My 16 year old daughters want to have sex. What do I do?
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The question that was submitted is:
My 16 year old daughter wants to have sex. What do I do?
I'd like to tackle this from a father's perspective. First, I think it's important for fathers to educate their daughters about sex. None of my female friends ever discussed sex with their fathers that I know of, but they did discuss it with their mothers. I hope the ideas in this Hub will help fathers discuss sex with their daughters.
My thoughts on sex for adults. I believe sex should be embraced and celebrated in healthy monogamous relationships. I also personally believe that our daughters attitudes toward sex and relationships are heavily influenced by the relationships they witness. For example, I think it's a good idea to kiss and hug your wife in front of the kids. To show them how loving people treat and respect each other.
I'd also say that it would be a huge mistake if you were one day surprised to find out that your child was thinking about having sex, but you had never talked about it. The best way to avoid this is to start talking about it as early as possible. I'd start talking openly about sex with a kid that is about 10 years old (depending on the maturity level of the kid). This may seem young, but I think establishing a comfortable dialogue about sex early is important. I think sex should be a regular topic of discussion in a family, especially if you think a child is near engaging in sexual activity.
I'm a big believer that education is the best prevention. With 3 out of 10 girls getting pregnant before the age of 20, parents need to get over their own personal issues with discussing sex and educate our daughters and sons.
Since I like to be positive, I'd explain what an appropriate relationship is for a 16 year old. While this is a bit awkward, I'd say that kissing, and mutually comfortable explorational touching is a good thing and appropriate. But. Sexual intercourse is not appropriate for a 16 year old. As my father told us, "There's a time for sex and it's not in high school." I can still hear him saying that today, and I'm sure I'll borrow it with my daughters. As parents, the challenge is to raise confident and courageous women that make healthy decisions for their bodies.
While I'm not educated on the potential psychological impacts of teenage sex, I do have an opinion on the risks. Pregnancy and STDs present a risk that far outweighs the rewards. This alone is worth encouraging our daughters to wait to have sex until they are an appropriate age and in a healthy relationship.
Sex Education from the 50s
Sex Education for the 50s part 2
What do we do when our teenagers say they want to have sex?
We educate them about birth control, STDs, and the benefits of abstinence. And. We talk to them openly and frequently. However, my opinion is, this isn't something we can dictate. With nearly 47% of high school students reporting they have had sex, there's a good chance your teenager is or will be sexually active in high school.
If we discover that our kids have gone against our advice and become sexually active, we must continue to educate them, but we don't have to support the behavior. I think it's fair to disapprove of a teenager engaging in sex and to continue to teach them about what an age appropriate behavior is for a 16 year old.
Teenagers make mistakes, and one of the biggest dangers for teenagers is their inability to make decisions that are in their best interest. Peer pressure, desire to fit in, and curiosity all play a part, plus, I've read that teenagers feel the power of love at a level that is many times that of adults. This exceptionally powerful force is no match for a parent's guidance in many instances. I've had all sorts of experienced fathers offer me advice as my beautiful daughters grow up. Like get a shotgun and offer the young man a cocktail to see what he does (I'm not sure what this test accomplishes). I think I'll ignore both of these.
If our teenage daughter does become sexually active, here are a few things I wouldn't do.
- Put her on the pill so they don't have to use condoms. I think the STD risks are too great.
- Condone sex in our house.
I've never understood the reasoning of if they are going to have sex, I don't want them to have sex in the back of a car or go sneaking around. Teen sex isn't OK. It should be counseled against and not supported in any way by parents. At the same time, continue to educate and love them.
If my kids are like me, they'll do somethings well and make plenty of mistakes along the way. Some can be corrected, other's are more difficult to undo. But, we should always keep teaching and keep loving them. As the John Mayer song says:
Fathers, be good to your daughters
Daughters will love like you do
Girls become lovers who turn into mothers
So mothers, be good to your daughters too
Good luck with this one. I know it can be difficult.
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I'm surprised only 47% of high schoolers have had sex. I would have thought the percentage would be higher. But, I guarantee you that 90% of high schoolers weren't educated at home about sex like I did with my children.
I started talking to my children at 4-5 years old about how God made them special and how important they are. Then at about 7-8 we started talking about how boys and girls are different. By 10-11, as you suggested, we felt it was appropriate to discuss sex, birth control, and STD's.
