There is something about our past that holds us back. - All of us have this dilemma. It's tough, but it's the truth. We have to learn to live with a burden. Fortunately, it is within our ability to make our load heavy or light. This is all about accepting your self for having an ugly past and honesty to the people you love...

This isn't purely about courageously revealing a dark secret to our partner because it's the right thing, letting go of a secret is healthy living, more so when you are in a relationship.

Acceptance is necessary. We owe it to our self; and honesty is the right thing to do for those people we hold dear to us.

The most important part of revealing your secrets had to be telling yourself that you are over your murky past. - That you've already left it locked inside a box in a corner. This is a hard part unless all people have dementia and can just forget about it permanently. You see, there isn't a single technology that allows us to consciously erase something in the past that bothers our daily living. Every body holds a secret. - No exemptions. We all have to live with it.

And, any kind of relationship is about sharing - this includes sharing the past. At some point or another, there will be a time that we have to trustfully tell our partners about our past. In a REALationship each other is just a part of each other's lives. Whatever and everything about you becomes also part of the other. You have to share everything including your pasts. Simply put, sharing your secrets to your partner is important in trust-building, and obviously, you can't trust or be trusted unless you first accept, love, and trust your self.

So first, you have to accept and trust yourself that you are already moving on. Before sharing a dark secret, you first have to get yourself ready; and then trust that your partner will accept you for whoever you are and were. In being honest to your partner about your painful past, the most important step is to ensure that you are completely over your negative past. So isn't it time to move forward?

Focus your self on learning something good about that bad past of yours. Show it to your self. Eventually everybody who knows or would know about your dark secret would see that you have actually moved on. This would be the only way for you to decide confidently to reveal everything about you to your special someone. ~Ae Dechavez

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