I've been a bad boy. I've been accused of pointing out the clouds more than the silver linings. I've been accused of being "such a penis". I've been accused of ruining the rest of my life because I can't get over what my ex-wife did when she divorced me. Finally, my one lady-friend has practically threatened to stop reading my hubs.

I don't care about my score in terms of advertising but I can't lose a reader. (Y'all know what I think about "e-bay whores.) After having 13 hubs flagged in one day and dropping from a score which fluctuated between 84 and 89 DROP to something in the 60s, (I cannot alienate any more readers . . . especially a reader willing to let me put her up on all fours and take her BUT, I digress . . . )

So rather than just slap y'all across the faces (or on your butts) with the reality of MY world I have decide to offer you other viewpoints. Last summer I had to write a review on a website that almost always discusses dating issues as they pertain to people over 29, people who have been around the block and/or people who are no longer kids who are finding themselves having to start all over again.

I've seen profile pics and read a few profiles. Y'all aren't all a bunch of spring chickens any more and a lot of you have more baggage than a cargo plane.

So for what it's worth, here is some information on a website you might wish to visit if you are separated, divorced, clueless about getting back into dating or just void of any sense of humor that would let you enjoy my other more original hubs

If you LIKE my (I've been told) "snarky" commentary don't worry. That's coming back real soon!  (No one silences the real me . . . even those who report me and flag my hubs.)

'Til then here are my notes on a website with less 'smart-assed' commentary.

"The world was on fire,
No one could save me but you.
Strange what desire will make foolish people do,
I never dreamed that I'd meet somebody like you,
And I never dreamed that I'd lose somebody like you. . ." -- Chris Isaak

Midlifemingle.com is a website about "connecting people" and "building relationships". Included here are "intimate" articles on dating tips, building healthy relationships online dating sites and more.

The latest "loving" posting concerns online dating: "firsts, maybes and the last". It addresses the issue of first meetings and provides "heart"felt helpful hints on behavior. Included here are notes on what to say, how to end a first (and last) date with someone and how to dress.

The "romantic" writer ends the article with suggestions about what NOT to

discuss on the first date and a reminder to not judge a book by its cover. So before you say "Hello" to "For The First Time" to a new man or "Lady" you might want to check out midlifemingle.com.

So there you have it. If you can't stomach my attitude on relationships or you don't like hearing the truth of living in a man's world you can always click open my next "snarky" hub--leave it open ALL night--and go to this site

where people are willing to at least pretend to be supportive. Let me know what you think.

I'll be here. Y'all know I've straightened out way too many women to actually be out on a date, right? The only hope some of us have is that there are a lot of hot, masochistic women out there with low self-esteem.  Some women have no sense of humor.

My name is Phoenix and . . . that's the bottom line.