Throughout all their teen years, we promoted abstinence as the only good option. It's a whole lot easier for my wife and I to go down that road with our children since we both had remained pure and saved ourselves for each other.
I reminded them, continuously, that there's only one first time. Why not make it a wedding gift for your lifetime mate?
To my knowledge, they've all remained pure. If I'm wrong, I don't want to know.
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Interesting Hub. It's my first visit to hubpages and of course I landed on the subject of teens and sex. I had my daughter when I was 14 and am now 56. What a crazy deal that was, as you can imagine. In 1967 it was not cool to be pregnant at 14. Anyway, good article. Keep up the good work.
Sonni
Take your daughter seriously - If you are lucky enough to know, you'll be lucky enough to have an impact on her decision making. Schedule an appointment to get her into Planned Parenthood. Ask them to talk to her about STD's and responsibility. Trust me - they will make a compelling case for taking safe sex seriously. That is a message you want her to get loud and clear whether she has sex now or later. If at the end of that appointment she walks out with BC then so be it. However, they are trained professionals regarding sex education. They can do it, taking the emotion out of it. Just the facts, and the facts alone are pretty compelling when it comes to a topic like teen sex.
I think it's great advice to take her to planned parenthood. Planned Parenthood has an excellent website that's great resource.
This is a real alarming question.
I once worked with a man that said he told his daughters on a regular basis "one day when you grow up, some man is going to be lucky to have you." He explained that if I do not tell them that, they will look for someone who will. Knowing a boy will say anything to a girl to have a sexual relationship.
I think its great for a father to have open discussions about sex with thier daughters. Open communication may have a huge impact on decision making and may prevent future heartache.
I wish I would have had that communcation and understanding with my father at 16.
I would say age ten is a decent guideline, but certainly not a firm one. Kids find out about sex pretty early these days. We've always maintained the "if they can come up with the question, they deserve the answer" rule, regardless of age... and we've encouraged asking. And if you start early, talking to them about sex later, when the conversations become more... biological and/or just plain lust-centered... you're still on familiar ground and you have a practiced ease in which to cover the new territory. This totally includes father/daughter. Hell, I've been teaching my daughter every trick in the book I can think of as far as what guys will say and do, the lengths they will go. Hopefully she'll be prepared to spot BS when it comes. Being a teen is tough enough to do without having to go about it ignorant and without your parents supporting you. So, I totally agree, talk to them. Talk them often and talk to them soon.
When my 13 year old asked me if I had ever "French Kissed", I knew it was high time to have an engaged discussion of the facts. Prior to that he demonstrated no desire to know. He now likes to skirt the issue ( no pun intended)
I think this hub has some really good advice. It is so important that a girl feel like she can talk to her parents about these issues. I also think it is important to expose teen girls to cultural sources (magazines, books, etc.) that encourage them to be self confident and independant minded (so they will not give in to peer pressure and do something before they are ready for it.) I know when I was a teenage girl, I often responded better to something if it came from a source other then my parents!
As an outside objective viewpoint, i'm going to side with your daughter :) Let me preface this entire comment by saying that i've read all the commentary and agree with the approach completely...BUT here's the deal.
I WAS a totally well educated, well communicated, teen that had a perfectly normal and healthy relationship with both of my parents. I perhaps was a tad on the responsible side of teenagerdom - on honor roll, captain of the track team, worked a steady part time job...and then i met my high school boyfriend.
I did not spiral into any odd form of rebellion, didn't shun my parental units, and didn't want to feel like i was letting anyone down, but after what i think was about 8 months? I did, infact, want to have sex at some point prior to my 17th birthday. You should be happy that you have the type of relationship with your daughter that you are privy to this information - even via someone else. Once i made up my mind - and that took some internal discussing! - i was really comfortable with my decision. Granted, i had a really REALLY model citizen boyfriend...we ended up staying together all the way through our sophomore year in college and had a sad realization that at some point we had both grown up and wanted totally different things in life. Which should be another blog...
HOWEVER, teen pregnancy is a major issue, teen sex is as well;but if your daughter is responsible enough to be seeking advice on the topic she is responsible enough to practice safe sex.
