Mistakes Men Make On Indian Dating Sites
71If I am a hot sexy aunty, looking for a man, where will I go but to one of the popular Indian dating sites? I want a sexy, powerful man who will make me feel like a goddess. I want to be romanced, seduced, swept away on a cloud of passion ... but when I come to an Indian dating site to find my perfect man, I am faced with crushing disappointment.
What are they thinking, these men? The things they write in their advertisements don't make me feel like an attractive, sexy, desirable, hot aunty. They don't make me feel like these men will worship me as though my body is a temple. Quite frankly, the way these personals are written, these men sound like sex-crazed animals with nothing to offer me.
And so, here I remain, the lonely sexy aunty with no lover to fill my life with ecstasy. It's sad, because I am sure some of these men would be ideal lovers, but I can't tell from their ads. The problem is that Indian men don't know how to seduce women.
Mistake #1 - Talking About Sex In The Ad
Now, if I am a lonely sexy aunty, of course I want sex. I want the pleasure of having a lover, absolutely. But I don't want just sex. I am a human being, not an animal on heat.
I only want sex from a man who adores and respects me - a man who makes me feel like a goddess, and who makes me feel that sex is his way of worshipping me.
A man who talks about sex in his advertisement does not sound respectful. He sounds, quite frankly, like someone who can't afford to buy a prostitute and is looking for a cheap alternative.
The guy who gets the hot sexy aunty knows much better things to talk about in his personal ad than the fact that he wants sex.
Mistake #2 - Sounding Desperate
"Women all ages", "just message me I promise you will not regret", "will travel wherever you are" - these are personal ads which send all the wrong messages!
I don't want some desperate guy who can't get a woman his own age in his own city, or one that has to plead frantically to get attention.
Remember that a personal advertisement is announcing something desirable and valuable that is temporarily available - you. It is not announcing a liquidation sale for all comers!
Your personal ad needs to take the right tone, a quality tone, if you want to be the guy who attracts the hot sexy aunty to respond to your personal ad.
Mistake #3 - Having Nothing To Offer
Too many men put nothing at all in their personals except that they are available for sex - and secrecy is guaranteed.
If I am a hot sexy aunty, no matter how much I may want to take a lover, I need to believe that he has more to offer me than just his man parts. I want to feel that he values my mind as much as my body. I want to believe that we will have things in common, that we will be able to talk, and have a real relationship.
To be the guy who gets this hot sexy aunty, you will have to offer me something more than just sex. Remember, I am not just any aunty. I am a hot, sexy, attractive, desirable aunty, and I can get sex anywhere. You need to convince me that I want it from you. Without making mistake number 1 in the process.
A woman's mind, as you may have noticed, is nothing like a man's. The obvious things that men try to seduce hot sexy aunties are doomed to fail, because they don't take into account the workings of the female mind.
If you want to be the guy who gets the hot sexy aunty, you simply must learn how to seduce women.
I am waiting ...
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Thanks, Maylinda. I was born in the US, but I have a fair bit of contact with India, and I have found the explosion of desperate Indian man onto the internet just fascinating.
I think the whole transition from arranged marriage to more Western-style expectations has caught Indian men off guard, because of course, where are they to learn the art of seduction? Not from older men, that's for sure - they never needed it in previous generations, LOL.
Yeah. Plus woman's lib hasn't been much of a movement here. I mean, you have your social workers, and the women in urban areas are pretty empowered, but a lot of men are still very chauvinistic, not having learnt any better, and they dont think 'hey babe u so sexyyyyy' is offensive. Or that, I could, you know, say %^&* off and there's nothing they can do about it.
Indeed - even living in the West, Indian men are often quite chauvanistic. I actually witnessed a man step on his daughter's foot (she was about 8 or 9), and totally ignore her cries, move off it very slowly, and not look at her or apologise.
Two decades of that sort of treatment is no preparation for women to be assertive and confident in relationships!
It also depends on where the men are from, of course. Though I have not witnessed any violence or ill-treatment by men towards their daughters, in the less urban areas of North India, there's still quite a preference for sons over daughters. But The men who do have daughters are generally nice to them. It's daughters in law who get treated very badly. Though the dowry system is illegal here as of now, people still follow it, bacause they're stupid and selfish, I suppose. Although there are equal opportunities for women in most fields and women in general are succeeding in India, it's just that most men don't know how to treat woman at all, and haven't been taught not to molest or stare. I'm talking about the rural areas, of course, or the sort of people who have just emigrated to the urban areas and are pretty uneducated, Life for women like me, who are urban and educated, is pretty decent. I don't want to put out the misconception that the whole of India is inhabited by chauvinists and morons. It's just a certain class of people, who are semi urban, not too well educated, and exposed to sexual freedom. Like they say, partial knowlege is more dangerous than ignorance!
Is aunty a cultural term? I am so ethnocentric :( But this is a great hub, and a really interesting topic. I guess Indian dating sites are rather different than others?
Well, Indians were colonized by the British, so we became English speakers, but we modified it to suit our means (much like the Americans, huh ;)) So coloquially, in India, Aunty is what younger people call older, generally married women. Basically, unlike in other countries, where calling people who are significantly older than you by their first names is quite all right (one's in-laws, for example), in India, we brand anybody who is twenty-five or more years older Uncle or Aunty. People younger than that but still older than us will be branded Didi (older sister) or Bhaiya (older brother). Traditionally, it's considered disrespectful to call people who are older than you by their first names. Of course, a lot of this is changing in urban areas. Especially the Didi-Bhaiya bit. But the Uncle-Aunty thing is still very common.
