Mother's heart or husband hurts? I am not getting why your mother will be blamed in your marriage life as husband and wife I assumed.

I wished I have a mother to care for my life or marriage situation. But then unfortunately I do not have her ever since I was born.

Now, go back to the issue about your mother. You would like to stop your mother from coming to your house for a holiday because you are afraid that she might break your relationship with your husband. Well, are you not afraid to lose your mother?

I would rather lose a husband than a mother who cares for my own good. Your mother might knew that your husband is not fit in your marriage and that she loves to help you about it, but then you take it in the wrong way. If I am right about that. This is just a common problems of the women I have met in life. So I hope yours is different.

I assumed that your husband acted like a child and refused in his responsibilities, do you think that your mom was concern to your situation?

Sometimes , daughters get blinded with love to their lovers and they forget that mother is always a mother regardless how you interpret her actions to you.

You only have one mother and that's it, when she is gone you will never find the same one like her. And no matter what happen in the world she will be always thinking about you because she loved you. But we did not see it that way, we thought of something else that can ruin your relationship as mother and daughter. But again that is just a common situations with a mother in laws who have issues to their step daughters or own daughter.

Who take good care of you when you are still a baby , was he your husband today or your parents? In my case neither parents , mother or neighbor or husband. I would say an old woman who happened to be my grandmother.

Your mother interfere your marriage relationship because she believed that you might really need help as you mentioned that your husband is acting like a child , though I did not find wrong about that behavior.

When your mother said something about your relationship , you should listen and take her words. Your marriage will stay or break not because of anyone else but because of you both. If you love each other truly then no one can break your relationship.

If you cannot get along with something then the problem is within your marriage not with your mother or someone else.

It's just happened that when your mother visited you, she can tell that your husband is not doing or you are not doing as couple should do , so she suggested a solutions probably but you guys take it in a wrong way. Blamed her or blamed him is not a good solution or good communication to stay in your marriage healthy.

But again, some mothers are very annoying they wanted to rule your life and you do not like that , so you just want to stay away from that messed.

So , if you believed that your mother is causing trouble in your marriage then tell her the truth that you do not want her in your house.

Tell her that you are going to a vacation and that you are not home if she wanted to visit you in your place that said Holiday.

If you choose your husband over your overbearing mother then it is really up to you and I hope that you are right about what you think in life.

I knew many women who hated their mothers but then in time of hardship they begged for their mother's love and warm care.

Real love between your relationship is the key to successful marriage regardless how irresponsible your partner will be.

Acting like a child is not bad for me , than hurting others in person.

But genuine love will always connect you to your husband , as long as you both have feelings with each other then your marriage has still have a good chance to stay longer.

Another thing, tell your mother honestly that she has to behave if she wants to visit your house to avoid trouble in your marriage.

If she really wants to spend holiday with you then tell her that it is not a good idea if it will only cause trouble in your marriage.

Be honest and open to your mother but at the same time consider her feelings. Hurting your mother's heart cannot be deleted with a simple sorry!!

Personally, I rather choose to lose a husband than to lose my mom but then I already lost her so what the Hell.

My point is you can find a thousand husbands while you will never find a mother like you have regardless of your feelings to her.

Marriage will always there if you both want it but mother will go away someday and you will feel bad if you make her sad. So I choose my mother to visit me instead rather to be afraid to lose my husband. Husband is always with you if he wants to and he will be gone if he planned to even if your mother will never show up again in your house.