Men In Panties: Why I Like My Men In Lingerie
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Like To Wear Panties?
Visit the He Wears Panties site, a site for men who like to wear women's lingerie.
As a woman, I write a great deal about men who wear lingerie. To be honest, it has become rather a passion of mine over the past few years, but it wasn't always that way. This is the story of how I came upon this phenomenon of men who like to wear lingerie, and how I came to love a man who wore panties. In the beginning, I was introduced to men wearing lingerie by a wonderful man who hesitantly revealed his proclivity towards wearing lingerie after several dates.
I don't know if I would have responded so well on the first date, but by the time he told me I liked the guy, and I wanted to get to know him better. It didn't really seem like it would be that big of a deal if he wanted to wear lingerie, after all, we all have our little likes and dislikes, don't we? My biggest fear came about from hoping that I wouldn't laugh if he looked silly in it. After all, a big hairy man wearing a camisole, bra, and stretching out a pair of ladies panties in all the wrong places isn't exactly the image most women have of their boyfriend.
I'm not going to lie and say I fell in love with it the moment I saw it. I didn't. It looked odd, and yeah it was a tad strange. But then I got up the courage to touch him whilst he was wearing his lingerie, and oh dear lord. There is something about the feel of satin sliding over a hard muscled body that is just amazingly sensual. I won't be crude, but I will say that there was an added dimension to our love making that came both from the feel of the lingerie, and no doubt, also from the freedom he was allowed just to be himself. It might not be your ideal of a perfect mate to have a man who wears lingerie, but trying to shove men into boxes and make them live some role like walking Ken dolls isn't a healthy way to be, and believe me when I say he was all man between the sheets.
There is a common misconception that men who wear lingerie are somehow effeminate, or even gay. However, as the poll on the men in panties blog demonstrates, most men wear lingerie for the the feeling. They like the way that the satin and lace feel against their skin. Why shouldn't they? Lingerie does feel good. It feels sexy, and having two bodies clad in silky smooth material only adds to the fun.
It may not be your thing to have a man who wears lingerie, and that is fine. Just be aware that there are quite literally thousands of men who hide this side of themselves from their female partners because they fear losing them if it were revealed. You may already have a man who wears lingerie and not even know it.
I don't often get biblical, but I am reminded of a story in the bible where a man goes to a dinner party and omits to change his work clothes before going. He is turned away at the door because he is not dressed properly, so goes home, changes into his finest garments, and returns to the party. This time he is allowed in, and he sits down and promptly begins "feeding" his clothes, putting food in the pockets and talking to his clothes at the same time. His host and the other guests look at him as if he is mad of course, and eventually his host asks him what on earth he is doing. The man then replies "When I came in my old clothes, you wouldn't let me in, so I assume it is my clothes you have invited to your home, and not me."
It's the man under the panties that counts.
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so men do wear panties and you like them. but the question is-whats the psychology behind men wearing panties. why do they like it.
Art With Ashes - Thank you for sharing too! What a great story! One of the reasons why I write about this topic is that I have come across so many men who are scared to be themselves and express their desires. Seeing that there are women who won't mock them or leave them, but will embrace them is good for both men and women I think :)
Rudra- Good question Rudra, and there has been quite a bit written about that. You can visit the men in panties blog, or read my other related hubs which go into why men like to wear panties. I will probably write one specifically adressing your question at a later date. In the meantime, here is the short answer, as confirmed by years of experience, research, and talking to men who like to wear lingerie.
There are many reasons men like to wear panties, but it generally falls into one of the following categories:
Tactile - They like the sensation
Taboo - They enjoy doing something so naughty, and breaking a major taboo.
Feminization - They like to feel feminine
Any given man might wear lingerie for one or more of these reasons. There are also additional reasons, such as enjoying being forced to wear panties, but that's a whole 'nother ball game.
Very good posting, I liked that. I wear lingerie and my girlfriends have liked it a lot, and I agree with Hope - it is the tactile sensation, the feeling of being naughty too! And my partners who I shared this with loved the silky feel on me, it was about the first thing they commented on.
Very interesting article. The views into men wearing lingerie are very interesting. Most men won't admit to it, but deep down inside they all have a feminine side. Though the wearing of lingerie might not be a "feminine expression", but rather one of a "sexy feel", it's a sexy idea, and makes you wonder whats wrapped in that package!
I'm so glad you think that Hot Rocks, for me it is definitely a 'sexy feel', and of course as you say there is the suprise of what's in the silky lacy package too!
I must admit I like the taboo, tactile and feminization. Yes, speaking for myself I do feel feminine at times and like the fem look and feel of panties. Unfortunately men are not allowed to express these feelings with women. I am all man but wish I could enjoy that feminine side with my woman without being thought of as anything but a man.
