CHILDREN, OUR MOST PRECIOUS GIFT

Children…they are our most precious gift, but sometimes it feels like they run us! The answer is simple and I know a lot of parents are not going to want to hear this, but it really is this simple.

Tell your children what you want and what you expect and what you will not tolerate, period. Then write it down if you have to, because you have to stick by what you lay down as the laws of the land.

How do I know that this works…well my children are the perfect example. They essentially live two different live. One, where they are the bosses and they do as they please, which in my opinion leaves them searching for leadership. We all want to be lead, it’s much easier and our precious children deserve to be lead. Two, where they live with love, warmth, caring, rules, boundaries, responsibilities, good praise for progress that they have shown and showing them disappointment when they do not do as they have been asked. It all boils down to making your children responsible for their actions, good or bad.

Someone who is very liberal may be thinking, I don’t want to make my child little robots. Well, not telling your kids what you expect and following up on those laws of the land really is doing your children a disservice.

Lets think about this for a minute, say you just got a new job. You are running around trying to figure out what your tasks and responsibilities are. You have never been sat down and told what’s expected, you have never been given a job description to model your daily activities by, and no one at the company will give you straight forward answers about what’s expected from you. SOUNDS TOO GOOD TO BE TRUE, RIGHT? Not really, if that was your job setting, you would probably get bored and start doing some things to get yourself into some sort of trouble, I’m sure. You would be thinking, why should I try to get anything done, no one cares what I do. That, in my opinion, is not a good scenario at all. No job satisfaction, no self-satisfaction and no real way to do good enough to move up in the company.

A much better career scenario would be; you are told what you are required to accomplish on a daily or weekly basis. You are told what is expected from your immediate supervisor and what the company owner likes to see in his/her employees and probably even a set of company rules in a booklet to let it be known to all what is and is not tolerated by the company.

Now it is your decision on how far you can take your career. That is what you can and should give your children. I think they deserve it. This will give your children the ability to move higher in your family ranking, in other words they can grow into young adults with ease and enjoy their upbringing. I would like for all children to have the ability to do this. They will feel self satisfied and happy. Knowing exactly what they can do and even how they should act. That is what they crave. It’s really what we all crave.

The bible is our rulebook as adults and if you’ve had a good upbringing, I’m sure that your parents still have some advice or say so in your life now. If you raise your children in this manner, they will probably even come to you seeking advice as young adults when they have children of their own.