Saying yes to divorce is not easy because everybody likes new beginnings and happy endings. Ending a marriage is not a happy event. Some men and women realize that divorce is the only way out of an unhappy marriage. An article in a recent newspaper tells about a husband who abused alcohol and his wife. He accepted a job offer that took him to the war zone in Iraq. He battled heroically and came back to America. His behavior did not change for the better. He landed in a place that rehabilitates people with drinking problems and came out. His behavior did not change. The wife did not change either and stayed in the miserable existence of an unhappy marriage and relationship. The readers could clearly see that the woman needed to leave and divorce her husband instead of accepting him back time and time again.

Saying yes to divorce is not easy because the people in the relationship is so involved in the abusive routines that the two co-exist in separate worlds joined together only by the marriage certificate. Some couples seek counseling to get to a resolution that would benefit the two amicably. Counselors often tell these couples and especially to the women that the only way out is to say yes to divorce in physically abusive relationships.

A program about abusive relationship showed that women can tolerate the physical abuse more so than the mental abuse when neither should be in a marriage. The woman on the program married twice and with each marriage, selected the same type of personality type. She stayed longer in the physically abusive relationship which was her first marriage than the mentally abusive relationship. Saying yes to divorce to the first and second marriage was the right choice.

If you are in a relationship that you know you should leave but do not know what steps to take, locate a seminar in your local area on divorce. A majority of the time women keep their relationship status to themselves as some sort of pride of ownership instead of sharing their experiences with support groups. Once they realize that they are not alone in their situations with the interactions of others, saying yes to divorce becomes easier.

Sometimes you will see yourself in a support member as some of you saw yourselves at the introduction of this article. A step outside of the relationship and an objective and subjective look at the pros and cons of amending or mending a marriage also helps you to decide whether to say yes to divorce.

You are the only one to make that decision as the abuser will not seek to leave as you are serving as the object of his whatever frustrations.  Do not continue to serve as the ligthning rod for matters that do not concern you but to be a reciprocal of his anger.  Make the right decision and say yes to divorce.  By saying yes to divorce, you are saying no to an abusive relationship that may sadistically relieve him but is a detriment to your character and who you are as a human being.