I love to wear panties. My wife is understanding and very supportive of my lingerie wearing. All three of your reasons are very well suited in my panty wearing. My wife loves the look I guess and I love the feel. It makes for a evening of erotic and wild sex :)
I enjoy the feel of girly undies, and I admit the fact that another reason is that it is "naughty". My wife knows that I like to wear female undies and tolerated me wearing them in bed. When I added a bra she was quite cross. She said that it spoiled sex because it made her feel like a lesbian. I find it a huge turn on especially when she would caress the suspender straps and bra. She seems very reluctant to do this though. What harm am I doing? Why can't she just occasionally say: "Put your sexy undies on, I'm feeling randy....."
Well... now I'm curious about my guy. ;3
Not that it'd make him any less of a man, but I wonder if he'd be reluctant to tell me... hm.
Very good article. Hopefully it'll encourage all genders to accept their partners for who they are -- even if they don't perfectly fit in society's mold.
I agree Catawn - it's not really about what your partner is into, so much as being able to accept them for who they are. (Assuming it isn't something dangerous or illegal or harmful, of course.)
Gender-bending is fun because it can feel so good, and it is especially thrilling if what one is doing is hidden and secret--you feel sooo naughty and aroused, knowing that you've got a secret. So good for you for allowing the magic to happen. If the world is a stage, the least we can do is choose a portion of our costume.
Exactly! Have fun with it :)
Wow, this is untraditional and sounds so sexy in many ways. Despite my being old fashioned in many ways, gender roles are kind of out of date, and if a man wants to wear lingerie, let him! :D
Good hub. :)
Yikes! Maybe as a joke I might do such a thing, but only then. I just wouldn't feel comfortable wearing womans clothes. It is hard enough shopping for myself as a man. I can only imagine having to shop for two! lol
It definitely is non traditional, which is probably why it holds the naughty taboo it does... and thanks for the laugh Montagraph... women's clothing is most definitely much more complex to shop for than men's attire.
I don't know how you got any straight man into lingerie. That must of been an interesting conversation to bring up over dinner. "Baby will you wear panties tonight after dinner?" lol. But I guess you can just get a Victoria's Secret credit card and both go stock up. But a g-string on a man? I don't find that flattering...most have hairy butts. lol
I hate to be a stickler for superfluous things like detail, but if you read the Hub (I know, what a concept!) and perhaps any of the others associated with it, or even the comments above your own, you'll notice that there are a significant number of straight men who get into lingerie quite happily by themselves.
Also, it's probably worth noting that there are a great deal of men who would LOVE to hear their date ask them to wear panties later on. There was even an episode of Friends where Chandler ended up in women's underwear in a not dissimilar fashion, and I believe Joey also put on a pair of panties at one time or other.
The ones that have to be forced into lingerie sometimes enjoy it a little too much - but that's another (much more R Rated) topic.
Well, I can say one thing about Hub Pages: you never know quite what you're going to bump into! Interesting hub and comments.
well im new here , so hi to all, i like the feel of womans lingerei and my last girlfriend didnt nind me wearing stockings and panties , i still feel like a guy , but i admit i feel and look sexy in my satin lingerei and would like to meet another woman who would except it and know im quite as people put it ...normal... i have a lot to give with the right woman so im hopeful to find someone oneday emotionally and sexually
I told my wife 10 years ago about my passion for wearing womens underwear and it did not go down well at all.To this day we have never spoken about it and I feel trapped and alone. Any advice.
yours
a very lonely husband
Well, divorce comes to mind. Though that really is the last step, and I wouldn't reccomend it just because of the fact that you like to wear lingerie and she doesn't like it. It's more the fact that you feel trapped and alone. This goes beyond the boundaries of just wearing lingerie, and into the realm of relationship counselling, which I am imminently NOT qualified for.
Sounds like you have a communication problem though, and it probably extends to a lot of things. So it may be time for professional counselling anyway.
There's yet another option too, and that's just to wear the lingerie sometimes, regardless of what she thinks. Is life really so long that you have time to spend it miserable and denying yourself something so inherently innocent and harmless as wearing lingerie?
Then again, you evidently chose to marry this woman for some reason, and if we assume that reason was love, then as we all know, love isn't perfect. But love should be about coming to understand one another's imperfections.
There's so much amiss in this situation that it is quite impossible to offer any real advice, and I'd take what I have said with a pinch of salt. When it comes down to it, life is about choices. You could tell your wife that you feel trapped and alone, there is a chance she may feel the same way. Also, 10 years ago is a long time to have told someone something, her feelings may have mellowed and changed in that time, who knows.
At the end of the day, you're both human being with needs that probably aren't being met. What more could you do for her? Does she have any secret desires and fantasies? Could you help one another explore and live them?
Talking to your wife, not just about the lingerie, but about your mutual desires, dreams, and the things you feel you're both missing out on may be a step forward.
