Today's blog is about falling in love on the Internet. This blog is geared more for the female readers. Sorry guys.

Here's the scenario:

You're on a dating site and you meet a seemingly sweet guy. You start with messages back and forth. Just light conversation, "How are you today" type of thing. Then within a week, you're actually discussing interests, current events, hobbies, children, and just about everything you can think of. A couple of weeks go by and you can't stop thinking about this fabulous guy. Then he asks for your phone number. You give it to him and he calls every night and you talk for hours.

After a week or so of phone conversation that leaves your heart beating wildly and your head spinning, he asks if it's too soon to tell you he loves you. You're beside yourself with joy. Now it's out there. You're both speaking the words of love and you're both happy.

After another week passes, he starts talking about your future together. He's gone so far as to ask you to marry him. He tells you that he wants you to relocate to his town/state/country because he owns his home, has a great job/career, and it seems like the only logical thing to do. Now keep in mind, you've not met this man in person yet. You mention that fact and he buys a RT plane ticket and flies to you and pays for everything, hotel, food, activities....He's basically spoiling the woman he loves...you.

During this time, you've made love and you start to realize that not one time during all of this has he said, "I love you" without being prompted. You've had to say it first. You also notice that there has been no talk of a future since he's been there...only light conversation and sexual encounters. On day three of his visit, you bring this to his attention with all the tact you can muster. He says, "You didn't think I came all the way out here to marry you, did you"?

You're startled by this remark since that's all he talked about for the past month or so. So you answered, "Well, you did say that was part of why you came out here. I love you, you asked me to marry you. I said yes. So, yeah, I did sort of think that".

Now he starts pulling back. You can feel it happening but you're not quite sure how to deal with it. Now you back track a little and say something like, "Well, that's ok. As long as we love each other, that's all that's important". That appeared to make him feel more comfortable at the moment. However, he still doesn't say the words of love that you're so accustomed to online and over the phone.

When his visit comes to an end and you take him to the airport to get him on that plane that will take him away from you again, you say, "I hope you had as good a time as I did". He replies rather nonchalantly, "You were a perfect hostess". Now you look at him like he just slapped you in the face. You have no idea what the hell happened between the time he got to you and the time he left.

He calls you when he arrives safely home and you ask, "Is everything ok"? He answers with, "I'm just tired from all the travel". So you may think this is ok, but the little voice in your head is screaming, "Somethings not right at all". However, you don't want to listen because you're in love with this man.

As the days go by, the phone calls become less and less and he doesn't answer your calls or emails. When you do finally get through to him, he says, "Oh I've just been busy working". This doesn't sound right since he was always busy working before and it never stopped him. So you ask again, "What's going on". He just replies, "Working. That's all. I love you with all my heart and soul". Whew. Now you feel better but that little voice is still nagging you.

Two weeks pass since he left. The calls are less frequent, the love words are all but nonexistent, he doesn't come online very often, and you're getting pretty stressed out about it. All of a sudden, out of the blue, you get THE call. The one you've been dreading. You answer the phone with your happy voice, "Hi there sweetie". The voice on the other end isn't quite so happy. Your heart sinks. He says, "I've been thinking about us a lot lately. It's not fair to you to have to give up everything just to move to me. I think we should call it off".

Oh my God!!! The room starts to spin. You can't seem to wrap your brain around what he just said. You ask him, "Why...what did I do wrong"? He blandly states, "I love you but it's not fair to you. I'm sorry". That's it. Nothing more. He doesn't give you a reason except for it's not fair to you. You hang up the phone and you never hear from him again.

The truth is that he may have already made up his mind about the whole marriage/relationship issue even before he got to you. It's not anything you did or said. He may have met someone else before he left home but didn't know how to tell you and more than likely he had nonrefundable tickets. He was probably just looking for the "in love" feeling not the real love that he professed. Or perhaps, he didn't feel the chemistry you felt when you finally did meet in real time. You'll never know what really happened unless he tells you.

My advice, as stated before, try to set up a meeting within a two week period. Don't wait to meet until after you fall in love with words and a picture on a screen, or a voice on the phone. Find out if there's a real connection and chemistry before you allow yourself to fall in love.

That's it for today. Thanks for stopping by.