Scandalous Article | Do Men Have The Right To Wear Panties?
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This is a question I ponder when I hear from men who are trapped in relationships with women. ( No, I'm not singling out women as the bad gals here, it's just that most men who wear panties tend to be straight, and a great proportion of them tend to be married as well.)
Oftentimes it seems that some women have a particularly snarky reaction to men wearing panties. They think it means that the man in question is less of a man, they think it looks strange, they think men shouldn't do that sort of thing. Ironically, these are often same women who will put on their boyfriend's shirt and walk around the house expecting him to think they look adorable. Imagine their horror and dismay if their boyfriend responded to the traditional donning of their shirt with "That's disgusting, take that off, you look like a man!"
Imagine if these women were told not that they only couldn't wear their boyfriend's or husband's shirt, but they also would no longer be allowed to wear trousers in public. Imagine the furore that would cause. Feminists would be up in arms, there would be marches on local and national governing bodies. Women would never accept a social dictum that said they had to swap their jeans, pantsuits, shorts and all other manner of manly dress, and instead don skirts and dresses for the rest of their days. Yet men are supposed to simply accept the fact that they are not allowed even to wear the underclothes that are typically associated with women.
Have we gone mad? Seriously. Are we, as a society, utterly insane?
It's one thing not to like the aesthetics of a man in lingerie. That is a personal preference and nobody can argue that. We're all entitled to our likes and dislikes. But the feeling that pervades our society tends to go far beyond simple likes and dislikes. It goes so far as to oftentimes place value judgments on men who wear women's panties. They're effeminate. They're probably gay. They're not real men.
For all our social advancement, for all our equality, for all our encouraging women to be all that they can be, for some reason we seem to have left men out of the picture entirely. Not only out of the picture, but back in the dark ages.
There is this concept that women can do anything, be anything, wear anything. But a man, a man has to be some blend between a Neanderthal and Keats. He must be soulful, yet rugged. He must dress well, in one of the four main modes of dress we allow him (Business, Business Casual, Casual, and Sports.) He must be a strong provider, (though we are thankfully moving towards a more reasonable equality where some men stay at home and look after children whilst their female partners work.), and he must know how to mount shelves. (I think that's actually in the wedding vows for men.)
Not only must he live up to all these expectations, but prejudices still exist against males when it comes to child custody. Just look at what Britney Spears had to do in order for Kevin Federline to gain custody of the children. Simply flashing her genitals all over the world and shaving off all her hair wasn't enough. It wasn't until she skipped several drug tests, refused to show up to court several times, and finally barricaded herself in the bathroom with her children and a firearm that full custody went to Kevin Federline. (Who, incidentally, had kept his winky out of public view the entire time.)
I know I've strayed from the point, but in a sense, this is the point. The fact is, a proportion of men enjoy wearing lingerie. There's certainly no harm in it, yet there is a huge stigma associated with it, a stigma that I propose comes from the fact that men are being forcibly kept in roles that are outmoded, outdated, and make them frustrated with their partners and with themselves.
Enough. Surely we have advanced to the point where what a man wears under his jeans doesn't matter any more than what a woman wears over her panties? Sadly, we haven't. And I think that's something worth thinking about the next time we start congratulating ourselves for being so advanced and egalitarian.
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Women's panties come in all kinds of slinky feel-good fabrics. Men's underwear comes in ...cotton. While some panty lovers may have a psychological turn on with wearing panties (forbidden, fear of discovery, unusual female connection in their childhood, etc.), I think most guys who love to wear panties just like the slick feeling. If a guy has a particularly hung-up wife, he should check out silk men's underwear. (Wintersilks.com has a few styles.)
Most of us have some kind of clothing that turns ups off. I, personally, think a sweater vest makes the studliest man look like Charlie Brown. And don't get me started on the eunich appeal of corduroy pants... But the bottom line in sex is that CLOTHES CAN BE REMOVED. As the old saying goes, it's what's inside that counts.
Hope, as a straight, married pantie and bra wearing male thanks for making me feel somewhat normal. I choose to wear lingerie because I enjoy it. I like having such a wide selection of styles, fabrics and colors to choose from. It' also fun selecting what to wear in the morning.
