My Sister No More
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My sister,
My sibling,
What have you done?
Betrayed me,
Dismayed me,
Who have you become?
Our father
Our mother
Grow older, regress
My heart aches
I care take
Yet feel no duress
They raised us
They praised us
Yet we’re night and day
You bully,
So bossy,
Must have the last say
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You’re oldest
One ‘tween us
I’m your “baby brother”
Does that make
You expert
On what’s "best" for Mother?
My honor
To Dad was,
To always be there
You diss Mom
Dismiss Mom
Do you even care?
So angry,
So artful,
You slither and slide
Your scheming
Day dreaming
I watch you connive
It’s all for your own sake
This fantasy care take
Do you think nobody sees?
Your sugary words
Masking actions like swords
I've prayed, and dear God quite agrees
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So needy
So greedy
I’m onto you, honey
Your pretense
An offense
It’s all for their money
As Mom becomes older
Your plot becomes bolder
Why must you treat her this way?
“Just sign here”
“Just trust me”
How much have you stolen today?
Life split you
Then spit you
All hardened by sin
Heart’s hateful
Ungrateful
No sunlight shines in
You deceiving,
Mom believing,
I told her you lied
We’ll fight you
God smite you
‘Cause right’s on our side
My sibling,
A stranger,
My sister no more
Just wait ‘til
Your own daughter
Evens the score
© July, 2009 Mighty Mom
Backstory
I penned this poem in longhand on a yellow legal pad over the weekend. Hubby and I finally declared a much-needed weekend for ourselves. We loaded the kayak (it's a tandem) and headed to Inverness on Tomales Bay for some fresh air to clear our heads. Ah, heaven is a waterscape!
Precipitating this impromptu vacation was Hubby's discovery that the Family Trust is soon to be 100% controlled by Evil Sister. The Family Trust lawyer told Hubby he now works exclusively for her, no one else in the family.
We had a bit of trouble explaining this concept to Hubby's mom. We desperately needed to just get away to clear our heads and figure out a game plan to fight this latest injustice.
No surprise, Evil Sis struck while we were gone, bringing in a "doctor" to declare my mother-in-law incompetent - the final task on her "grab the Trust" to-do list.
Stay tuned for further developments as the dynamic duo of MM and Hubby fight to bust the trust and rewrite it in the name of truth, justice, and sanity!! MM
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Beautiful and heartfelt poem.
I hope that in time you will be able to go beyond all of this. The scenario you just wrote about happens in many families...where money is concerned but our familial relationships are not arbitrary. Family is where we spend a lot of time with that we may learn about ourselves.
Much love to you.
I went through exactly the same thing. He ruined us and himself too. Good luck.
Oh MM - I know so many going through the same thing - is there always one bad apple in the pile? How does it happen when all are raised with the same love and caring? Or does money almost within reach make you forget your humanness and be blind to all else? It must be so tough when it's your Mum.
You're so right - I've also seen it coming back in full measure and then some but that still doesn't ease the pain :(
Stick with it MM.
It's as if this is my mother talking to her sister a few years back. It was most horrible and I have to say I lost all respect for my aunt. My grandmother never saw it though. Aunt just came to "visit" and left my mother the burden to care for Grandmother who quickly came down with sever dimentia. Everything my mother had said about my aunt quickly made sense.
MM, if misery truly does love company, you've got plenty of it. In our case, it's not a sibling so much but rather my wife's oldest daughter who blames her Mom for "everything bad" in her life...and said daughter is nearly 40! We've had to seal this toxic individual away from our lives and cauterize the wound, but it's been worth it.
This is heartbreaking MM, unfortunately it happens all over, my brother is the one in our family, he managed to get thousands from my grandparents, will never forgive him , for the hardship that befell my parents because of it.
I remember you mentioning her before. Funny how the most beautiful poems come through when we are at the height of emotion!
How sickening that narcissists like that can rape someone of everything and show no remorse.
As hard as this may sound, you need to detach from it, once you have done your part to protect those who cannot protect themselves. Harboring deep anger like that isn't healthy.
Great poem, btw.
PS I hate it when you click "Post Comment," and it takes so long that you think you forgot to click it, so you click it again, and then here we are with the two comments right next to each other...and all I can do is "Edit Comment...."
