I know it seems sometimes that men are just as helpless as a 3 week old baby and depend on you to do every last chore, handle the bills, work full-time, and facilitate their entertainment and every other waking moment of their lives. You specifically asked for this request because you were wondering if your marriage could survive such a dependent spouse and how you could possibly cope with his ways. Read on:

Being married is never an easy road. i'm sure that you've found this out, even if you've only been married a few months. The most important thing right now is to evaluate the situation. What is it that absolutely drives you bonkers? Is it the lack of help, lack of companionship, the feeling like you're a mother to him? What exactly makes it so unbearable. Once you figure that out, then you have to evaluate what you feel would be a happy solution for yourself. Would it be okay if he helped out once in a while or did things for himself? If there is some happy medium you could be satisfied with, approach him and let him know what he's doing that is unacceptable. Chances are, he doesn't know he's doing it or that it bothers you.

If he says that this is how it'll always be for whatever reason, you have another choice to make. Can you live happily in this situation? How can you make it easier for yourself? Obviously if he is not willing to change his dependent behavior, you have to make sure you are able to meet his needs and your own. I would focus on your needs first. There are tons of ways that you could try to trick him into helping himself. Those could include working later and leaving dinner up to him, not doing things that you usual do, ie: don't pack his lunch or pick up his dry cleaning or lay out his clothes. Only do 1/2 of the dishes, whatever it is that YOU use. These things might be a bit extreme, so if your husband has a quick to act temper, you might not want to try these.

In either case, you have to do what you feel is right. If you are unhappy with your situation you either change it completely or find a way to live in the mess but still maintain some happiness. Good luck!