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My Experience with Gays
I have a little story to tell. I was in San Luis Obispo, California in the mid 80's with my family. The kids were somewhere else, and my wife and I were cruising the little shopping mall/hotel complex off freeway 101. We noticed a lot of vintage cars, and we decided to go into the hotel to see what was going on. I am an impatient guy sometimes so I walked in first. I really didn't pay much attention at first, but suddenly I had the unusual feeling of many eyes of men on Me.
While I was noticing all their eyes on me, I also noticed that these guys in this lobby were standing really close to each other, even pairing off! It was apparent by now that there was a gay men convention and they drove their little vintage cars to it!
Anyway, my wife followed me in. Usually back then she could turn a few heads and she got nothin'! It didn't take her long to figure out who they were looking at: ME.
Later on we went to the comedy club. The comedians were making some fun of the convention situation, but more an acknowledgement than anything hurtful. After the club, my wife had to go to the bathroom. I was sitting with three other guys waiting at the bathroom. I had felt so uncomfortable earlier that I thought the other three guys were gay. I was extremely uncomfortable. But one by one, a girl came out and they left with a female! There must be something significant about that episode but it is above my pay grade to figure that out! My wife kidded me about the encounter for years!
I am a pretty tolerant guy. I am one who believes in live and let live. My favorite uncle was gay. He was a very kind and courteous person. I don't have a problem with a small group gay people in a room at all. I had a big problem with a gay convention as I have referred to humorously. I had a problem being a minority. I have a little comment box below and would like to get your comments on multiple gay contacts and how that would impact you. Be brave and make a comment!
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I have both decent and awkward experiences with gay guys, I worked at a Hollywood studio and many were cool and invited me to parties, no strings attached, they knew were I stood, I drink beer, not cocktails type of thing, and they always had hot girlfriends to hook me up with. I had other circumstances where they were maybe trying to get me know me better in a way I don't go. Yipes! Needless to say, I didn't like that feeling and it made me understand how men are dogs no matter if they are gay or straight.
Well, I didn't ever feel anyone was aggressive to me. I just was unprepared for that particular group dynamic. The aggressiveness you were talking about likely came from the fact that these guys were good at their jobs and a female interfered with that in some way. But I wonder how she interfered with the dynamic. Just an observation.
While working as the terminal manager for Delta Lines in San Francisco, I ran into a strange situation with an all gay male billing department. These guys were fantastic. Working nights, unsupervised, never missing work, very few mistakes, ran like a well-oiled machine.
Until...an opening came up in the department and I hired an extremely well qualified woman to fill the slot. Next thing I know, I have a boycott, a threatened walk-out, my boss calling from the " Tower ", shoddy and late billing problems...all because a woman was placed in the department. Bottom line, I had to replace her with another gay that was recommended by the gay guys.
She became my personal assistant, making a hell of a lot more money and better hours.
My experience with gays is this: As individuals you cannot find more compassionate, intelligent, and hardworking folks. As a group something changes. A territorial imperative asserts itself and they can become aggressive.
maven101 says:
11 months ago
Maybe the fact she was married and had two children had something to do with it....The plain fact is, they did not want to work with a woman...they insisted we hire their choice...I'm talking about 53 men, and yes, they were very aggressive towards the woman and towards management...They had us over a barrel and they knew it...as the central billing department they processed thousands of freight bills every night. Without these bills being processed into delivery receipts for drivers the business would stop, we would lose customers, and millions in revenue. Never underestimate the power of gender.