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Online Dating

Twelve percent of the people who use personal ads in online dating services, are already married!.

Online dating is a great opportunity to expand your dating choices and meet new people. Even though a wide-spread stereotype is that dating websites are an arena for the desperate, they are actually effective way to meet other singles.

You might just be too busy to go out and meet people or just wanting to enlarge your social horizons. Or you may have just recently moved to a new town and haven't had time to make friends. Whatever your reasons might be, an online dating service may offer you a fresh start.



However, as with any other social experience, it can also go worse than expected. Dating sites were one of the first social meet and greet services to appear on the Net. But like sites advertised in magazines, or where you could walk in to an office and submit your personal information, the problem was in identifying the sector you wanted to target, i.e. widows/widowers, older men, etc.

When the Internet became so widely available, it put people in touch through a world with no boundaries and few rules. The ability to chat with others around the world drew people by the millions. Inevitably, individuals who "met" online, began corresponding and often developed real life relationships. Enter the modern age dating scene, with new twists that would never have been out in the open, in the "real" world.

Dedicated services were opened up, catering to gays, ethnicity, country, professionals, and yes...married people. According to Jupiter Research, 12% of people using online dating services in the new millennium, are already married. And since nothing is more frustrating or disappointing for those looking for a permanent relationship than to find their new interest is already legshackled, this kind of site removed that factor from their dating equation. At the same time, it opened up a private "hunting ground" for those with no qualms about being unfaithful, offering opportunities to play outside their home area/region, and avoid detection by friends, family or their spouses.


Some Tips on Online Dating

  • The key to get what you want from an online dating service is flirting. Although some of you may think they cannot do it, it's actually much simpler than in face-to-face conversation. All you need to do is learn about the different kinds of online flirting approaches, pick one that works for you and put it into practice.

  • Online dating is generally carried out through chat or e-mail. A very useful better online dating tip is to keep your answers simple, short and sweet. Don't write endless messages with deep meanings. It is safer to keep a light-hearted and upbeat tone. This has proven to attract more successful online dates. Ask questions in a simple and easy to answer manner and keep your answers simple too.

  • Use screen names in your written conversation, not your real name. Find a screen name that you like and feel confident using. Emoticons are also nice, but they may be annoying or seem insincere if you use them excessively.

  • Using a self-confident tone in your conversations is another better online dating tip. Self-confidence is an attractive characteristic. If you like yourself, others will like you too. However, be careful not to cross the line and seem too full of yourself.

  • Humor is also an appealing feature that can lighten up a conversation. If you have a good sense of humor, use it with confidence. Humor used with taste will always be appreciated.

  • Everyone loves a compliment, that's a fact. Surprising your date with genuine and sincere compliments is a great better online dating tip. If you receive a compliment yourself, don't forget to say "Thank you!"

  • Among the most useful better online dating tips are enticers used in your e-mail communications. You can try the classic pick-up lines or make up your own. However, keep them light and inviting so that you sound cute, interested and sincere, but not too pushy. This will certainly help you making a good impression.

Just following these simple better online dating tips will help you be a flirting master sooner than you expected and will ultimately get you that successful date you've been waiting for.

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bluewings  says:
3 years ago

I haven't tried an online dating site personally ,but have heard many identities used there are fake and with a little search you could encounter contradictions in profile.However,there are a few sites that allow only real people to register ,but most of them are paid sites.

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prasadjain  says:
3 years ago

good writing.By the bye, do you have the habit of responding to e-mails?

John Joon  says:
2 years ago

Avoid online dating traps by knowing some potential problems around before putting the name and address to a site. Online dating is great fun if one could know the traps. Scams do exist on the internet, so be cautious not to simply transfer money to others account….

The Right MatchMaker  says:
2 years ago

I know you guys say that any free matchmaker can be a scam. I personally think that as a girl I deserve to meet people the most secure way possible and that is what paid macthmakers do for you. They give you security because you are a 100% sure that the people with confirmed identity at the other end of the net are who they say they are. If you use a free dating website you are always exposed to scam and bad experiences thanks to the disclosure of your personal information amongst a "Non profitable site" or so we think. Paid dating websites can also be free of charge, there are enough members who pay to talk to you, so it's better to be safe than to regret a bad experience.

Juls

Naura  says:
2 years ago

I'm attractive, interesting and easy-going girl.I can say that I am a soft person and always can support and do my best in a difficult moment or situation I have good and agreeable character. I'm faithful and reliable person. I often try to help everybody who needs my help. I adore surprises and gifts I'm practical and I like to keep everything in clean and comfort. I like cooking very much. I enjoy pop dances and fitness, because I like to keep fit. My passion is yacht sport, I can't imagine my life without wind and water, it excites and pleases me a lot and my dream to develop these skills in the future I want to find reliable and cultural man, who will be able to support me.kind-hearted at the same time; faithful with a good sense of humor, cheerful and independent and I will give him the same I like men, who can be funny and have good sense of humor, but he should be serious person. I hope to meet man who will earn my faith.....................Contact me on my private email add.....naura_williams1....................at...................yahoo................dot...............com

k  says:
18 months ago

I hate this online dating crap!! I have meet nothing but cheaters, players and very disfunctional MEN !!! I have tried on and off for a couple year..With no luck and a few broken hearts. Men think that women on these sites are desperate!! I have never felt so dirty or broken!! All I wanted to do was meet my future husband, but all I got was played and/or lied to...I dated this guy for 9 months and I found out he was talking to other women the whole time we were together, plus he cheated on me with few of the many women that he was talking to!! His excuse was that who knows what I was doing the 3 out of 7 days I wasn't with him!! ANd the other excues was he wanted a friend to talk too!! Talk dirty too!! I dumped him and turned around and started dating a lying newly divorced man !! Then, I was hurting so bad that I dated another guy that I was talking to on this SInglenet site for 7 months we were friends online and finally started dating. After 2 months I found out my boyfriend was still seeing his Ex = girlfriends. I have been accused of being a bad word!! For just being nice to a couple guys and giving them motherly advice and keeping it as just friends, I got dumped by a guy I dated only once because of this misunderstanding!! All I ever wanted is to get remarried!!! I'm seeing a shrink !!

Attractive One  says:
13 months ago

Good reading! Like anything else in life, the various dating services are as good as the people who participate in them. You still have to scrutinize people a bit as you would normally, but the dating services can expose you to lots of interesting people you might otherwise never meet in your day to day life. And that's a good thing!

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Dan L  says:
11 months ago

Never tried the Online dating thing ! I'm an " In-person " kinda guy but I HAVE thought about it ! P.S. It's really sad to think that SOME people in serious relationships DON'T consider what they do on-line to be " Cheating " ! That's NUTS !

Web Personals Online  says:
11 months ago

Excellent, well-written post. My site has kind of become a watchdog site in a sense notifying potential online daters of some of the common scams and pitfalls that may be encountered when meeting people through internet dating services. Some scams, in particular, that my site has helped expose have been the Nigerian Online Dating Scam, as well as as the latest trend of people using fake profiles to perpetrate scams, defraud others, or simply advertise their own goods and services to others on their dating or social networking sites of choice. That being said, I think there is still a place for people to use online personals sites as a means of introduction and that it is possible to meet and fall in love with someone who you met online. One word of advice that I can give from my experience and that I give to my visitors is: Stick to the Major Online Dating Sites. Smaller sites simply do not police the profiles well enough, nor do they have the staff to provide the best customer service or quality control. Good luck in your online dating endeavors!

jessica  says:
2 months ago

hey

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