Mistress Confessions Part V: The Mistress In the Mirror

This series is not about judgment. I will leave that particular aspect to your own conscience, spiritual beliefs and to whomever you make the mistake of confiding in about your affair. if and when you try and talk to them about this, you may find that you have fewer "friends" than you thought you did, .

And yes, it is an affair - get familiar with the word now - because you are going to see and hear it quite often. I have no intention of watering things down for you by referring to your situation as it appears in the dictionary:

love affair: a romantic attachment or episode between lovers

I will give you the benefit of the doubt by assuming that you are or at the very least you believe that you are in love.

But before you get your feathers in a ruffle, please understand my purpose here is to get you to honestly look at every aspect of your particular situation and see it for what it is at the moment - all that you hope for it to become - and eventually the reality of what it is ultimately destined to be.

The first question that you should ask yourself in this process has already been posed for you in the definition above:

How long has your "relationship" been going on? Six months? A year? Ten years? Or perhaps even twenty or more? If your answer is a year or less - chances are that you are involved in a "fling".

fling: an informal/brief attempt or effort

Don't be insulted - (when one is having an affair - that can happen all too easily).

Just take a step back from the situation for a moment and look at where you stand with it emotionally. Think about how you really feel about the person that you are involved with and how much you are willing to sacrifice in order to continue to be with them.

Does the thought of being with someone who is taken and living on the verge of getting caught excite you? What is it that attracts you to him other than the fact that they "belong" to someone else? Or is that also part of the attraction? Can you say for sure that you are not with them solely for the sake of being involved in a "forbidden" relationship?

Don't panic and don't get defiant - just take a step back - take a look and be honest with yourself. Understand that having an affair - is a big responsibility.

It requires diplomacy, tact, and a whole lot of patience and if you don't have it, then I suggest that you develop a little bit of the first two and a butt-load of the last.

Because if you have chosen have an affair then you had better be damned sure about what you are doing and remain constantly aware of how you go about doing it.

Remember: In every affair there are always others to consider.