My mother,wife sister, sisters in law and friends know of my choice and sometimes will kid me about it. My co-workers are also aware and don't say anything. My doctor once made a comment that she thought my bra was to tight.
Maybe as a result of your right on Hub more men will consider expanding their underwear paradigm.
Also thanks for the advise about camisoles. They are perfect to wear over or in place of a bra when wearing a light colored shirt.
i thought it was just me
I am a single, straight 49 year old male. Every day I wear panties, I have for years. Every night when I get ready for bed I slip on a very feminine, sometimes very sexy, nighty. On cold winter nights I also put on thigh high stockings. I once told women of this quickly if we started dating. I do not anymore. I got tired of being told how gay I was. And never having any dates after I had shared this informaiton. So I keep this to myself now. But I can never marry nor even allow myself to be serioius in a a relationship. I have to be who I am, and a lingerie wearing, panty wearing man is who I am. Most of our society can not deal with this.
All I can say is that you are the best advocate for us men that wear lingerie I just wish that it was possible to make you the president of the world so that you could change the thinking of all the people who are against us wearing what we love.Keep up the good work!!!!
President of the world? Hells yeah! I am so there!
Think about it, men wear nothing else but a variation of pants and shirts all of their lives! Even underwear is either y fronts or boxer shorts. Women can wear anything they want, I like wearing womens clothes and lingerie to balance things out a bit!
I wear womens undies all the time.
Of course they have the right to wear frilly undies.
I love frillies so does my girlfriend
Women wear what they want. Why can't men
I've been a cross dresser since the third grade. When my (now) wife and I first kissed, I offered a "there's something about me you need to know." She's not a "fan," per se, but she allows it, tolerates it, and even benefits from it (from my shopping and/or in the bedroom). It's good to know there are others out there, and even supporters, too!
Of course have men the right to wear panties. What´s wrong if a man wears panties, bras and other feminine stuff? It´s not forbidden. Their may be some who find this weird or strange. Since I tried my mothers stockings and girdle long years ago I love the feeling of nice panties, stockings and girdles and feel well wearing it. If you like it, don´t think about what others would say. Just do it and enjoy it.
I'm leery of using the word, "right" in this issue. It's a much abused word these days. How about "Freedom of Choice?"
The comments found on the link below leads me to believe that dear Hope's lingerie campaign is gaining momentum.
I wear panties 24/7 everywhere. This is the second time I switched to panties. First time my wife knew but was not thrilled, quit for a bit and now wearing them again. She knows and this time helped me buy them. Love the feel, why should women only have soft cloths. Just getting in touch with our feminine side.
I love wearing panties 24/7 panties are way of life and i have been wearing panties for 50 years on and off all myentire life. But the last 5 years i have been wearing pantiesevery single day and I Love it .My wife knowes and even buys some from time to time and i love it she buys the sexey ones. panties forever panty man
ihope theres more men out there that are streight and would shaire some your panty storys. i like to tell everyome that i love wear women panties because ilove the feel of naylon that women panty have . my wife and i went shopping for panties and she bought me a baige pair and a pink and black pair and they are so fine. i have the baige pair on right now and they feel so soft. what is so nice about women panties there so many colors and styles to choose from . i bought my new panties jc penneys they had a good selection to choose from. iwill leave for now panty man. ps someone tell a good story about your panty exp.
a lot of the "problem" lies in our attitudes about sex and women. On application forms,we are asked what sex we are. We are not sex,but gender. In reality,all clothing is gender neutral. It is our minds association that determines if it is male or female. And although deeply rooted in most minds,there is the unspoken idea that male is superior and female inferior. It is evidenced by women's clothing (boy shorts,menswear styles) of late. And women in traditional mens jobs or going to battle fronts. All under the guise of accepting women as equals. Therefore even women have been duped into this emulating a man is much more desireable. Such a shame that we can manufacture so many silly things to screw up our relationships.
I am a straight man and I am in favour of wearing women's lingerie rather than regular, male ones. This desire has been with me all my life. However, our society is not yet ready, or tolerant enough to cope with this. In my case, it is a way of keeping in touch with my feminie side. It would be of interest to hear from women how they look at med like me.