I am now the proud mother of a 16 month old baby girl (I'm 27 - so not a case of teen pregnancy!lol) and although ive got a lot of time to mull over the topic I think that it won't be that hard. Sex is a personal decision that you have to comfortable with on your own timeframe. I personally believe that your sexual relationships with other have a lot to do with how you view yourself and what type of self respect has been instilled in you. Give yourself a pat on the back for being a concerned parent, and do the TOUGH right thing dad by letting her know how special she is and that you TRUST her to be RESPONSIBLE with her life.
I just had this conversation with my 16 year old daughter - It was difficult - but I explained that while I wanted her not to have sex yet, because it would not be that much fun, she had to take responsibility for every protection if she did have sex. I also told her that I would take her to the doctor and get her protection and drug store for condoms because if she had sex I did not want it to destroy her life or kill her.
Good post.
I personally was told, "If you are going to have sex, wrap it up. But just try to keep it in your pants until you are an adult." Wise words from a wise mother. Sex education classes taught me about the diseases and pregnancy. These have made me a wiser person.
You know a good friend of mine and I were discussing parenting recently. Her kids are 21 and 28, mine are still little so I try to steal knowledge from anyone who's been successful at this whole thing. Her advise for dealing with teenagers during those sexually charged, hormonal years was really, really simple. Be involved, know who they're with and always keep the communication open. Her boys weren't even allowed to date until they were 16 and were never allowed to be home alone with girls.
so much is lost when you take that step into sexual exploration. I think your completely right for not doing the whole birth control thing-to a point. And for definitely not allowing this stuff to take place in your house.
I guess really all you can do is be more dilligent. Try some other things to keep her distracted. Remember idle hands are the devils play ground. I'm sure you've heard that one before. So why not after school sports, or playing an instrument.
Good luck to you!
~It all makes sense until it doesn't
As a long time educator, youth worker, and father of 6 (now grown) daughters, I have some thoughts on this, but not enough time to lay them out here. Actually, I intend to do some hubs on helping children and teens be comfortable with themselves, take control of their lives, and achieve success. It may take awhile for me to accomplish that.
For now, I will just make a few points. First is the importance of a father in a daughter's life. I like to say that a father casts a long shadow. I am sure it is true with boys also, but their is something very special about father-daughter relationships.
Also, the value of parents showing genuine love for each other, as you mentioned, is very valuable for girls and boys. This means doing loving things such as a father helping mom around the house, speaking lovingly to each other, and showing the types of affection that you mentioned.
Children can begin to learn about sex at any age. It should be as natural as learning about anything else. Doesn't it seem strange that we talk about and even make songs about knees and elbows, toes, ears, etc., but we act as if the penis or vulva, etc. don't even exist? Well, if your children are in typical public schools in California, they will get sex ed in 4th, 5th, 6th, 7th, 8th, and 9th grades. Most students in 4th grade are 9 years old. You need to get started (and also learn what the schools are telling them) if you want them to get a wholesome understanding.
Enough for now. Just don't leave it all to chance.
@John Thank you for the comment. Six Daughters. Wow. I'm looking forward to reading your Hubs. Good reference point on sex ed starting in the 4th grade. Like teaching your kids to read before kindergarten, it's a good idea to educate them on sex before it's taught in schools.
I'm so impressed that a father like you thinks like a mother. I am not a biological mother but I do a lot of mothering so when I read your hub I felt it was me talking.
Thank, Paul, for your hub. It's something I will use as a reference in talking with my nephews and nieces.
franciaonline
Talking to your children about sex is good idea but easier said than done. I don't recall either of my parents ever mentioning the subject. They did buy me a book entitled "A Boy Grows Up," as I recall when I was 12 or so and already was familiar with everything in it.
Another positive step for parents is to take an interest in the policies of their school district and support comprehensive sex education. My high school started a program in the 1950s which covered everything, and I mean everything!--sexual biology and psychology, contraception, STDs, heterosexuality and homosexuality and other widely diverse varieties of sexual behavior, prostitution, masturbation and just about anything else you could think of. We had lectures, reading assignments, movies and group oral reports. I don't recall that abstinence was mentioned. I do recall that the course conveyed the idea that sex is a quite serious undertaking which can lead to a variety of consequences, one that ideally should be more than a purely physical act, one that is an expression of love and commitment. There was'nt a single pregnancy at my high school during my four years. (Of course, there was little or no sex, either!) Looking backward, that course probably benefited me more than nearly any other. Wood and metal shop were a close second.
