Premarital sex kills the charm of marriage. Yes or no.
59How many people believe that having sex before marriage can kill the charm of being married. I for one think this a very old fashioned view. This day and age marriage stands for very little any way.So many husbands/wives are having affairs and running around like singletons.Thanks to the ever growing sites on the internet like friends reunited etc there is a wider range of ways to interact with the opposite sex from the comfort of our own homes.
Reuniting with old school flames often leads people in to affairs,it is a way to escape the married boredom that they have drifted in to.A lack of communication and being side tracked by every day responsabilities leads to doom.
Sex can be a good thing for a relationship.Isn't it best to have a test run?Can you imagine your wedding night with your new husband.The large four poster bed scattered with rose petals,champers chilling on the cabinet,your sexiest nitey clinging to your body(you are looking hot).You sashay over to the man of your desire and join him on the bed.....Passionate kisses follow tender touches and then....Disaster!You guessed it,it turns out that he has an erection problem....Talk about a quick way to divorce.
Now for the new husband,picture the scene....Sexy wifey laying in wait for you.Pouting lips and heaving bosom.....Then...ahhhhhhhh..Failure she has a phobia about sex and your wedding night never gets consumated.
Imagine the adverts you see on television.A new product comes on the market,it looks tempting but it is expensive.So what do you do?Well obvious isn't it....Go and buy a sample,if you like it then you wont have wasted your money and if you dont,phew(money safe).
My motto in life is try it before you buy it because it is not always easy to get a refund and we are in a credit crunch lol(sorry a bit of my strange sarcasm there)....Sex before marriage comes strongly recommended and i feel it can strengthen the marriage.Once you have a ring on your finger it should be more fun thinking up naughty ways to keep your love life spicy.
So come on people,throw caution to the wind and saddle up.Yeha......
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at last some as liberated as myself...Love is great but any one who denies that sex plays a vital role is deluding them selves.Sex is vital so best to make sure you are compatible first eh.
Absolutely! I should have mentioned that the women I dated, mostly semi-long term relationships, were of the same mind. It was mutual.
i have also dated mostly guys who agree with me but i have encountered one who didnt.It was a difficult time because i liked him but for me sex is a healthy enjoyable past time and boy was it frustrating lol.
Saddle up? ROFL! :D Yee Hah!
I agree that sex before marriage is a good idea, but don't tell my teenagers please! ;)
I have nothing to add except that I've wondered if people who do save themselves for marriage ever stray way down the road after the romance fizzles out and maybe they want to know if the grass is greener with someone else. At least veterans know it generally isn't...for very long anyway. ;) lol!
Nice to meet a liberated lady and dont worry i wont tell the kids lol....a lot of folk assume the grass is always greener but what they fail to see that the grass can always grow new seed if couples just work harder at keeping the fun/romance alive.xx
Try before you buy is a well trusted truism but common sense, health checks, and a bit of caution are all good standards to have in your armoury.
Intersting take on a tricky (for some) subject,
Gosh, I'm no prude but I truly could agrue both sides here. Sex with a partner is a total learning experience. When you stop learning about what pleases someone, then sex can loose it's mystique. So whether you start learning before or after a wedding night seems inconsequential. It's not do or die.. if you wait till marriage and your partner has physical limitations or mental/emotional inhibitions there are tons of resources available to assist. I would have to say it simply depends on the two people involved whether sex before or after marriage works, and works for the long haul. Like everything else, it just takes effort.
But I have complete admiration for someone who decides to wait until marriage. However, I'm not convinced that it makes for a stronger relationship or bond.
Me? I knew what I was getting ;)
I'm just an old-fashioned romantic, so I am compelled to say no, even though I'm probably alone on this one. Sex without love and commitment is just sex. Anybody can do that. I want something more.
old fashioned is fine but i do feel that it is best to try before you commit...That doesnt mean sex has to be done with out love though.x
Very true. I'm still holding out though :)
well i have to be honest and say that i can't hold out lol my guy is just so darned adorable and well you can imagine the rest .xx
I'm more of an advocate against marriiage, but I am pro- sex. I think its wedded bliss, not sex that ruins a good relationship.
Well having not ever being married yet I wouldn't know but I still wouldn't mind risking it and hope one day my guy will pop the question....xx
Marriage is good, but either one partner has to be totally selfless (a human improbability) or both have to be for the other upwards of 80%. Successful sex is somewhat of a good indicator that there is some good mutual consideration going on, but for marriage to work that mutual consideraton has to be on almost every level. While you're looking for someone who can have that kind of special consideration for you, what are you supposed to do? A lot of people say, 'wait,' but I don't think I could have survived, personally.
I am very happy to be married now.
I as stated earlier am not married yet.....how ever I know waiting would be a big NO....sex is a great past time especially as my guy is soooooo adorable.xx
Christoph Reilly says:
11 months ago
I agree with you 100 percent. What if you're not compatible sexually? That would be a disaster. Of course, not having the other experience makes it difficult to say. I didn't get married until I was 40. I had needs, you know, so I could not have had a girlfriend if she was not having sex with me. It just isn't reasonable (and unhealthy.)
Great hub, and welcome!