Mistress Confessions Part II

So, you couldn't find a way or simply didn't want to "let go" of him? You made a choice that is unacceptable in many circles, and now you are searching for a way to live with that decision.

Once you've gotten someone "in your blood", it doesn't make a damn bit of difference what your marital status is or theirs, because one or both of you have been so moved by what you feel that you can't help but to be a part of each other's lives...indefinitely.

So, are you frustrated or just curious? Either way, whether you are the "other woman" or simply trying to maintain one - neither is very easy to do. Let me begin by telling you what you probably already know about me, yourself, and just about every other woman in the world. At some point in our lives, we have all wanted to be that fairy tale princess we grew up hearing so much about.

We often spend hours daydreaming about meeting a handsome prince (or princess depending on your preference), and after embarking upon some great misadventure, the object of our affection falls madly in love with us before we ride off into the sunset.

But here's the clinker: In real life - the prince is married!

And some of us (you) want him anyway!

People have often asked me if my opinions have been gleaned from personal experience. The answer is of course is - "yes" and "no". But what I am willing to confess is that over the last fifteen years or so, I have been approached by both men and women for what I have always considered to be "practical advice" on how to manage certain dilemmas in one's personal relationships.

There is a point in each of our lives, when we believe that any and all things are possible - if only we believe that it can be so.

And yet, very few of us have really experienced enough of this thing called "life" in an unabashed and honest manner to accurately define our own personal social and or ethical boundaries.

I believe that this is because we often spend too much of our time trying to do and act in whatever fashion that we think is expected from us by society. The unfortunate truth about this faux pas is that the social mores by which we are gauging ourselves, are ones which were created and practiced in the nineteen forties and fifties!

In other words, many of us have yet to decide what it is that we really want for ourselves and exactly what kind of behavior we are willing to allow others to bestow upon us and how much of their experiences we will ultimately take on as our own "emotional baggage".

Over the years, I have had the privilege of making the acquaintance of more than one respectable mistress, as well as a number of men who have "kept" or "keep" them. Conversely, I have also had quite a few enlightening conversations with several wives who happened to know full well what both the men and their mistresses were up to!

After listening to these and other women talk about the things that they "think" they want for themselves and their relationships. I stood by helplessly and watched them go about trying to achieve their "goals" in some of the most asinine and dishonest ways imaginable!

Therefore, it is my sincere hope that this series will serve to strip away some of the misconceptions and illusions that both sexes have about each other and themselves. I will attempt to remove some of the archaic moralistic beliefs and "damned be thee to hell" judgments that many writings of this nature tend to reflect.

I do not claim for an instant to know you or your situation, and although I may have had similar experiences, I don't remember God or any other divine or "Supreme Being" placing me in a position to judge you or anyone else. I only know that love can be a difficult thing at times and it is extremely hard to see beyond one's own pain and confusion whenever the heart is involved.

My own personal journeys have allowed me to encounter various types of people, some of whom were openly involved in unconventional relationships. And although some of the scenarios that you will find come from personal experience, most are the results of reflection upon the experiences of those whose pain and confusion I have encountered over the years.

Our Western society can be very quick to defer us to marriage or relationship counselors, psychics and psychiatrists. These professionals do have something to offer in the way of guidance to those who can afford their services.

But even these fortunate souls will often leave these hallowed offices feeling as though there were something irrevocably and sinfully amiss in their lives. I for one do not adhere to that particular school of thought. We live and we love. Period. I do not believe that a person can truly choose whom they will love in their lifetime any more than they chose to be born into this world in the first place.

We continually go through different stages in our lives and subsequently in our loving of others throughout the course of that life. Inevitably there will be times when a little something extra is needed for us to hold onto while groping to get to the other side of any given situation or ordeal.

No one can say for certain what lies on the "other side" of your circumstance, but I do strive to at least distract you from your pain long enough for the initial wounds to heal, so that you may perhaps begin to build yourself a bridge.

Remember: There is no magic or divine wisdom involved in what is expressed in this diatribe...only common sense!