Great topic. I appreciate it and it's not an easy one to talk about. Thank you for doing it.
If your daughter has still a mother, the mother should see to it that she manage to give extra advice what would happen if she involve herself in sex at a very young age. The mother-daughter relationship is very effective in this type of problem.
I feel like I didn't even get that good of an education about sex in school! The most I remember involves a condom and a banana...
That was the exact I age I started having sex. My parents never talked about it with me. Everything I learned about STDs, pregnancy prevention, and the reproductive system I was taught in "health" class or learned through reading books. Consequently, I always used a condom, never caught anything, never got pregnant or put myself in an unsafe situation.
We have a huge responsibility to educate our sons also - they are often the ones who encourage the girl to have sex. Help our daughters to have the self-confidence and self-esteem to say no, or indeed yes if they feel the time is right for them; help our sons to have the understanding of the consequences - both physical and mental - for the girl if they decide to have unprotected sex.
To avoid the conversations with either boy or girl in our care is to set in motion a ticking bomb. There is no reason we cannot be open about sex - sure everyone is embarassed, but ultimately you create and environment where they feel they can come and discuss it with you before the event.
Wow, some excellent comments on here, guys. I think there's something that I'd like to add. While you say that the risk of STD's is too grave to consider the option of birth control, (the pill,) I'd like to point out that if it's possible to find a pill that works well with your daughters emotional and physical make-up... <sigh> I strongly recommend it. I'm much more terrified of my daughter getting pregnant at that age than getting an STD. I think the best bet for parents is to discuss using <more than one> form of birth control. If they're starting sex young there is a pretty good chance that there will be condom slip-ups. Hell a condom busts on us adults every once in awhile & we've years of practice with them. I'm not condoning condom-less sex here, by ANY means. I'm sure you realize how lucky you are that your kids feel they can talk to you about this but I think parents need to discuss the option of using more than one form of birth control. Condoms first, the pill, the sponge, spermicides, (other than what is in the condom,) second.
Being that sex is natural, I think at 16 your daughter's curiosity is natural. Is there a woman your daughter is close to and trust? I'd ask her to talk with your daughter about sex if you never have before. My dad raised five of us as a single parent and I'd much rather talk about sex with my aunt or grandmother than my dad. But there were times I'd ask him a question about men in general and he was open which I appreciated.
I think the example you set in how you treat your daughter's mother will speak volumes. If your daughter ask you questions, I'd be open and answer. But as a woman who grew up in a home raised by a single parent-father, I preferred to talk with a woman about sex versus my dad.
If you're married, I'd have the talk with your wife, daughter and other siblings if you have other children. That way your daughter won't feel singled out. I'd be open and build trust in all areas of communication so your daughter feels comfortable coming to you or her mom about anything.
Denise
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What a great hub! I think it's great that as a father you want to discuss this with your daughter. There is a different perspective, as a man, that you might be able to provide. Most dad's pass that task to the mom. Communication and trust are the key. Let her know that she can come talk to you without you being judgmental. Try to be open and above all honest with your guidance. I'm sure my husband and I will be facing this in the future (my daughter is only 8 right now) and I hope she will be able to come to both of us should she have questions or concerns.
The one piece of advice I received (in this regard) and ALWAYS pass along is this:
Once you have sex - everything changes. There is no going back to the sweet innocence of the relationship (like holding hands). The relationship takes on a whole new dynamic. If you do decide to have sex, make sure it's for the right reasons. Do not do it for the other person (to keep them) or because you feel like you have no other choice. Think long and hard about the choice. Your and body is not something you should give easily.
But don't allow them to try with you..
My oldest daugther is 10 and has been asking a lot of questions which I don't really feel someone of her age is ready to know. However, I also know that if I don't talk to her about these things now, she will find out anyway and not in the way in which I would have explained it. So, "the talk" is coming sooner rather than later. Why do kids have to grow up so soon? Wish me luck!
@janet21. If she's asking, I think it's time to start talking about it regularly. I don't know that kids grow up faster these days, but I do know that how comfortable and honest you are with her, will help develop trust in your relationship. You must be doing a lot right if she's asking questions. Best of luck.
