Be A Part Of The Solution To Workplace Bullying

If you are being bullied you really need to keep a diary - what did I advise? Please keep a diary. Why do I say this? Well, it is because if you end up having to confront the bully or offer proof to the Office Executive, or the owner of the  company where you  work, or even just to ensure that you personally know that you are not going insane. You have written evidence which you have diarised that you can refer to in an instant.

And No - you are not going mad it is just that little things add up so much you begin to feel overwhelmed, you can suffer a loss of confidence and of course any ensuing stress leads to loss of sleep. Loss of sleep leads to forgetfulness. It then really becomes a vicious circle until such time that the people being bullied either deal with their issues or pull up stumps. 

So to get back to why a person being bullied needs to keep a diary an example could be that when for instance the bully sets a time for a meeting then either forgets to tell you or changes something pertinent e.g. the time or place when you are required to attend , rather than suffering through even more manufactured personal embarrassment because of your late attendance or even non-attendance, you can then refer to your diary and state in public (if you feel able) that you were given the wrong time by whoever, and request that the person responsible for making future meeting times email you in the future - try to get any future relevant information in writing-via email if possible - even have the next meeting specified in the Minutes for all to read and digest. Then put both your incident and your solution into your diary. Try to be methodical and deal with each tyrannical issue in the same way.

Another small solution on your part could be that you could meet with the person who is behaving inappropriately towards you and tell this sad individual that their bullying ways are unacceptable. However you must do your best to remain Professional at all times - do not sink to the same level as your oppressor. If you must have a one-on-one meeting with the bully, place a tape recorder on the table within plain view - it may slow things down a little. Now despite the fact that by this stage of the game you are starting to lose confidence and maybe becoming rattled, try to be prepared and calm for all onslaughts.

Remember if you can that while this whole vile experience is new to you, the serial offender has probably enjoyed this process a number of times in the past and that he/she is adept in sadistically manipulating you.

The best advice through out all these words though is to keep a DIARY - for your own sake.

copyright: author a.a.hardy/gallagher