It's sort of equivalent to the American "MILF", if you have come across that one, glassvisage.
"Indeed - even living in the West, Indian men are often quite chauvanistic. I actually witnessed a man step on his daughter's foot (she was about 8 or 9), and totally ignore her cries, move off it very slowly, and not look at her or apologise."
Similar in Latin America. No wonder some of the women here deal with so much BS from men, they are used to it from their own dad. And what cracks me up is when some of my friends here ask me for advice on how to get with an American girl.
Maybe you should write the same article in Spanish, I will pass it out like a stack of flyers.
LOL, firetown, unfortunately HubPages only allows writing in English. And I am guessing that "aunty" wouldn't be quite the term in Spanish, either?
Dear women !
men are men, anywhere in this world.
whatever the comments you are making about men in India, speaks the misunderstanding of a man in India. or wherever in this world.
starvation for sex or love is happening because, 'men need something from women and women need something from men'.
and both needs sex and love. but the understanding between both differs a lot,
IGNORANCE MAKES THE CONFUSION, so please do not make statements blindly, if you haven't found a perfect male. if you are a perfect female !
good luck. I hope god may find a perfect match for you in INDIA.
Thanking you,
VINAY
vinay3d@gmail.comAn impassioned plea, indeed, Vinay3d. I hope you find what you are looking for!
sure jenifer
u made it clear
That was a great hub. whoever the man that you end up with is lucky, you are very well spoken , intelligent and very beautiful.
Awww, torino70, you'll make me blush!
Thanks. :)
Hi Jennifer,
I just found your posting and I find your conversations very interesting...very clear and concise advice for anyone looking for a richer relationship than just a hook-up. Please continue with additional insights since this is all new to me and I am looking for the "Beautiful Relationship".
Oh, the camera absolutely adores you!
That was an interesting read, dunno how I came across it!! Where are you from?? You dont look Indian!
I have lived in a number of different places, Magnus, and my family heritage is a melting-pot of several European ancestors, Northern and Southern, as well as Indian and Persian, blended in the good ol' US of A.
The use of words aunty again and again is really silly.. what does the word aunty imply, may i know?? If its meant for women of a certain age, cant they be called women too? And doesn't the post hold true for all other girls?
Shalini, you would need to put this question to all the men who advertise that they are looking for a "sexy hot aunty" .... :)
some modern Indian erotica for you to read
Hi sexy aunty- u sex with me
Thanks for demonstrating my point, harry - now read the article and maybe you will learn something.
Sheesh. The things we have to put up with.
Hey real cool & informative.
Hi do want to go on date with me..
Hi Sumit, well, that's a much nicer opening line than harry's, I have to say.
Why don't you try it out on a girl who actually lives in your city ... ;)
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JUST COME TO ME TO GET YOUR DESIRES FULFILLED AND ALL YOUR DREAMS COME TRUE.THEY CALL ME THE GOD OF SATISFACTION
hi evryone i m rahul 25 yrs male seeking gls $ women for free fun in delhi (india)
Sometimes I wonder if any of them actually READ what I wrote. *eyeroll*
I just came across this. Hate to jump in so late, liked the rant and all, and unfortunately I am not Indian so I have no real world experience, only observation. But I did want to point out one thing. "I am a human being, not an animal on heat." should read "I am a human being, not an animal IN heat." To be "on heat" would mean the animal is to be dinner. Or at least a filling lunch.
I would also suggest that when many immigrants come to the U.S. and set up their little enclaves, to maintain their "identity" and "culture" it seems often to keep their women subjugated, and in obeisance. I have asked questions of both Indian and Middle-Eastern women regarding why they tolerate this or that, and the answer is often "because he's my husband" or something similar. That's what abused American wives say, too, go figure. Breaking free of such shackled thoughts...I shudder to think about that travesty inflicted on such beautiful, charismatic and passionate women. What a waste of all that feminine mystique.
I want fuc with you.
hey very right said... i liked ur article very much.. it`s a 200% true fact
Hi Jennifer,Thats very interesting to read your blog!Real picture and mindset of typical indian men.Great....!
iam rahul and want afrind
my love
hay babe how r u
hi
i agree with the girls on this one. I am not gonna argue with you on this one cuz there is no point and also what you say is right. actually not only the guys even the girls in india are bit weired. when you seduce them either they think we are trying to get laid off or they react like its a taboo. they just dont get the term of simple harmless romance.
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Maylinda Arons says:
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hahahahah.... repeating the words 'hot sexy aunty' just makes everything about this hub funny. The thing is, on Indian dating sites, I'm pretty sure men are just looking for something with a vagina, be it hot, sexy, or belonging to an Aunty. hahahah. Aunty. hahahah. Honestly, the ridiculousness. I love your hub. Are you Indian, or do you just know a lot about the sudden rise in free speech the Internet has brought Indians, who are otherwise a pretty repressed society? (other places where one can speak freely: Walls of ancient monuments. Anybody would scratch their names into them, but only the MOST moronic ones would scratch their phone number and write SEX in big, bouncy letters on the side).
Anyway. Good work. I am now a fan :)