I think a parent who is willing to go that extra mile and talk about things with their teens/children (regardless of how they feel about the issue athand) will keep the lines of communication open, show they care and potentially save heartaches down the road. I remind myself all the time that it might not be such a big deal to me, but is a huge deal for them.
You're lucky if you're daughter feels comfortable enough to ask you about sex at age 16. At that age, I wish I had felt like that and really it never crossed my mind to ask my parents (of all people!) about sex.
Asking would've been too uncomfortable and embarassing for me at that age. I think the best thing a parent can do is take the initiative to talk about sex with their children and more importantly, make them feel comfortable in talking about sex with you. A teenager's life is filled with a high enough degree of pressure as it is, don't make it any rougher by making sex a taboo subject.
I agree you need to talk to your kids often about sex, even starting at a young age. When they do get to the age they want to start having sex, they will feel like they can go to you for advise. I always treated my girls with trust, I always told them I trusted they would come to me for advise and even comfort if need be. When my girls told me they wanted to have sex, ans yes I had a lot of fear, but I did take them to the doctor. They were put on birth control, and they even learned about the STD's and condoms. I also had to learn lesson , one, they need to be treated like an adult that they would remember to take the pill, and respect them for the decision they made. I prayed every night, and had to resist chaining them to the bed or locking them up on a daily basis. Now that they are older, I am relieved that the decision that I made was the right one for us.
Good hub - you covered everything with a good attitude and a lot of thought. I agree with most of what you say. I do think, though, that if your teen daughter is in a steady relationship, boyfriend of over 1 year, and you know they are having sex then one of the parents should suggest the daughter be on the pill or some form of birth control. Condoms don't always work and it would be sad to not have your daughter protected from getting pregnant. I agree that a condom should continue to be used while even on the pill.
So many people tend to think that it is easy to just tell your daughter she can't have sex and then turn a blind eye to it. The truth is that some teens will have sex no matter how good or bad a parent you are and you need to be there for your daughter if this is the case. Thanks for the thought-provoking hub.
You sound like a wonderful father and I think it is great that you can talk to your daughter about sex, however remembering back to when I was 16, I would have been very embarrassed to talk to my dad about sex. Maybe kids are less shy and reserved now, but when I think about it most 16 year old boys would not want to talk to their moms about sex either. It is a delicate subject that kids get embarrassed about. LOL...I remember when I first found out about sex, I could not believe that my parents could ever do something like that! heck, I did not want to believe it....and my parents were always hugging and kissing in front of us, so it should not be so shocking, but it was!
"Establishing a comfortable dialogue about sex early is important"- This is really true! As a parent, it's your main responsibility to discuss sex with your daughters and if you can't courageously do it, something is wrong with you. It indicates that you are not well-prepared to be parent.
Discussing sex with your daughter can be awkward, difficult and complicated. You must learn how to use the right terms. In fact, it's still the bestest way to ask them directly. Allow their imagination to wander and attentively listen to their opinions. Teenagers have always something to say.
Sex is a good thing and I can't think of a reason why you can't discuss it with your family.
This is a nice hub. Very Insightful...
I think you are 100% right. I dont understand parents that say that their child can not date until their eighteen. I have two kids and there both girls twelve and six. Just recently i was at my twelve year old basketball practice and she pointed out two boys that she said liked her. I asked her how do u know they like you she replied "dad im not in kindergarten anymore they tell me all the time." This was an eye opener i was always afraid that this time would come because i know how i was at that age, but as you said all you can do as a parent is talk to them and educate them about life and pray that they will make most of the right decisions. By the way i was happy to see that my daughter was comfortable enough to be able to talk to me about the boys. We can't lock them up until they turn eighteen we just got to be there for them.
Short answer? Teach them to do it safely.
While I agree with Constant Walker I also counsel that they do their best to not do this. It's not a prudish thing, but rather a matter of I don't want my daughter to become an adult before she is finished having other fun as a child.
I know that in reality she will do this if she wants to, regardless of my stance, but at least she knows where I stand on the issue.
I also want to know if the boy is close to her age or some 50 year old dude who has tricked her into it. I guess I have to say that because I found some rahter handsome older man with lots of money trying to tempt one my students into going with him. He could provide drugs, booze, any thing she wanted, but he fled when I looked him in the eyes & called 911 on my cell.
Ah, sex ed class. How I loathe thee.