I wear women's panties daily. I started with conservative styles mostly in white or black. Now I'm buying ones with lace, ruffles, bows and tie sides in femine colors such as pink, lilac, ete. The sexier the better! I feel so sensious wearing them and look for to wearing a different pair tomorrow. I am very happy in them.
I wear lingerie every day, silk or lace knickers and I always wear stockings. I have more suspender belts than my wife. They feel so good. I'm wearing an Elle McPherson pink silk and lace one right now. My only problem is my stockings keep moving down. question: knickers over suspender straps or under?
i have been wearing panties since i was a young teenager. don't know why i started doing it. i tried it with my wife one time but she did not care at all for it. i still have the craving and have my own panties that i keep hidden away. would love to meet other men that do it so we can discuss why we do it. there has to be women that don't mind it a bit. maybe one day
Sometimes I find it hard to have any sympathy for men in this day and age who hide their love of panties and other things from their girlfriends/wives.
It's like the guys who are married 25+ years and have been hiding the fact that they're gay from their wives and children. It doesn't have to be that way.
After a few experiences with past girlfriends I finally decided to be up front early in the relationship and told them that I like wearing panties. A few of them were turned off right away. One who was able to understand it became my wife. I feel that if you know and understand what's needed to keep you happy then you should not settle for anything less. It just leads to misery and unhappiness.
I'm straight (but VERY tolerant), married, with children and a professional, retired Marine who first wore nylon panties when my grandmother went to the doctor's office and took me with her. She'd not done the laundry so put me into my sister's nylon panties & a short dress. I was maybe 5 years old. The doctor's comment was that it was 'refreshing' to see grandma wasn't uptight and that it didn't seem to bother me. I stayed in panties all day and on future days as well. Grandma bought me different colors, some with lace and some without.
Years later, I still like the feel & the coolness of the fabric. Now my wife will sometimes bring home a nice surpise for me. I have a drawer full of nice panties, my own bras, slips, nightgowns and matching robes. I sleep in lingerie and panties. My wife says men should have just as much right to fine fabric as women do (Yeah, she's a keeper). Even my daughter knows and approves as did my older sister.
I have seen companies selling panties-for-men, panties made to look like, or made of the same material as womens panties. But this does not work for me, they must be womens, and part of the thrill is buying them, taking them to the checkout
Funny how the net works. I was searching for a valentine's gift for my gf, clicked the wrong link accidentally, and got dropped onto a site with this article at the top of the list, Regardless!! This entire post was just made of awesome and win. I'm a 27 year old male, and well.. I started wearing female underwear back when I was 17, and literally it all spawned out of boredom of having to decide "white cotton with a lastic' band on top? Ooo how about worn white cotton?? feels rougher.. Nooo I think I'll opt for black cotton with the blue band on top today." I dunno. For me, I just like having variety in what I wear. And I just really like the fit some cuts of panties have *nods*. My gf finds it to be kinda' "cute" in it's own way when I get undressed at night for bed, not knowing what I'm going to be wearing under my clothes, and well, since we're the same size, she doesn't complain about having a doubled inventory of options of what to wear either =P. In recent years, they've done a pretty good job with trying to help guys' unders catch up in the variety department, but *shrug* If it's comfortable, varied in style, or even just randomly cute ((omg I totally just said cute :O. And I just said totally too XO. And I happen to be straight =O )), I'm wearin' it.
Well I first worn panties when I was young, I was playing with a friend of mine we were being watched my a friend of the family. We were playing and we fall in areek we were wet and went to the house and she told us to go and tke a bath (no shower), then she handed us a change of clothes. We were not happy the were girls panties and shorts. That was my first time in panties. Many years later at age 49 i got married and my wife had me wear panties, I do not object too much. Well soon she was having me wear pantiesmore and more. After a month or so one morning I open my underwear drawer and all I saw were panties, my wife told me that I will be only wearing panties. I Now love the feeling of panties, all fabrics but only full briefs.
do we have the right to wear panties? not only do we have the right i would strongly encourage anyone thinking of trying it to do so, i did and won't go back to mens undies
i just found this web site and i think your articles are fantastic keep up the good work,also enjoy wearing panties
thanks for setting the record straight i have alway been a straight male yet always faniced panties and just this month started to do so and feel great.
