My husband is black, He happens to also be my best firend. I never once thought of his race as being a problem or obstacle or of me being a hispanic women, or of us being together as being somehow offensive to someone. But after nearly ten years of marriage, there are still people who give us a dirty look, or sneer at us walking by with our children. Some have even made racial remarks about our bi-racial marriage, even about our beautiful bi-racial children.

At first, all I wanted to do was run home and cry. Just shocked at how nasty some people can be. At how evil-hearted some folks are. How much hatred they must have inside themselves to say the things that come out of their mouths, let alone to even think them in the first place. But I've come to accept and realize most of all that you are not here to please others whether you are in a bi-racial relationship or you are yourself bi-racial. Of if you're gay or lesbian or yellow or purple. The reality is that we have found in each other, our soulmates our happiness, our other half that we want to spend the rest of our lives with, grow old with, have children and grandchildren with no matter what anyone says or thinks about it.

Can anyone truly say they are pure caucasian, pure black have no colored blood in them at all? No, we are all so mixed up in this 'mixing bowl' we call America, in this whole planet, We are all a mix of something or another and we are all beautiful in our own ways. I have had some pretty scary experiences, with racists. At a grocery store a couple of years ago, I had this black woman come up to me, as my husband was walking away down an aisle to fetch something, this lady walks up to me and says, "HOW DARE YOU TAKE ONE OF OUR BROTHERS, WE BARELY HAVE ENOUGH BLACK MEN TO GO AROUND, AND HERE IS YOUR @$!@$ (RACIAL REMARK TOWARD WHITE WOMEN) TAKING OUR MEN FROM US." At first I'll admit I had this fleeting moment of wanting to cry, but just as quickly I snapped back and said" FIRST OF ALL, I'M NOT WHITE AND SECOND IF YOU KNEW HOW TO KEEP A BLACK MAN HAPPY YOU WOULD HAVE ONE, WOULDN'T YOU?" and walked away calmly. She stood there with her mouth gapped open.

On another occassion, at a local grocery store, a mexican man came up to me and in a low voice asked if he could ask me a question, I said yeah, he says"WHAT'S YOUR PROBLEM BEING WITH A *@!$@! (DERROGATORY TERM FOR BLACKS) DO MEXICANS NOT SATISFY YOU SEXUALLY.?" This time I was highly offended by the sheer rudeness and audacity of the man, I leaned forward and simply said,"NO, THEY DON'T". He just stormed away, mumbling to himself. I have just about seen and heard it all, when a woman not too long ago, a black woman, looked at my children with such a disgust, you would have thought she smelled SHIT.. and looked up at me and my husband and shook her head in disgust, We simply laughed at her, shook our heads and kept walking in the zoo. Yes, the Dallas Zoo. But you know what, to her one nasty opinion, there are 200 other folks who stop and admire our beautiful children, they stop and say how cute they are, how lucky we are, how we should put them into modeling and so forth. We have strangers asking us if they can hold them for a second or simply touch their hair, all races of people admire our chidren.

My husband's favorite saying is " "OPINIONS ARE LIKE ASSHOLES, EVERYONE HAS ONE, AND THEY ALL STINK". I love my husband, he's my best friend and soulmate and always will be, no matter how dark or light he is, and no matter where his ancestors are from or aren't from. The reality of the truth is that we all bleed red, we all cry the same tears and we all have the same Creator. We were all created equal in HIS eyes, and in HIS image.