These three things are the most widespread disorders that exist and almost every other medical condition is blamed on the existence of one or more of these factors They are all considered personal choices and hereditary based. Marketing makes millions daily from offering cures. Most usually the person with any of these is considered a "problem" because they should be "doing" something about it. Society beats these people up, these people beat themselves up, we try to conceal, deny, and ban. Yet how can we ban, conceal or deny the most prevalent of issues presented to all societies equally?

At some point in dealing with these issues and looking for answers, the feeling of being stuck becomes prevalent. Why does it seem so difficult? We employ measures of positive thought, we go to AA Meetings, we round up our support groups, we read, we analyze, we invest in everything on the market. These things all help, but at the end of each day we still seem to be stuck, vowing tomorrow will be the day we find the cure, the answers, and overcome.

Although this video is curiously amusing, feeling stuck is nothing of the sort. Feeling stuck only aggravates the issues further. As this video does aptly depict, getting out of these positions requires much effort and usually assistance.

I have learned, and employed many amazing healing benefits into my life. I was born with mitral valve prolapse, I was able to stop taking beta blockers after 20 years and the murmur can't even be found by the doctors who used to treat it. This and many other miracles have manifested into my life through holistic medicine.

Here is where I got stuck, if I can manifest these miracles into my life, what makes something as simple as stopping smoking, where I have a choice so elusive? What makes addiction, overweight, depression and a myriad of similar things appear to be insurmountable. I have explored these questions and searched diligently for answers, and employed my money and energy into alternatives and possibilities. The answer came from the mouth of babes and was so amazing I wonder still, that I couldn't see what was in plain sight.

One of my sisters has 3 young boys ages 2, 3, and 4. She recently decided they were ready to begin learning about fact and fiction. They are quite smart and caught on quickly. I observed the 3 year old as he expressed, "I am sad and that is a fact". The 4 year old piped in, "I am happy and that is a fact". Understanding that a fact cannot be in conflict, they began to argue to convince the other that they were right and the other was wrong. They knew they couldn't both be right if it was a fact.

Observing this, I suddenly realized the "facts" we are being told, telling ourselves and compounding upon. It is more than a label, it becomes a fact and facts are irrefutable right?

Ownership is to have something. if we have something we also have choices affiliated with it. I have something means I can keep it, sell it, trade it, give it away, throw it away and share it. The possibilities are unlimited

Being something is a fact. I am is taught to be the most powerful statement we can use. I am is stating a fact, it is irrefutable, permanent and unchangeable. There is only one possible outcome.

I began listening to myself and others with a different ear and suddenly heard things that shocked me. A recurrent verbiage was being used by those overcoming, as well as those who were not. Everything that is considered curable had many different outcomes and everything considered incurable was having one outcome.

We have a cold, we have cancer, we have heart disease and heart disorders. These others issues are labeled differently though. Someone is(I AM) an alcoholic, is depressed, is gay, is bipolar, is addicted, is a smoker, is fat, is overweight, is bulimic etc.

I heard myself saying "I am a smoker, but I am quitting" What did I think? I am going to quit existing? I would have to become something else, my very identity was at stake here. As is everyone else who is something.

When we have something, we can change its status, when we are something we have to be magicians. A book is hardcover, can we just by thinking and saying change it to softcover? The answer is obvious, a resounding No. That is what we are trying to do when we label that something is then try to change it, magic.

Time too start replacement therapy, or what is often now referred to as re-framing. How do we do this? Where do we begin? I have just started on this new journey and I offer for you to take this journey as well. Start listening to what you say, start listening to what others say. When you hear or say something that sounds like a fact but could be an opinion (fiction), stop and change what is said.

When anyone or you say you are something, re-frame immediately to an I have statement. Example: I am a smoker. re-frame...I have been smoking, I have smoked, I have a cigarette. All of these statements can be changed, to I had, and now it can go away, just like a common cold, you can get over it and be cured.  I enjoy experiencing the change in the way I feel with these reframes and look forward to unlimited possiblities.

I have recommended some articles below that share more on the subjects of self talk and re-framing that may be very useful.