o have two female friends who have supported me in this for which i grateful
welcome Sandy, don't panties feel much nicer than tighty whiteys?
my ex-wife had a big hang up about it and made a point to tell everyone about it and the kids. But that doesn't even matter to them. I have a new wife and she has has no problem with it. It been apart of my life for a long time and still is.
i wear panties all the time i never wear mens underwear anymore. i started wearing when my wife gave me some of hers to wear. i got hooked on wearing them big time. i like the llacy type the best. they feel so soft to wear. if you have not tried wearing you do not what you missing.
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Why do we continue to deny ourselves? Of course we have a right to wear the underwear of our choice. If its a pretty lacy feminine pantie so be it. Thank God for the Internet, its obvious there are many guys who are doing exactly this..choosing to wear girlie underwear. Retailers know this best.
If we were as liberated as we think we are, men and women would be able to wear whatever they want whenever they want. But, alas, in this puritanical society that will probably never happen. Back in the 1960s, there was hope, but "respectability" prevailed. (Thanks for your gossipy yet insightful material.) Later, babe!
I have just started to wear womans panties. stockings after a long desire to...i love it...it makes me feel good...and has help me want to lose weight...which is happening...my pantie collection ranges
and i feel myself...yes im a straight male...just looking for a female
that would understand...
Women's panties are much more comfortable than boxers.
i have been wearing womens panties fot 40 years and loved every minute of it they make me feel fantastic i have every right to panties
But what if I got in a car accident and had to be hauled away unconscious in an ambulance? What would the EMS people think?!
as i said befor i have been wearing women panty for a very long time time .and i enjoy ever minit of my time. and i am not talking about manties i am talking about women panties they feel so good. panty man forever
I am a totally heterosexual male in my forties. I beagn liking panties beginning with my sisters thirty years ago. I now wear lingerie on a regular basis and my biggest bummer is finding accepting women.
No no …. And no! and this comes from a very open minded fellow.
Nice hubs!
Care to back that up with a coherent argument, Mr Open Minded? :D Because you know, panties are just pieces of clothing, they don't mean anything. And back in the day, men used to wear whatever they wanted, high heels were originally for men, as was lacy clothing. So I'd love to hear why you think you shouldn't be allowed to wear panties, whilst women can wear whatever they want. Also, what other freedoms would you rather not have?
There are freedoms and there are men in panties…… Still a big no no - it just doesn't add up. Heels as well by the way : )
Great hub though. How do you come up with these topics, lol …
So where's the line? Is satin okay in a men's boxer short? When does the boxer short become too short? What *is* a panty technically, and the same with heels.. most men's shoes have a wee bit of a heel, how much is too much? A quarter of an inch? A full inch? Answer me these riddles, young chap, and I shall answer yours ;)
LOL...I really don't care if a man or woman for that matter, chose to restrict their own clothing choices.
But under no circumstances do they have a constructive opinion as to what undergarment I shall wear.
So on that note, you go ahead with your tightie whities and I'll go ahead with my pink satin high cuts ...and never the two shall meet.
Inteligent and insightful
thank you again
Nothing wrong with an attractive man in some pretty lingerie. XD Been a 'fan' since before puberty (age 20 now.) Just a thought from a straight girl who loves beautiful things. And I know several other people who share my feelings, a mixture of all different sexualities at that.
Unfortunately, I've met a lot of people (especially men) who are afraid of this sort of thing coming off as feminine. Ha, I've talked to guy's who won't even buy a product if they think its marketed to women (how sad.) I don't think showing off a nice masculine body in "women's" clothes is feminine. If anything, it accentuates male beauty. (And it might not hurt to mention that such male beauty was traditionally honored throughout many cultures - part of my interest in Japan!)
Hi Jein Noir I like your thinking I just wish that all woman shared your opinion on men being in touch with their feminine side it sure would make the world a better place.
Ive worn panties since I was 16, my g/f got me into them, I see nothing wrong with it.
Yes we have the right! Why should we not, they are more comfortable than men’s underwear.
I know someone who said it's more comfortable.
