of two as mentioned above news clip.
1 in 8 female students at Chicago High School 'pregnant'
Here is a news clip about Early Pregnant in Chicago School Children. This news is link to my hub child marriage.
Nepal National
Saturday 17th October, 2009
(ANI)
Washington, Oct 17 : One in eight of Chicago High School's female students are pregnant, it has been revealed.
CBS2Chicago.com has reported that out of the 800 female students at Paul Robeson High School in Chicago, Ill., 115 are expectant mothers.
Principal Gerald Morrow said that the staggering number can be attributed to various factors inside the home, not the school.
"It can be a lot of things that are happening in the home or not happening in the home, if you will," Fox News quoted Morrow as telling the network.
Morrow said that 'absentee fathers' are another factor in the school's high number of teen pregnancies.
According to a March 18 report from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention's National Center for Health Statistics, the birth rate for teens ages 15 to 19 increased 5 percent from 2005 to 2007.
Below is another news, dated 24 October 2009, relating to my above hub:
A boy of 13 is to become a dad after getting his 14-year-old girlfriend pregnant.
The teenagers cannot be named after the local council in Poole, Dorset, obtained a court order banning the publication of their identities.
But we can reveal that the youngsters both attend the same school. The girl is in the year above. Last night Poole Council refused to comment on the case.
Children before puberty getting married, isn't exactly fair. Fair enough, teen pregnacy would be accepted because these children were married. But still, its the same issues, the only difference is that these parents would be married. The same problems are still there.
Marriage after the age of 16 would be fine, if you find the one you know you want to spend the rest of your life with that person. Because you know what your doing, you understand the weight of what your deciding. Arranged marriages aren't ideal either, because you don't get the chance to fall inlove yourself. ou learn to love that person. Which isn't bad. I just think, when they find someone they fall completely in love with it creates problems. Should they stay with the person they learnt to love, or the one who has completely stole their heart from the start?
Thank you for your good view on this 'controversial' topic. There are different factors. Among them there are good and bad aspects. I am trying to express my view that the parents are trying to protect the children from unwanted activities. You are right some may not like the spouse at the later part of the life. There are also many instances that love marriages result in divorces
hot dorkage says:
7 months ago
I've heard this argument for arranged early marriage before. Basically kids are married before they even know what it is, and then pushed together so when their sex drives awaken, there is that handy dandy spouse available for learning with no restrictions and 100% parental blessings. Maybe they can combine that old-fashion way of doing things with modern contraception so they can still have their childhood before they start to be parents themselves?