I rarely see my own two sisters, and while the pain has mostly scabbed over after all these years, sometimes it still hurts. I'm sorry you are dealing with this kind of strife. I know it isn't fun. People can change, but they usually don't. (((hugs)))
Sobering poem, and I know many people will, unfortunately, identify with it. I'm not, by any means, second-guessing the thoughts/feelings expressed in this poem; but since the issue is such a widespread one, I thought it may be worth adding the following thoughts: I've seen so often, in my own life, how what looks like "evil" or betrayal in families is so often a matter of ignorance or of people being on far "different pages" in their thinking than we ever realize someone so close could be. The "different pages" thing or "completely-different-thinking" thing doesn't show up in day-to-day life until there's a big crisis, at which time people find it particularly important to "stand up for their beliefs" about what is right. I've so often been amazed and shocked at how certain relatively close people think once a crisis arises. I'd hope that people going through "hard feelings" with siblings or other family members aim to understand one another, even it takes seeing a counselor. It's one thing when a family member is emotional disturbed to the point of being "evil", but it's so sad if families grow apart over misunderstandings that could be cleared up if we truly knew how some family members are feeling/thinking. I guess my point is that I continue to be amazed at how people we believe we know can think so differently than we ever would imagine. Again, not second-guessing what's behind the poem - only offering what I have been shocked and amazed to learn over the years.
The difficult thing with elder abuse/exploitation is that sometimes the elderly person (who may or may not be every bit as clear-thinking as he's always been) actually prefers what's going on (which leads to question of whether he's thinking as his "independent self" or from being the victim of exploitation for so long). MightyMom, sorry for the long comment; but this is an important issue, and I couldn't resist adding thoughts. (My siblings and I - all close as ever - dealt with the issue of someone's exploiting our mother, and - boy - was it difficult then, as living with the knowledge of it remains difficult now, years after she passed away.)
Powerful read, I havent spoke to my sister for years, similar thing, take a hug x
OMG, how powerful was that? So sorry you have to go though this, but what a great way to get it out! And thanks so much for sharing something so personal.
Dear Hub Pages friends, I cannot tell you all how much your support means. It really helps to know so many of my favorite people (you!) have lived through similar situations, which tells me I'm human and so is Hubby and his Evil Sister. Still, living in what feels like a Greek tragedy is so disturbing, especially since my own siblings banded and bonded like champs when our Dad passed. This is coming completely out of left field (although if you have read some of my other Hubs about my father-in-law dying and my Hubby being Jan Brady -- you are in tune).
What I get from all of your comments is appreciation that families can be this way, and until a crisis arises we just have no idea what we're made of. Given that, I am happy to know what Hubby's made of and he is setting a good example for my son, also!
Wow this poem speaks to me since my brother and I have not talked in years. My situation is not the same but the emotions certainly are. Thanks for sharing. I hope things change for you and your hubby.
It isn't right when kids take advantage of their parents like that. She must not care how much it hurts her family. I wish you the best of luck. My wife works in a nursing home and it often seems like some of the relatives who never come to visit suddenly show up when they are looking for a piece of the pie.
TM, Thanks for your support.
Jim -- I bet your wife sees a lot of this. It's shocking, but common. MM
If there's not, there should be a special place in hell for those who exploit or otherwise abuse the elderly. Thanks for writing this, MM
I am going through that right now with my grandmother in a rehab facility for a broken hip, I have been at her requests put her vehicles and assets in my mothers name. The family hates it but I think it is best for the assets my grandfather worked all of his lfe for.
dori
I can so relate to this poem and situation. I have a similar situation with my brother! Good to express and let it out! All the best to you.
Tom, Now you know me well enough to know that it is not the sister, but Hubby and I who are the abusers in this scenario. I have written enough of the situation for everyone at Hub Pages (and the world) to know that we are neglectful, disrespectful (hey -- there's a rhyme, I need to go back up and edit this poem:-) kids. But thanks. I appreciate your comment.
Fortunerep -- Sorry you are going through a similar problem. It's amazing how the wishes of the elderly so quickly become secondary to self-righteous middle-aged people who insist "they know best." Sure. They know what's best for THEMSELVES.
Jodi -- Sorry to hear you, too, are in the same boat. Seems there are quite a few of us. I will not say misery loves company, as HP is not about misery. It's about self-expression and sharing and support. and yeah. It definitely helped to express it and let it out! Whew! Very, very empowering!!! MM
So well written, how well I can see, I have 7 sisters all younger than me.
