When the going gets tough in a relationship often it seems today this is where the people get going...... away from each other as fast as possible. It is a fact of life that nearly 2 out of three relationships do not last more than a few years. This can be a tragedy especially if children are involved.

Dont get me wrong - not every relationship can survive and painful as it is there are times when breaking up is the only option. However, there are so many people I meet who wish they had a way of rebuilding the relationship when it had broken down.

Often we just do not have the tools. This is not a subject taught in high school! How do you go about getting trust back after a bad breakup. How do you go about getting your ex boyfriend or girlfriend back?

Rebuild Relationship has a website that has some great viseos and articles about breakup and rebuilding trust.

Well here are a few tips that might begin to help you.

Do not start out by runnig after your ex. Dont spend time apologising for everything, ringing them up all the time or texting them - it wont work. They will just get angry with you and they will feel like they are being stalked. just DONT do it!!

What ever you inner feeling at this moment - and if you are suffering from a broken heart - you probably will be in turmoil emotionally now is the time for logical thinking. Do not act from the heart at the moment act from your head. if you are really serious about getting your ex back then you neen a plan.Now what i am going to show does not sound that powerful but believe me it will give you insights into why your relationship boke down and how you might go about saving a relationship.

Get 3 piece sof paper and arrange three chairs facing each other - its important that you actually have the chairs arranged (or if you dont have chairs three cushions or pillows).Write on the top of one of the pieces of paper your name, on top of another your ex's name and on the third the name of a more or less neutral friend (if you dont have one of these then wite down a TV host like Oprah - use someone you think you would trust to give honest answers)

Now sit in one of the chairs and ask yourself the following question. Why do I think the breakup happened? Write down as many reasons as you can think of on the piece of paper with your name on it.

Now move to another chair, take a deep breath and think for a moment about what you had for breakfast. Now i want you to become in your mind your ex. And now I want you to take the piece of paper with his or her name on it and repeat the question. Why do i think the breakup happened. Remember you are answering this as your ex, not you. Again write down as many reasons as you can think.

Now move to the last chair. You are now your friend (or Oprah). Ask the question. Why did this relationship end. Again write down on the new piece of paper as many reasons as you can think of.

Now go back to your original seat as you.

Now read what you ahve written on all three sheets. What are the similararities? What are the differences?

As you sit there and think about what is written there, what is the one thing that you need to say to your ex? What does she or he need to hear from you?

I cannot tell you this, but you do know it yourself and beneath all the emotion you know the way forward for you. If you have done this well for you this can be the start of your plan to get your ex back. it may be something you need to say or something you need to do. however, dont rush in, take your time but do take action.

I hope this helps you see what is best for you during aht can be a really emotional time during a bad breakup.

Rebuild Relationship has a website that has some great viseos and articles about breakup and rebuilding trust.