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My first extramarital affair

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By pertibha321



How it get started?

I am a 23 years old married girl.I am a straight girl but now i accept that i had an affair after my marriage with a 45 yeras old married man  who is in business and live another city and honestly saying i don't think it was bad but it really makes me feel nice.

Why it happens?

Hum there can be many excuse i can give to myself but the truth is that i likes it and it gave me excitement like that i never felt before .when i first meet that person on chat he was like just other men and i were not specially interested in him.after chatting a few times we decide to meet to become real life friends.

We talked on phone for few times before meeting and then we decide to meet at a restaurant on Saturday evening he is not from my city he come to my city just to meet me.

I reached their at fix time i were in a blue saree he met me their waiting for me he met with me with confidence and a sweet smile.i felt he is really a gentelman.

we sit there and talked nearly 2 hours then it was time to go to home for me.he gave me his hotel room no and said he can drop me towards my house in his car i accepted that.

When going back towards my house he took me through a long way so he can spend more time with me.He also offered that we can sea any good film tomorrow evening and i can go back after the dinner.

i love watching films and also i liked the man so i said why not.


why do girls cheat?

touching each other

 during the film we hold hands and also talked we were getting comfortable with each other.First of all he kissed on my hand and i really liked it.After the intervell when the film was going to end he just asked me to kiss actually i were liking him and i didnt said anything .He hold my head and kissed me softely i really felt nice so i closed my eyes.We kissed each others nearly 10-15 min .

After the film we gone to a restorent for dinner.Then he suggested for a small drive and we gone for that while driveing we talked more. that was really nice experiance.Then he dropped me near my home and gone to hotel.


Getting physical

Actually i were never thought before to get physical with another person els eof hubby but he was becoming special next day when he took me to his room i were underestending that something will be done.

We were talkign nearly one hour sitting on the bed then he came near to me hold me and kissed me softely like he has right for that.i were really liked his way but there was something who was saying its not right.so i said no to him.

He get shocked and asked what happen.i said i am not comfortable.

he just asked me did i love him? i were not sure but i liked him so i said "ya i do" .then he just convinced me in next few minutes and we make intercourse first time.

we done it for 3 times that day.After that he comes once atleast every month and we make sex till when he is with me.Nobody else know about yet till yet .But there is still a problem.First time we used condom as precaution but after few times he makes me ready to not to use condom he said i should use ipills.but now he wants me to become mother of his child.i am afriad that if it happens it can make me in a big prob what to do?


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what you feel haveing an extera maritial affair is good or bad?

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What is the main problem?

 One of my good friend send me this problem she has been asked about should he become the mother of the child of that man?

this is the problem for her but i think the main problem is that she is haveing an extera maritial affair.personally i feel its not good but what other peoples think about it let me tell so i can help my friend.

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AEvans profile image

AEvans  says:
9 months ago

Honey, Do not conceive a child with that man, as he has another wife. You will not be fulfilled completely. You want a man to love you for you and not just have sex with you. Here in the U.S. American women would not tolerate their husband sleeping with another woman. Does it happen? Yes, but the wife leaves. Apparently in your country it is o.k. for the man to cheat, over here the wife would cut her man's penis off!! Well try to anyway. Save your self for a man who loves you and only you and does not hide you in shame. He is treating you like a harlot and that is sinful. Keep your chin up and do not get pregnant, as in your culture that man is not going to leave his wife for you and he will mark you and you will never marry and have a child alone. Open your eyes sweety and do not be naive. :)

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ccdursina  says:
9 months ago

What about your husband, did I miss soemthing!?

You might have a child and then he, this extra marrital guy will not take any responsibility; bringing a child in this world is a huge thing! Let alone with someone else then your husband!

Do you still love your husband? How briliant the future looks for you without him?

Why this other man? They are all liers! Learn from others' experience. don't get yourself in trouble.

And,...you even write about it; would your husband find out? what would it happenned then?

I will go back to my real life and even delete this hub!

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pertibha321  says:
9 months ago

hello dear AEvans and ccdursina first of all let me tell you that its not my personal problem.One of my good friend has been asked it to me.i think haveing a extera maritial affair is not good so there is no matter to have a child from another man else of huby when you dont have any extera maritial affair.

But many peoples think diff as my friend who has been asked it to me.Thats why i am not 100% sure what to say here thats why i have been shared this problem here so i can get help from the peoples like you and then can help my friend.

Byethway thanks for your advice i am really agreed at most of the points.

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noida27  says:
9 months ago

Dear friend,

spicing up a life should be limited there..it must be just like having an exotic dinner out ..a change from normal..and only strong hearts can limit it there..mostly the extra marital starts on the boredom for a normal lady in any culture and the smart guy to really exploit it...well i can say mostly it starts with lust from our part(guy)..and few really understand the strategy....and if both are weak hearted ...the though of kids..and all...howmany paramours will take resposnsibilty of the kid if any psychological issues happens to the partner..?....limit it there and then for your life..is my opinion....

Anyone who we don't have to bear all life is attractive...and lovable...

my opinion is if we cannot resist the lust...enjoy it and end there...no foolish thoughts of kids and all until and unless..a life is offered...who wants to give birth to a bas.....d..

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pertibha321  says:
8 months ago

thanks for comment noida27 i am also agreed with you.i have been said same to my friend but she is still getiing confused i think she dont have enough will i am tring to convince her .

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noida27  says:
8 months ago

wish u the best in convincing her.the ones experienced and had gone through understands easily..well all the best

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prasadjain  says:
8 months ago

Getting the company of others is an internal desire for many people. If the lady has not yet conceived child from her husband, and if those people have not seen this man, then this ladyc an conceive. However, becoming mother is the wish of the lady.But it should not spoil her family

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pertibha321  says:
7 months ago

thanks dear noida27 i am trying to convince her but in last thats her wish.

Dear prasadjain thanks for your suggestion i am also agreed with you but i want to ask one thing that she is one of my best friend can you help me that how should i convince her?

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joque  says:
5 weeks ago

All I have to say is that it is wrong. I know there is an attraction, but God says and history says it will only end up in heartache and misery. Many times fear is the only thing that can make us have real wisdom, because the feelings are real. Just trust the admonition of God. The price to pay is too high. Take it from someone who knows first hand

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