• Physically, a man is in his sexual prime around 20 years of age and a woman, between 30 and 40 so it almost makes sense that this is a hot combo.
• A woman grows up hearing that men mature much slower than women, but there comes a time in a woman's life when she realizes men also stop maturing much sooner as well. This means a 42 year old man is about as immature (or mature) as a 22 year old man (concerning relationships). Granted, older men may have the car, house, and reliable job, but that doesn't mean they know how to have a mature relationship.
• Older men may know more, but younger men will do more and are more eager to please an older woman.
• There are more independent women than ever with their own careers and houses so a man doesn't need to fulfill a woman's need for stability anymore- she is doing it herself. It's true, younger men are a little more unstable in life, but if a woman has her own life, that little fact shouldn't matter.
• Women live longer than men so it's ok if we have a 10 year age gap over him; it evens things out.

Women tend to have an ideal man in their heads and he is comprised of everything on her checklist. The checklist is a list she has handy (written or by memory) every time she meets a man. Does he fit her qualifications? Is he her ideal man?

Many women believe they chose (even married) their ideal man so why is the divorce rate so high? Because we are not the best judges of who is right for us. Women get caught up in fulfilling the criteria on this list and nearly every man does fit when you first date him- most know how to act accordingly to what he thinks a woman wants.

The solution: A younger man. Because he doesn't care if he fits your criteria, he is who he is, take it or leave it. He is usually not "ideal" because women resort to petty material objects on their checklist (i.e nice car, new house, etc.).

A checklist eliminates the possibility of meeting or dating men whom a woman wouldn't normally give a chance. Throwing away the checklist lets love happen naturally because it enables a woman to let her walls down and not control the path a relationship takes. When dating a younger man, a woman literally has to have faith in the unknown. For instance, single women in their 30's may not date a younger man for fear he will not want kids or get married as soon as she wants to.

What we have to realize is if the relationship is true love then it doesn't matter what age the younger man is, he will commit if he loves you. There are plenty of older men who have a fear of committment so that's a hasty generalization if it keeps a woman from dating younger. Or maybe an older woman doesn't want committment and therefore a younger man is alos very ideal.

 So how do I know anything about this topic? Experience. No, I wouldn't have qualified as a cougar because I wasn't quite old enough to be considered one. I do know that I had a hot and steamy (also fulfilling in many other aspects) relationship with a 20 year old when I was 26 and a 22 year old when I was 29. Every man I dated before I got married was at least 2 years younger than me. In fact, older men (even 3+ years older) seemed creepy.

What did I get from these relationships? Flexibility, spontaneity, passion, fun, flirtation, curiosity about each other, forbiddenness, the unknown, the unexpected, best sex I've ever had, a chance to be immature and not judged, men who wanted to please me, my friends' constant curiosity about what I saw in younger men. Although the six-pack younger men naturally sport should answer that easily. It's not just physical though, it's how they make you feel.