How to Get Your Girlfriend Back!

We all know that relationships are very tricky at the best of times. One of the hardest parts of a relationship is the end - the break-up.

But a break-up doesn't always have to signal the end; sometimes it is just an obstacle to overcome. If you are going to surmount this problem, you'll need to take a little time and give things some thought - some sober, realistic, practical thought - and you'll need to be prepared to see the other person's side - maybe for the very first time...?

The first thing to do is to stop. Stop doing anything. Prepare yourself to go through a few very different stages. Firstly, your natural reaction will probably be to try to convince yourself that your life is going to be so much better without your girlfriend; from now on you can play the field, go out with your mates more, watch sports on tv all weekend and leave your underwear on the living room floor. Now you can eat junk all day long and work on that beer gut you've been building up to for such a long time....!

Next, you'll probably have an almost irresistible urge to get straight out there and find a new, improved girlfriend! Don't!!!! This would be a big mistake. If your girlfriend is really gone out of your life forever then you will need time to 'mourn' the loss of the relationship. Experts estimate that this will take one month for each year of the relationship (or one week for each month.....). Be kind to yourself and don't do anything out of character which you might later regret.

Take some advice from the professionals, The Magic of Making Up will give you more than a few useful pointers and strategies that you never could have come up with yourself. Honest strategies.. The idea is not to pull the wool over her eyes or trick her in some way. The idea is to show her what a wonderful man you are and to show her that you can live up to her expectations if only she will give you a second chance. And MEAN IT! Remember, you love this woman, she is not your prey!!

Today we are focussing on love that is not lost but just temporarily mislaid so let's move on and see how we can re-float that (Love) boat...

If you've decided that your life is a desolate wasteland without your beautiful, witty, intelligent, caring, wonderful lady (remember, absence makes the heart grow fonder), then now is the time for action. Let the smoke of battle fade away a little but strike while the iron is hot (and don't mix your metaphors - girls don't like that :-) )

The first step is what is commonly known as 'Soul Searching'. This may be a new and alien experience and is something which can take a little time to master. The secret is to look at yourself, firstly from the outside and then, little by little, work your way inwards, being honest at every stage about your motivations, real desires, ulterior motives and future goals. It sounds hard to do and, done properly, should not be easy. But, if you can be honest at this point, it will pay dividends, believe me.

See yourself in her eyes. When you split up, what were her parting words and explanations? Maybe you weren't so receptive at the time, but can you remember the gist of it? Better still, can you remember specific examples of your unacceptable behaviour. These are the things you must place at the forefront of your mind. These are the things you must change. Once again, if you are honest, you shouldn't have to wrack your brain for too long as women are famously better at expressing their emotions than men. If you've never listened to her before, now is definitely the time to sit up and take notice!

Next, you'll need to use your new self-awareness to work out your 'plan of attack'. If you want to go ahead and try to win her back, it may well be an uphill struggle. Be prepared for the 'long game' and, perhaps most importantly, give her time and space. You can't go at things like a bull in a china shop or she will run (another) mile.

Take things easy, the object of the exercise is to remind her why she fell for you in the first place. The object of the exercise is also a new sincerity. Those qualities and possibilities which she cherished not such a long time ago are still there and now you need to polish them up and present them to her as a viable option for the future. Take it little by little, no pressure. A friendly text each day but only one until you get a response - otherwise you have become what is known as a 'Stalker' and no-one feels good about a stalker, do they? Visit The Magic of Making Up and learn from an expert the best way to approach your ex to achieve your ultimate goal - long-lasting reconciliation.

Lastly, good luck! You will almost certainly need a modicum of good fortune along the way. And when you are successful in regaining your lost love - learn to appreciate her more and create an equal partnership where you can both grow and benefit. It's been nice that you dropped by today but I hope I won't see you again - you'll be too busy romancing your special girl!