There has never been a point in time we have ever all been on talking terms at the same time. As you so aptly put it, greed is the underlying cause, needing control of the money, the time, the love whatever, for the me minded concepts.
Best of luck as you work through the current circumstances. As always enjoy your poetic prose and can understand how much that alone starts the wheels into motion to actively engage the situation.
Hang in there MM...The truth will prevail. Your poem was heatfelt. It is so sad that at a time when the family should support each other, there is conflict. I saw this when my grandma passed in 2004; my uncles and aunt were fighting over trivial matters like who will read the scripture at her funeral. It was painful to watch because they were always supportive to each other. I chuck it up to grieving.
Take care and hugs...
MM
This is quite a personal hub and I appreciate the trust you have in us, your hubber friends. And they say the people who hurt us the most are the people we love the most. Again, thanks for sharing ;D
MM you know you have my unyeilding support with this situation . And I love the new avatar too !
Emohealer -- 7 sisters. Good lord. That's a lotta estrogen in one family. I hope this can serve as a cautionary tale (not sure where your family is in the parental aging/leave-taking process). Thanks for visiting.
DynamicS -- Many thanks. It's more shocking because I thought when I married into this family they were soooo close. Ha!
Cris -- Thanks. I have consummate faith and love for my hubber friends. I see this adult child tearing her mother's heart out and telling horrible lies about my Hubby. He is the most honorable man I have ever met besides my own father and his father. It breaks my heart. I know that truth will prevail, tho.
Tony -- you are such an angel. Thank you, my friend! And thanks for the compliment. I felt MM needed a little more super power:-).
Your poem is powerful and expresses the hurts betrayal and frustrations so strongly that you can almost reach out and touch it. Your sister in law may get away with what she is doing because right unfortunately does not always prevail, but what you and your hubby have is worth far more than what your S-I-L is trying to grab. Your mum in law is lucky to have at least one child that loves her for herself and love is the only thing we can take with us when we go. You are a special couple and an inspiration to many on hubpages, I pray that God will strengthen you and give you peace and victory in this awful situation.
I'm sorry for that sister's soul! Life can be so cruel, but not that much! But I think she will serve her right when her
own daughter
Evens the score...
So thoughtful Mighty Mom, thanks.
Very well written .......... what goes arond comes around. glad you enjoyed your weekend
Shamel -- You keyed in on that, didn't ya? I certainly don't wish it on her, but that is exactly how things appear to be shaping up. Her own daughter refuses to be controlled and it's no accident lives 2 continents away!
Maggs and \Brenda -- Thank you for visiting. I am gratified to have you both here on HP.Maggs, you said it right there. Love is what we take with us. It feels so foreign to be having to "fight" for that, tho. And \Brenda, thank you also. Karma, baby, karma! Your presence, too is uplifting. Thank you!
This is awful MM, not the poem, but what is happening! is there anything you can do about it, like get the mom-in-law unclassified as having lost the plot? Money always brings out the worst in people, eh? Greed, just plain evil. Well, if she gets her greedy paws on the family trust, she'll get no enjoyment out of it, that's for sure!
When my grandmother was on her death bed....one of my aunts started taking my grandmother's watch off of her arm while saying,"Mom promised this to me!" My sister told the aunt,"If you take grandma's watch...I will kick your ass all over this hospital!" The watch remained.
It's rednecky...but it gets the point across. I hope you find a solution to the problem soon. Your poem was perfect.
Cindy -- thanks for your clarification that it's the situation and not the poem that is awful. But the poem itself is awful, too. I really do not like having to spew this way, but it is quite cathartic. I've got that righteous anger thing going on triple: for my Hubby first, my mother-in-law (sweet, sweet woman) second and also for me, as this whole thing has wreaked havoc on MY life.
As I write this Hubby is taking his mom back to her doctor to see if we can get her declared mentally competent. If so, she can revoke the original trust and rewrite it. If not... well, I don't know what our options are. But we are working with an attorney.
Tom -- I don't see that as rednecky at all. Unless you mean the threat of kicking one's aunt's derriere all over the hospital:-). I can remember even as young kids my siblings and I would visit my grandmother's house and lay claim to what we would want when she died. I recall the object of my affection was a metal stool in her bathroom! Can you imagine? By the time Grammy passed at 91, that stool was long gone.