Not only do we have the right, I do, and I wear the hi-cuts! Besides they are more comfortable than men’s. Hey LVM, please do tell!
hi hope i belive if a woman is allowed to wear whatever she likes to wear then a man should be allowed the same rights there is ment to be no sex discrimination in the world but when a man wants to wear female clothing in any form lots of people say no it is not right for a man to dress that way.
a woman can dress in any type of male clothing and be classed as a trendy dresser but if a man goes out in a nice dress and heals he either gets atacked or laughed at it is time we stood up for our rights as men and went out wearing whatever we wanted to.
regards paul
My wife likes it when i were panties. They feel good. And it much more fun to go to Vicky's to shop. Give it a try.
I get the impression SOME of us aren't even allowed to TALK about wearing panties.
It rather depends on what one is saying. TOS and all.
Hope, you are a God-send. Thank you for supporting us. Tomorrow, my wife will be filing for divorce. While I did confess about my crossdressing/transgender orientation early in our marriage, she did not know about it before the wedding date. I don't blame her for leaving, but it still hurts deeply. Aside from losing my wife, I have to deal with rejection and disapproval from family, "friends," church, and christian counselors (she outed me). This is all painful and surreal. Any advice?
Yes, as painful as this is for you right now, and I am truly sorry to her of how your marriage has turned out, you have saved yourself years of pain. A woman who leaves a man because he doesn't wear the right clothing is a blithering idiot with very infantile notions of love. You ARE better off without her. You will find love again, and if you are honest up front with the women you date, at an appropriate time in the relationship, you'll find a woman who loves you for who you are and not for who you are supposed to pretend to be. As for your church and christian counselors, ditch them and find people who support you. There are support groups out there and churches who accept and do not judge the transgendered. You have every right to find happiness on your own terms, so the best advice I can give is to tell your wife that you wish her well in finding what she seeks and go on your way. My bet is she will come to regret this decision, and my hope is that by the time she does you have found a woman worthy of your time and love.
Thank you for the encouragement, Hope. I just found your blog a few days ago, and I want to be a part of your community. Right now, this is the only real support network I have. Thank you for understanding us.
Try the hewearspanties.com/forum , there are many men there who have been in the same situation as you and can probably offer some advice. Hub Pages is just where I post many articles related to different things :)
I understand. Thank you for the link.
I think the answer to the question of whether men have a right to wear panties or anything else they wish to wear is obviously yes. The real issue is that yo shouldn't be in a relationship with someone who isn't willing to accept something that is an integral part of your identity.
I am a straight man who has been wearing panties off and on for 25 years. My Wife suspected but I finally let it all out and it did not go well. It was touch and go for a couple of weeks and we are at the point of don't ask, don't tell. I enjoy wearing panties and other lingerie, find it relaxing and enjoyable. I wish my wife was more understanding, it sure would make it easier.
Hope...
Thank you so much for all the insight. I have read several of your hubs where you discuss this subject matter and it has given me the confidence to go out and buy my first pair of panties and they are sooooooooo comfortable. I am neither gay nor a crossdresser in my mind. But now that i have tried and enjoy my cotton boycut panties all I need is the confidence to tell my wife and I will never go back to the boxerbriefs that i have been trapped in for so long. Thank You Hope!
I have a large collection of lingerie for both summer and winter. My panties are ll nylon lace trimmed inseveral color including pink. I hhave breifs for warm weather, and boxer length for winter along with camisoles and full length slips. I also have nylon, lace trimmed pant liners for winter. I have short nighties for summer and full length nighties for winter. My wife has no problem with me wearing lingerieand in fact goes with me when I buy it as well as sharing some of my nighties.
Dave F says:
2 years ago
Dear Hope,
You once again have hit the nail on the head. After reading your Hub, I told my girlfriend one night about my love of lingerie and our sex life has exploded. I don't have to dress all the time but not only have I bought some sexy things for me (thanks for the some of the links you provided) but I have also bought her quite a few things as well. When she is wearing them she feels soooo much sexier. I can honestly say I've never had a more satisfying relationship in my life. She can tell it turns me on and that turns her on and we just can't keep our hands or anything else for that matter, off of each other:) Keep spreading the word Hope!!