In my hometown of Cambridge, MN, we had our first sex ed class in 4th grade. Know what they taught us? Absolutely nothing about sex. There was a seperate class for boys, and a seperate class for girls. The girls class taught us about our menstrual cycle, daily hygene, and that the little candy pill things they gave us would turn purple in places plaque built up. The boys class taught them about daily hygene, A FEW of the changes they'll go through in puberty, and again, the little candy pill things.
That's all we learned.
Our next classes didn't begin until 10th grade in a class they called Teen Survival, and only a month was spent talking about sex. Well, no, let me rephrase that; a month was spent talking about STDs, pregnancy, and abstinence. They told us nothing about sex and how it works, where to get birth control and condoms, and where you can go for help if you do get pregnant. And for those who did get pregnant, our only information came from the school nurse and was completely confidential (which many parents were outraged about).
Gotta love rural Minnesota conservatives.
I learned about sex through the experience. I learned it can be a beautiful, amazing, and powerful thing. I learned that partners may not always be faithful. I also learned that it's a helluva lot easier to find out about sex through fathers than through mothers. My dad was my biggest fan (not in the sex department, obviously), and he supported my decisions, even if he didn't agree with them. He taught me everything I needed to know, to the best of his knowledge, and shared with me his own experiences so that I could learn from them.
It kind of reminds me of that song that goes, "Fathers, be good to your daughters, and daughters will love like they do..." Dads, while it may creep you out beyond belief, talk with your girls. They are yours, and you have to do everything within your power to protect them without becoming overbearing. Don't push them away, don't shy from the subject of sex; tell it like it is, be honest, and they will listen to you, even if they act like it's the nastiest discussion in the world.
@Kika. Thanks for the comment. I absolutely agree that fathers must talk to their daughters about sex. It's so important. And. They need to start talking to them sooner than later. Before there is a pressing issue. Like my 15 year old has a serious boyfriend and she wants to go on the pill.
Wow. Yeah, you should definately talk to her about that. While I will admit that I had my first sexual experience at 15, that's still pretty young. Have you tried talking to her about why she wants to jump into the sexual world so early in life? Even better, have you talked about other contraceptives, like IUDs and NuvaRing? The pill's got to be the worst contraceptive, right after condoms (though I suppose they don't count). Unless she takes the pill at the EXACT SAME TIME every day, it's not very effective. I believe the statistic was 79% at worst. I am a firm advocate for the NuvaRing, but it might also be because I, an 18 year old, can't swallow pills. Dunno why, but I can't. If she's bound and determined to have sex with this boy, talk to her. Heck, talk to him, too! Bring them in to a Planned Parenthood. Have her talk with an OB/GYN. Get her extremely well educated. After all's said and done, if she still wants to go for it, at least she'll have the smarts to be as safe as she can be.
great blog... when I was old enough to even look like I could be experimenting with sex, my mom asked, "are you ready to get pregnant?"
I said "no"! she said, "good! now keep your legs closed!"
Thank you to start with. It needs courage and a very good and open mind to have a discussion on sex with the siblings. This is very important too. SEX is a wonderful experience of mankind, an invaluable gift of nature and it demands proper and effective care. That you have taken the task to render education to your daughter implies that she is fortunate and that readers of this beautifully built up page will have the necessary benefits out of it.
It is a very good writing. Congratulations !
Oh my God. Did I ever need this. Even though my daughter is only a year and a half old, those teenage years scare the crap outta me. thank you for the info!
Very well written hub, Paul -- and a far better tactic than promise rings and the like.
Loved the videos. Thanks.
Great topic. I appreciate it and it's not an easy one to talk about. Thank you for doing it.
well i am a 16 year old girl, i think its good to have the sex talk. i never got it, not that i have had sex yet. i think if you have raised your teenager well, she will know when she is ready. we are clever little creatures. everyone gets into the situation of having sex, sooner or later they will find out what its all about and a parent cant be with them the entire time (that could be akward) and tell them to stop. give good advice, be supposrtive and they will make the right decisions :)
goodluckkk
livelonger says:
16 months ago
I agree completely. If parents don't talk about sex, curious children will seek information and guidance elsewhere, and the information might not be reliable. And teenagers, in general, don't have the life experiences and maturity to think through their actions and realize the consequences, so STDs and pregnancy are high risks.