It should be started with a well known saying that stolen waters are so sweet and it could be said for certain that anything else beats it. That is what drives a married woman or a married man to play second fiddle.

Arrangement of married dating relationship is a connection of actual passion and desire where both parties stay together for as long as spark and excitement is still there. When marital problems arise, or spark and passion simply disappear, a married man derives pleasure from the other woman and naturally seeks comfort from her as well. In the case the couple's sex life is not fulfilling, the man will look for a mistress who is more compatible and willing to cater for his sexual needs. Besides being a lover, the mistress acts as a confidant and close friend to the married man building a long-term relationships with him vs. one night stand. It may even seem illogical as the mistress is becoming very important in man's life, but in reality having a lover does not mean to look for a replacement of a spouse but simply an addition.

In the case extramarital problems remains unresolved in a marriage, the couple starts to deviate further and further from one another. Majority of times, both married men and women make a decision to stay married for the sake of children making them to seek excitement and lost passion a simple necessity to continue living their life. Eventually, if a husband discovers that he can not refuse a fulfillment he is getting from a lover, it is becoming a lifestyle choice and a way of living. This leaves the wife with no other alternative but either to leave a marriage or put up with current situation seeking either revenge or simply getting even.

More and more married women find themselves in this position making a decision not to leave but to start looking for comfort, attention and necessity to feel desired from outside of their marriage and looking ending up having extra-marital affairs. In most cases, extramarital affairs is the result of sexual desperation, lost of desire, sexual dissatisfaction, and eventually lack of communication in a marriage. There is no doubt that married dating relationship is a new trend that society can not ignore pretending that it does not exist. In a survey study carried out on married dating relationships, it showed that the mistress was happier than the legally married woman.

Many women dating married men testified that in fact they would rather play second fiddle as mistresses than take the place of a wife. It was established that in married dating relationship, there are many goodies that come with being the mistress. Perhaps, this is one of the reasons why it is the order of the day in the modern times where the marriage institution is facing the danger of extinction. A critical analysis has shown that the marriage institution is seen to be unjust to the human nature of both men and women. Practice of spending romantic holidays with your lover, designers clothing shopping together, passion get-away vacations is becoming very popular among the married women. Living extra-marital lifestyle is becoming a choice that more and more married men and women decide to pursue.