Today I'm going to talk about online profiles.

I did a little experiment with writing different profiles on different dating sites to see what type of men I could attract.

Profile 1. Poetic/Sexy

I can barely tolerate living day to day in the darkness that invades my heart. I want to be happy again. I want to smile as he pulls in the driveway. I want to run into his arms and hold him; to devour him. I want to dance the night away with him whispering those delicious words that make my heart skip a beat. To feel his hands caress my back as we hold each other tight. To feel his manliness pulsate as he pulls me even closer to him. To make love beneath the moon and stars and know that we belong to each other for eternity. To lavish him with all the love I have to give. To keep him high on the pedestal on which I've placed him.

I can sense his presence as he walks alone in the cloudiness of his own heart. He's searching for me. He can see me in his mind's eye. He wanders aimlessly, needing, wanting. He has a heart full of love to give the woman who haunts his dreams; his every thought is this fantasy woman who seems to be just out of his reach. He knows he has met her, or perhaps spoken to her somewhere before. His body trembles at her thought. He hears her as she beckons to him, "Come to me my love. I'm here. I'm here. My heart awaits". He reaches out for her but for now she's only in his mind. He awakes in a cold sweat and knows he must find her. He searches........

Write me and let's find out if we're a good match.

Profile 2. Informative/Humorous

Well here we go. (drum roll please)

I live in a small town at the base of a mountain. I know, how unusual in Oregon. I'm a countrified city girl who moved from the LA area to Oregon in 1986. I came to Oregon on a whim and wound up moving to Coos Bay two weeks later. I guess I'm a "fly by the seat of my pants" kind of gal. Since then, I've lived in Bandon, Port Orford, and now Cave Junction. All of my children are grown and have families of their own so I can and would consider relocating for the right man.

I enjoy dancing, live theater, movies, picnics, travel, music, writing, holding hands, kissing, cuddling, spooning, and PDAs. I have a great, although somewhat warped and sarcastic, sense of humor and I don't mind sharing it. I'm friendly, fun, , confident, and opinionated(but accept other's opinions...after all you have the right to yours too). I love shoes and have quite a few pairs (I won't go into numbers here). If asked what I'll bring to the table, in a relationship, I'd have to say it's definitely "Charisma".

I also have tattoos and a couple of piercings. All but one of my tats are my own artwork. I'm outgoing, artistic, and fun. I'm also an amateur photographer and have had 3 photos published. Contact me if only if you're seriously interested in meeting in person.

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I put these profiles up about a week ago. Now which one do you thing got the more serious responses? Which got the scammers? Which got hits from men looking for NSA relationships?

Oddly enough, Profile 1. Poetic/Sexy, got the more serious inquiries, "I'd really like to get to know the person behind the mind".

Both were hit hard by scammers, "I am liking to get to no you better"

Profile 2. Informative/Humorous, was the, "NSA" hits with the exception of two men who wrote and honestly wanted to meet.

So now, for myself, I have found that a lot of men seem to like a more poetic or romantic profile. I am going to assume these are more the romantic type of men who are guided by their hearts and they are seriously looking for a long term relationship.

Although, I believe everything I've written here, I also believe that putting your likes, wants, needs, and goals, into a profile is also good practice. I believe that if you're upfront about what you're looking for in a mate, there is no mistaking it for anything other than what it says. Moreover, and most importantly, always be as honest as possible in your profile ads.

That's my advise for today. I hope it helps in some small way.