When one first falls in love you think that this passionate love that you both have for eachother is going to last forever.  You have both fallen in love and there is a chemical reaction that is happening inside of the two of you that is more than explosive.  Your level of endorphins (which make you feel happy) soar higher than they have ever soared before and you are both just ecstatic. 

The problem is that this level of chemical explosion in your mind and your body cannot and does not last more than four years at the very most and when this phase finishes, if you have picked your partner merely through lust without really having looked carefully at the person that is by your side, you might well find that you look at your partner with very different eyes and you may even find that he no longer attracts you and that you have nothing in common with him.

This stage is often the moment when most marriages or partnershps will come to the point of make or break.  If they only fell in love because they were lusting for eachother then when the four year period is over and the period of being BLINDLY in love is over, they might well find that they don't even like the person that is in front of them and that they have nothing in common so it will be clear that this partnership is going to come to its end.

But if on the other hand, you got to know this person beforehand, meaning before you fell in love, you will no doubt have got to know him well and liked what you saw and it was when you liked what you saw was when you eventually began to fall in love.  This is a much surer way of falling in love permanently because when the four year period comes to an end, although you may not be so passionate the one with the other, there still remains a great friendship, a respect for one another and a commitment.

Then can begin another stage of your love for eachother which may no longer be so lustful or so passionate but may change into a softer and more caring love.  You will still be in love in that you will hurt when you see your partner hurt, worry when he is faced wth problems, try and help him with everything and carry on feeling protective of him.

You may no longer feel like making love at all hours of the day as you used to but if he were to look at another woman you would probably end up feeling quite a bit of jealousy.  You have come to the point where you acknowledge that this is your man and despite the loss of wild passion you still want to be with him for the rest of your life. 

The other thing, is that with a bit of imagination, you can every now and then try to relive the old passion that you had and make it come back for a while.  All of this also depends on what age you first fell in love with your partner because the younger you were the longer the passion will last but if you are older, simply because your bodies and your minds are now getting on and require more peace than action, you will find that you will both be happier with a contented harmony between the two of you.

So at the end of the day, what I am really trying to say is that falling in love is a fantastic thing but if you don't choose the right person which is a person that you like, is your friend, you respect him and he respects you and could imagine spending the rest of your days with, it is most likely not going to work once the passion of four years comes to its end.

It is very hard to think straight when you get your first feelings of attraction towards another person but if you want it to last it would be wise to take a few steps back before you go whole hog out, and look at the person from a clinical point of view.  Do you really like this person, is he kind, is he charming, has he got a good heart, does he seem to worry and care about you, does he make you laugh, do you feel safe when he is near to you, do you find you spend hours talking with eachother and most importantly do you really care a hundred percent for his well being.  Because if you can say yes to all these questions then you will probably be able to last forever with this person.

Always remember that lust doesn't and can't last forever because these emotions are just so strong that our bodies couldn't keep up the pace for that long and so when everything calms down we want to be able to feel that the person that we are looking at is really someone that we genuinely like and care for and if that happens we can be quite sure that we will be able to continue through the rest of our lives together.