I'm not perfect, I'm Christian
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I'm not perfect and I'm tired of people judging me because of my belief in Christ. I need Jesus because I can't save myself. I can't stand before a holy God without the sacrifice of Christ. I'm tempted, I sin, I think about things I have no business thinking about.
My pastor will not look me in the eye since my husband and I broke up. This bugs me to no end. Maybe he has taken my divorce personally, which he shouldn't. He wasn't drinking and driving or verbally abusing me; my husband was. Why then do people ignore me? Are they afarid that my failure will rub off on them? Are they afarid that I might become a husband-stealer? How come my very nature becomese questionable when tradgedy strikes?
My oldest son passed away almost 7 years ago. For the longest time people, even my own family ignored me. They still do as a matter of fact. It's not going to rub off, I'm not contaigious. Being a Christian does not mean that your life is great, filled with butterfiles and complete provision. Sometimes it means being an example, just like my idol Mother Teressa. Someday, I would like to be like her. Poor on purpose, helping others who have nothing, loving the unloveable.
Don't judge me because I'm not perfect. I'm a Christian, flawed, human, fragile, immortal only by the blood of Chirst.
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Been There101,
Unfortunately, many people experience the same type of treatment by other. It seems anything that is not perceived as perfect or near perfect is not desirable. It matters not what your needs are in the situation.
Your probable right about some taking your perceived failures personally, especially those who may have invested time, energy and/or emotion into your life. They seem to treat Jesus like a good luck charm.
I've experience much of the same type of things you have. It's most painful when its those you are close to.
But God is faithdul and I've seen it demonstrated in my life many times. So hang in there and remember to take it all to the Lord. He knows how to handle such things.
Blessings,
Ben
Hi Been there 101 -
Sorry to hear about all the pain and loss you've been dealing with.
I'm not sure in what you've said, if there is a connection between your son passing and your family ignoring you. I can identify with being ignored or avoided by family because of my faith, but if they weren't there to support you during your time of grief, that's rather shocking although I know for outsiders (outside of family and close friends, including people from church), sometimes attempting to show love and support is difficult and uncomfortable.
I'm glad that it hasn't made you bitter towards our Lord as for some, it would. There are those who because of what you describe, say they are done with church, sometimes turning their back on God as well. I'm glad you know that you are flawed as well as the rest of us believers.
May I suggest praying about whether or not you should meet with your Pastor (and have one other person there). I too have struggled in my marriage. I know other Christians who have divorced. I know God says not to allow man to seperate what God has joined together. When it comes to being a recipient of abuse and there is an unwillingness to get counseling and work on improving (although I don't believe in our human condition, problems are always one sided) sometimes divorce may be a last resort. I also know God has the supernatural power to transform and work miracles though. I had about lost all hope for my marriage and no, my husband is not abusive. We are doing much better now since we both humbled ourselves, sought out counseling and prayer support from those we know and who love us and I have great hope once again. I hope the best and His will be done for you as well. I'll be praying for you today.
Just want to say thanks for the support. Don't ever take for granted that your husband loves you enough to humble himself before the Lord, what a gift!
Your point is very well taken. Cast all your care upon HIM for HE cares for you. The song says “No one ever cared for me like Jesus” That is true.
None of us are perfect in our practice, but all Christians are perfect in our standing in the righteousness of Jesus Christ.
I’ve debated over whether I should write an article about what the Bible “really” says about divorce and what it “really does not say” about divorce. Because I’m more concerned about evangelism than debating “doctrine” I’ve decided not to approach that subject for now, but you can rest assured that there is far more to that subject than what has been preached and taught in most of our traditional churches (not all).
I’m also considering an article about my son who passed away with cancer at age 17. The family received more “helping hands” from the outside world (including a bar) than from the church.
Having said that, may I please say this. Not all Christians and not all churches are judgmental. It is easy for us to forget from whence we’ve come and from what we are made. It is difficult to know how to respond to pain in the life of another. It is difficult for some to show love and compassion if their church and pastor are not leading the way. Many who love and care may be afraid to step forward.
You are on the right path by not being bitter and by leaning on the One Who can comfort you. It looks like you have good friends here who are willing to be used also. So take courage and don’t be afraid to ask for help.
Praying for you. ~ eddie
I am sorry for your losses. I cannot imagine what you go through. But I am glad you did this hub to being attention to the fact that just because we are saved, doesn't mean we are perfect. I agree that people who don't want to be a part of Christ right now uses us as targets and reasons to do the things they say/do. But, that's ok. If I have to hear them trash me for that reason, then I will to it gladly. If taking a little flack for loving Jesus is what I am in for, then bring it on. It's the least I can do compared to what He has done for me. I wish that people were not like that, but sadly, the world is. It hurts to hear people trash my Lord and Savior, but I'm thankful He can see what's in my heart. You are in my prayers.
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SrUMptiOUs says:
4 months ago
because of love i had 2 tell u the truth, when we r facing difficulties we tend to have someone as a companion, to ask for help and to share the burden together. it was god that always be beside us. 24 hours a day without asking for anything as a reward. it was He that we should ask for help whenever we face problems, and it is the one and only god that is ALLAH SWT.