Luckily, my brother, sister and I have all been quite civil about according each other various "extras" from my dad's life. He wanted my brother to have his car, which was fine by us. My sister snuck in and took my mom's engagement ring, but this, too, seemed fair, as she had done the lion's share of caring for Mom before she died. And I got the furniture I grew up with. The perfect extra for me and probably valued right around the same as the ring and the car! Voila. Easy peasy!!!
A good poem about a sad situation. I wish you the best during this hard time.
Thanks, Not Telling. We are reclaiming our power in the situation, although the emotional wounds that have been inflicted will take a long time to heal.
MM, you are a master poet. I believe only people genuinely moved by goodness in their hearts can achieve the status of master poetry. The true love you feel for your husband and Mother-in-law and the vehemence felt for the atrocious selfishness of the uncaring heart of your sister-in-law are found in the depths of your poetry. God Bless You. You will win this fight!
I hate stories like this. Money sucks. Hope it ends well. Great read by the way.
Kebennett1, You are wayyy too kind. I am good at rhyming lines, but hardly a "master poet" (we do have a few of those here on HP). I very much appreciate your comment. It is very true that I love my husband and mother-in-law and am beyond outraged at my sister-in-law's actions.
RB -- Money doesn't suck if it's yours. Taking it from a nice old lady totally sucks, tho! Thanks for visiting. And thanks for your good wishes.
God, I felt like I was reading about a few people...but this is as blatant as it gets. I'm really, really sorry. I couldn't feel that way if the poem hadn't been so ardent and articulate. Absolutely loved the end.
Hello sbeakr -- Yes, unfortunately our lawyer (and several hubber comments) indicate that this scenario is not at all uncommon. Thank you for reading and for your support. The end is not made up. It's absolutely in the works as we speak. Sad.
I feel for you. My sister has disowned me because I stepped in and put a stop to her taking advantage of her own son. He is 22 and autistic. He now lives with me and she no longer has control of him or his money. She is steaming mad and has disowned me and anyone else in our family who agrees with me that her treatment of him was unfair. I don't control his money either-I had him examined and deemed competent, he had to take some life skills classes and is handling his own money quite responsibly. Best of luck to you!
That poem is so powerful and sadly enough this type of situation happens all to often. Hopefully, your family will find peace. Be blessed.
MM this is such a powerful poem and well done too. It is sad that such human behavior is so common among our own. No one really wins and so many are hurt in so many ways. Hang in there girl, and best of luck to you and hubby.
Great Poem. That describes alot of feeling my wife is going through. Her sister has the "It's ALL about ME" attitude. She's very self centered and thinks that her problems are far more worse than anyone elses. It's very Aggrivating and I try to sit back and keep my mouth shut, but one of these days I am going to put her in her place. Everybody else is afraid too. I'm not, but I just don't think it's my place to say anything. One day I will voice my opinion and it will hurt, but at least It won't be balled up inside me anymore.
Thanks friends for your support. Seems like just about everyone has one of these self-centered, toxic siblings in their family (either biological or married family). MM
Karma dear MM.... your sister will get hers, if selfishness is at the center of her quest (money most often is).... my brother did similar as my mother lay on her death bed! He got her to sign over her home, everything as she lay dying. During the last hours as we all gathered around her, she yelled, even with tubes every which way, at him...angry at him for whatever he had done...she knew, he knew!! Karma: Her home was worth $400-500,000 at the time of her death.... he "paid off" each of the siblings, just to get everyone off his back... he paid out $90,000~~ the kicker...the home is now worth UNDER $90,000!!!!!!!! So much for greed!!!!!!! My heart goes out to you dear girl... but, you are coming from a loving place and that is always good and always brings good karma~~~
Hello MFG. Sounds like you've lived this scenario. Too bad your mother didn't have her wishes written out before then or he couldn't have duped her into signing over home and assets to him. Of course, I shouldn't say that. My hub 'how to steal your inheritance' details how my sister-in-law pulled off her little coup. But it ain't over till it's over. And we have a trump card we are getting ready to play.
Karma is right. May not be in this life, but I sure hope it is! Thanks for visiting and sharing your own experience. MM
Loved your words, MM. Sadly, I only know of one couple who have ever been victorious in this type of situation. It cost them quite a bit of money but in the end, they did prevail. I wish for you and hubby and mother-in-law, a peaceful and just end to this incredibly stressful and unfair situation.
Very best of luck!
