When to see the red flags and run for the hills

Yes ladies and gentleman there are red flags that let you know that perhaps that person may not be the one for you. I remember making a pact with a good friend after coming out of turbulent relationship, we had decided that now that we knew the signs of unhealthy relationships we would run for the hills as soon as we spotted a red flag. It is unfortunate but useful how some of us have to experience things in life, learn from them and use them as valuable lessons for our future endeavors in meeting our life long partner.

So you meet this incredible person and suddenly your heart is racing and all you can do is think of him (her). When you’re together the conversation is intense. You swear this is the one for you. Two,Three weeks into the relationship you start noticing shady things, but you let them pass because after all know one’s perfect. Okay stop. No one may be perfect but that doesn’t mean we settle for less only to be caught up years later in a web of disaster.

Here is a list of 5 red flags that should help you rethink a future relationship with a person.

1. Jealousy- If the person starts questioning you about your whereabouts in a very demanding way, makes accusations of you cheating with no reason at all. In general has a jealous streak that you don’t find amusing what so ever. Opposes to you going out because of their fear of losing you to another, doesn’t approve of the way you dress for the fear of another finding you attractive. Becomes extremely upset when you notice or are being noticed by the opposite sex, is jealous of those closest to you.

2. Controlling- Prohibits you from going places and spending time with your friends and family. Tells you what you should or shouldn’t do with your money, Becomes upset if he or she is not aware of you daily schedule and routine. Calls you repeatedly to check on you and see where you are, constantly accuses you of lying.

3. Pathological lying- Some say there is nothing wrong with the occasional little white lie, I say when there are several little white lies there is definitely something wrong and they are certainly not little any longer. There aren’t many good reason’s to lie, but when you find a person lying for no good reason at all that’s pretty odd. Lying crushes any hope for trust and a good relationship is among other things build on trust.

4. Overly Flirtatious- So you are noticing that when ever you go out with your special friend he (she) is constantly flirty with others, while you’re seated at the dinner table in the restaurant they can’t keep there eyes of the person seated behind you and I’m just not talking a few seconds of an innocent glance for the appreciation of beauty, I’m talking the whole darn date. You notice that perhaps you should start carrying a neck brace because eventually your significant other is going to break there neck by continuously turning it when ever someone attractive walks by, also makes suggestive remarks to the opposite sex while in front of you.

5. Erratic behavior- You start noticing bizarre mood swings. They tend to become angry easily and have sudden outburst. They have violent tendencies towards you and others.