I just love wearing panties
For me (a guy who likes wearing them), it would be a cop out to say that I just like the feeling. Although my attractions run 98% toward the female gender, another part of me is thrilled by the idea of adopting a female role. In those fantasies, I guess I would most closely identify myself with a Lesbian, in that I fantasize about the experience being "all woman". Of course, that just can't happen, but anything that approaches it gets me excited.
That's part of the time. The rest of the time, I like feeling dominant over my woman, who shares all of my fantasies with me.
I guess I mean to say that it's somewhat complicated, but there's absolutely nothing wrong with it either. It's something that excites me, something that my wife can use to excite me, and also something that doesn't overwhelm or distract from other modes of expressing our affection for each other.
Being an inveterate crossdresser, panties and other delicates have been a big part of my life. They are an outward manifestation of my sex as it were. They also feel good and make me feel good.
Yes, it's strange but then, if you're not afflicted with a particular fetish, then it's difficult to explain and even harder to understand.
Ain't it great though that we're not all the same? It takes all kinds.
Wearing panties is a wonderful experience, and if your partner is into it, so much the better. I do believe men have to be a little selective about the cut of the lingerie, we need to leave room for our bits. I find stretchy material like Spandex and nylon blends to be most accomidating while an all lace pantie is probaly not going to work unless they put some stretch in it. And if you are going to wear lingerie, you should give serious consideratoin to shaving your body hair, it just adds the perfect touch.
im an extremely lucky guy that found a very supportive spouse,and have been wearing lingerie 24/7 for the last 21 years,one of our favorite things to do is going lingerie shopping,she never goes without new lingerie either!I feel its the cornerstone of our relationship,and a special bond I couldnt imagine sharing with anyone else,just our special secret,and of course my total obsesion. by the way we are totally heterosexual and have three kids,I feel sorry for the people who cant express this part of their life with another person!!!!
I wear bra (32A), girdle, panties and stockings on a daily basis, because t makes me feel good. At home, I am mainly into skirts.
Hugs
JA
Thats right Ladies totally straight men are sneakily wearing your panties and swim wear and nighties . Wake up and enjoy it while you can
It's always fun when I read incredulos men's comments which imply that any man who wears panties must be gay. For one, it is simply untrue, a fact which is born out by the evidence of the hundreds of men who read these articles, and for two, it assumes an overwhelming arrogance that gay men would want to pretend to be straight. This isn't the 1950's chaps, there are gay men all over the show, they don't need to pretend to be straight and then sneak into women's underwear drawers. They can purchase their own lingerie online.
I love 2 wear sexy silk lacey underwear on a regular basis, because it feels so good. 36D/DD bra thongs/french niks and stockings to
I LOVE WEARING PANTIES, AND ENJOY GOING TO VICTORIAS SECRET TO BUY NEW ONES KINDA HOKED ON THE SECOND SKIN SATIN COLLECTION, NEVER FELT SO GOOD AND IT EVEN CHANGES MY PERSONALITY.
I am now in my sisties. I began wearing panties and other lingerie when I was ten years old. I had a battle over tis with my mother but after many unsuccesful attempts she finally gave in to my desires. Since this time I have never worn a pair of men's underpants. I love the soft feel of panties rather than the somewhat rough feel of underpants. Even the fancy, designer stle underpants don't feel very good. At times I just wear simple, plain panties at other times I prefer something fancy. I am a psychologist and see nothing detrimental to men who chose panties over underpants. Please continue submitting comments since I do enjoy reading them.
I am straight and I love wearing panties, I use to wear them all the time 10 years ago and was wearing them when I met my wife and when we got marryed, but for some reason I got away from them for about 5 years when one day I woke up and wanted to wear them again so I found some online and started buying them again 24/7 nevered told her so she was a little surprised when they started showing up after about 2 month. I had a lot of them nevered asked or any thing just started buying, she found out the first day I wore them, so guys don't be ashamed just do it she'll either like it or not, it's your life.
Thank you for an interesting article.It's nice to know here are women who are trying to understand us.
I've worn panties 24/7 for approximately 5 years now. Being single, I have to buy my own.For me it's mainly about the feel and how I feel about myself wearing them. I feel calmer and more self confident.
I do enjoy wearing skirts from time to time not that I'm opposed to wearing shorts or trousers where that's more practical .
Regards
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ART WITH ASHES says:
6 months ago
Thank you for sharing. I have only had the experience once many years ago when my lover donned my black satin and lace teddy while I was out of the room. I came back to find him sprawled across the bed wearing it. That proved to be a tremendous turn-on and made for an evening even greater than I could have imagined. Maybe it was the lingerie of maybe just that he felt comfortable to freely express himself with me. I thought it was incredibly sexy. For me it is just a matter of letting my man know that I am comfortable with him. From there we are free to explore.