Why is it our children fight with each other?

In most cases it has more to do with obtaining top rank among siblings.

This behavior can certainly cause quite an upset between family members and even family friends, not to mention the parents and how they deal with their children behaving like enemies.

You will first experience this fine-tuned art of fighting with siblings at toddler age, thankfully at this age the behavior never really gets out of hand.

Once school age is reached, it is a diffrent story thoough as both parties are more likely to take the fighting to a new level, challenging each other for top spot and this is where it may get out of hand.

Fighting will normally happen when children are tired or bored. Usually seeking adult attention is the aim of many siblings battles. Epecially when there is nothing much else taking their attention.

So niggling at one another starting a fight to break the boredom will get the parents immediate attention, as all children learn very quikly this is the best way get it.

Fighting among toddlers is to be expected as they need to learn from many things in life yet, its usually not as serious as older children.

But can be let go on to long.

Parents find this a difficult time, as it plays a large part of each day demanding adult attention.

Many children are bullied, this mainly happens in the school years.

You will find that most times the child bullied will be the quiet one less likely to react to being bullied.

But then again there are the quiet children with a short fuse who reacts quickly when push to the limit and usually will hit to hurt.

Even though, this child wouldnt mean to hurt the bully but wants the torment to stop and this seems to be the only way to get through to the bully to make it happen.

As much as this child didn’t mean to hurt or upset the other child, he will now be tagged as the aggressive type who has no control of his own behavior.

We will never stop the fighting completely, but we must minimize or at least control it where possible.

With saying that, we should really only get involved when things go to far, we need to stay out of it until this point.

Children usually sort it out, and within minutes are best buddies again.

Although parents need to remain aware of the situation so if it sounds like it’s getting out of hand, take your children and do the fair thing by separating each child by placing them in different rooms to one another, giving them time to cool down.

Allow at least five minutes or so, this is a reasonable amount of time to be separated. Giving the children this time apart helps them recognise what caused the time out treatment.