This article is for a very special friend of mine. We go way back, 27 years,..Wow were the dinosaurs still roaming ? Well I know bell bottoms and boom boxes sure was getting around. One great thing about having a friend for so many years, its that you can share experiences, stories and be there to reach out a hand when you know they need help up, lend a shoulder for when they break down and share words that makes you even more closer as friends. It's an Amazing thing, a bond that never breaks regardless of circumstances or time apart.

I wanna thank my friend for sharing her thoughts and bringing up a very sad but yet common relationship problem. When you reach out but they don't reach back. She shared her story in response to my hub hubpages.com/hub/The-No-Talking-List

She wrote:
" My brother and I are like that since the death of our father. Not by my choice of course, I've done everything to keep in touch with him. He did call me when my mom passed away. I thought that was my second chance to have him back, but unfortunately he must not feel the same. What can you do when there's only one person willing. I guess keep trying until you can't try anymore. It's sad how time can either allow you to get those chances back, or lose them all together."

Reaching out to someone who doesn't reach back to you can leave a person with such inner torment. Because they can't make sense why that person is pushing them away so hard. Night after night, you may rack your brains out trying to figure what it was,. that you had so terribly had done wrong .But the answer never seems to come.

..Ya your dad has been gone for a long time,..last time I recall seeing him was when we helped him out with that Haunted House, what were we 14 ma by 15 ? Seems as if it was just yesterday. What fun and pleasure it was spookin' the little kids. As if we were out to conquer them and knowing we won when one would scream or pee their pants. The only worry we had then, was wondering if the fish we won would die before we released them from their plastic baggie of hell.

Unfortunately since it has been so many years and your brother hasn't responded, It isn't likely he will, As sad as that it. I really wouldn't take it personally,..easier said than done I know, but I say this because experience has taught me,.people with those deep grudges has issues with him or herself,..not the person they are grudging. It's sad enough that person is hurting themselves by missing out of those who love them, but to be on the receiving end of blame can be so dam damaging it can cause "self destruct" if you don't find away to let go of the hurt and even more importantly let go of the question why.

You know in your heart of hearts,..you reached out,..more than once, and extended your hand as high as the sky. That's all you can do. So put that aside,..and really enjoys those that reach out to you. I'm not saying to quit trying or stop hoping, because that's the two things that keep people going forward with life. I am just saying, make it to where it you can live your life with an inner peace of things and perhaps one day your brother may have a life changing
moment that will bring him back to you.

Do you have someone on your no talking list,..or maby your name is on someones no talking list,..Why you should fix it and Why,...

http://hubpages.com/_notalking/hub/The-No-Talking-List