This just breaks my heart reading about the greed of one person and how it impacts so many others. Sadly this affects so many families when it comes to money. Our own family has not escaped some of this and yes, it hurts relationships.
Remember the saying in biblical terms....something to the effect that being rich and getting into heaven is about as easy as a camel going through the eye of a needle? Your sister-in-law is gripping on to that camel! It just may come back to bite her.
Could not believe it could happen to a nice person like you. It is life cannot say anything right now but a passing phase she will get what she has sown thats waht karma is all about. What goes around comes around. Stay strong and count on your blessings dear. Be strong i mean it as unless you are a rock it is gonna be difficult.
hang in there MM - what goes around usually comes around - i have indeed noticed this - play your trump card and I hope you win for your mother-in-law's sake! and for also you and yours ...cheers
and as aside what exactly do the words "Family Trust" mean in this instance? The lawyer is employed on behalf of the FAMILY in a TRUSTED position but then the trust disintergrates followed closely by the family...shouldn't there be a law against this type of abuse by both parties (the sister and the lawyer)?
We need all the moral support -- and competent legal help --we can get. I know. Family trust. Both are disintegrated. We have to believe that right will prevail.
MM, this happens so much its totally unbelievable. We even had a relative go to her brothers funeral then start inventoring his stuff while his wife and family were upstairs grieving! My wife went to her fathers office to throw her aunt out and she was told its her right its her brother! His most prized possession his grandfathers pocketwatch he kept on his desk was never seen again.
I understand your feelings that is some of the worst behavior possible. What a bunch of creepy vultures! Keep your chin up she will eventually get what she deserves. Peace.
Powerful poem. I too think she will get what she deserves, a special hell just for her.
Many hugs and our prayers for you. Peace.
Right now prayers and reminders that "peace" is possible and desirable really help. I have never in my life lived in this much fear combined with outrage. I really try to take life as it comes. This is just so wrong on so many levels. Really hoping the justice system doesn't let us down! Thanks friends for your kind words and good wishes. MM
MM,
I will agree with your statement that "Heaven is a waterscape." I often visit the Blue Water Bridge in Port Huron, MI. I love to watch the water move and change its face. Water, to me, is powerful and peaceful, strong yet calming. The perfect remedy to balance that which is not.
Scott
Hi PS, Water is a soul magnet, isn't it? All I need to do to lower my blood pressure/stress level is go to the beach. Slightly less effective is going to the river. There is nothing more spiritual than seeing sunlike dappling on the surface of water. To me, that means God's smiling!
Here's a picture of my idea of tranquility. Enjoy.
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A Prayer for Susan's Family
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If life is all about getting money
then you're missing something honey
And all the lifelong bonds of love
by these actions you tend to shove
And there is still some time to retract
before its too late to reach any pact
there can still be a solution if we just talk
before its too late our separate ways we walk
I am still hanging on a very thin rope
out of this mess there is still some hope
We can still come out strong and survive
and your support is all it takes to revive
I simply hope you do not get me wrong
more than our misgivings our love is strong
I see positives even in this present sorrow
Because I am hopeful of a bright tomorrow
My Best Wishes to You and Your Family.
Oh CW, Your poem captured my heart. I am so very grateful for your friendship. And you have such a novel way of expressing it. Thank you, especially for the final stanza and the final two lines: "I see positives even in this present sorrow because I am hopeful of a bright tomorrow."
It's so easy for us to get embroiled in the emotions of today.
Things always happen for a reason.
At the very least (which is actually quite a lot, indeed) this experience has brought my Hubber friends closer to me!
Peace to you, my lovely friend. MM
I thoroughly enjoyed this poem. It sickens me that it is based on this horrible reality, but it was incredibly well done. Thank you so much for sharing. It is the personal, heartfelt and often difficult realities of life that I find most compelling.
MM - my heart goes out to you. I have been in this situation and the most hurtful thing is that this person actually calls them self your sister. I don't know how they live with themselves - and all for money! It broke my heart when I went through it and it is still the most painful thing in my life. I'm truly sorry that you had to experience this. The most important thing you can do is to hang onto the truth of what you're going through and what you're feeling. After a while is does ebb, a bit. I think the only thing you can do is learn to live with it, because it sure seems like you never get over it. Hang in there - my thoughts are with you.
Moonchild --I'm totally with you. The difficult realities of life are the most compelling.
Madame X -- Thank you for the reality check. It is totally not the money that matters. It's the losing of the family. What has she really gained?
Oh well, I know my heart and Hubby's heart, as well as our consciences, are clear.
Appreciate your support. And love your new avatar! MM
Two Sisters, very similar situation!
So glad you wrote this hub! Many families seem to be going
down this road, it is very sad.
Hello okmom23, Nice to see you and thanks for the comment. It is shocking to find how many families are going through the same thing. Never thought it would happen in this family. But you know what they say, the only things certain in life are death and taxes. Never say never.
WOW! That was brilliant! To make a poem out of a real life situation is genius. I look forward to what follows. Please consider writing a book. This is the stuff blockbuster movies are made of.
Hello Fastfreta, Unfortunately, this situation is all too real. And it's still going on. I've written another hub about it called, "How to Steal Your Inheritance." Waiting for some kind of legal outcome to write the third/final hub.
Thanks for your kind words. I don't know about blockbuster movies, but certainly can see this as a Lifetime Movie Channel movie! Only on Lifetime usually it's the males who are evil (although not always). Cheers! And here's to FAMILY. MM
OMG - I can't believe all of the people that have responded to your beautiful and honest poem about family betrayal It would seem that many people have suffered from this "flavor of abuse" from a family member. Betrayal cuts so deeply, especially when money is at stake (too many are greedy these days!). Sorry to hear of your suffering, and hope that all who suffer from this human "absurdity" prevail. Keep the faith!
Sending you a Warm Hug... I wish you peace and Happiness in your family Life.
MSPhD - Thank you. The support of my hubber friends is what's keeping me from going over the edge these days.
Lady_E -- Exactly what I need. Bless you! MM
I should have responded earlier. Thanks for appreciating my poem and hope things are improving on the family front. Belated Happy Friendship Day. :D
Oh dear, dear CW. It is always soothing to hear from you. You leave the lovliest of messages! Things are still crazy, but everyone's "lawyer'd up." Sigh.
Happy Friendship Day to you, too! MM
It's unfortunate that you and your husband are having to deal with this, but I'm glad you wrote about it and I'm interested in follow up hubs about it. We have one in our family like this. He has no more control than the rest of us and yet he has tried to sell a home that is being left to the 3 children (he, my oldest brother, & myself are all on the deed) and what is worse, our mother has a life time dowry on it.
Just remember "what goes around, comes around" ... it may not seem like it right now, but karma has a way of settling the score sooner or later.
I wish you and your husband good luck in this, I truly do.
Hello Pink Mingos! Your situation sounds somewhat similar. My sister-in-law has at least inquired with the County about putting HER name on the deed to the family home. Not sure how far she got with that.
It is a truly unfortunate situation. Of all the horrible things I have been through -- and there have been plenty -- this is the worst because it is an INFAMIGLIA (against the family).
The situation is now in the very capable and very expensive hands of lawyers. So ridiculous. There is not a lot of money in this family trust, and it will almost all go to paying attorneys' fees.
There will definitely be a followup hub, believe me. Right now we are in a lull before the big "mediation" on September 2nd.
Thanks especially for the karma reminder. There is at least 3 years of negative karma in here -- abuse of the parents and their money. I really don't want to be "right" I just want this to end so the family can heal and move on and my poor husband and his mother can live in peace.
My other hub "How to Steal Your Inheritance" is also based on this situation. Not sure yet if the 3rd one will be a poem or not. Gotta wait and see how it plays out! MM
MM -- so FAMILY-IAR. You seem to have this well in hand. SpouseMonkee had similar thing happen. Hope your Knight (lawyer) is well armed and competent to do battle with this EvilDragonSister.
MoneyMonkee say take a lesson for yourself from this situation. Think about how to avoid this battle among your kids -- come up with a plan NOW.
MoneyMonkee believe best plan is to spend it all -- give it away, reverse mortgage the house and travel (or whatever peels your banana) -- leave nothing.
That MoneyMonkee thinking! Have fun in the jungle!
LOL MoneyMonkee! Sounds like you have been through these dramas also. I like your plan. You should write a hub about it -- link to mine if you like! You're a friggin financial genius! And a swinger, too! MM
shibashake says:
5 months ago
Wow - sorry you have to go through this MM. It is difficult enough seeing parents grow old, but to have to deal with such a sibling makes it SO much harder. Money is the root of many evils.