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By mistyhorizon2003


Wolf spider
Wolf spider
Giant Tarantula
Giant Tarantula

Now I am the first to admit to being scared of spiders ever since a very young age. There is no reason behind my fear, none of my family are particularly bothered by them, and here in Guernsey we have no poisonous ones to worry about. This doesn't change the fact that if I see a large house spider charging along the carpet I instinctively freeze and bring my legs up on to the sofa out of reach, (in case it decides to jump me!)

The truly crazy thing is that I actually find the darned things fascinating if I am watching a nature documentary about them. The way they spin their webs and the detail involved, the way they hunt, (whether with webs or not) and the sheer necessity of them being on this planet. But put me in a room with one and I go to pieces.

Okay, I am far from as bad as I used to be, but my memories still haunt me of the times I had close encounters with spiders I would prefer to forget. For example, the instance where I was lying in bed and in the semi-darkness saw a massive spider running along the shelf next to my bed. In hysterics I ran downstairs frantically asking my Mum to come and 'get rid of it', but she wanted to watch the end of the News. By the time she came upstairs it had vanished and I was refusing to go back into the bedroom. Mum obligingly pulled out the bed to try and find this hairy monster, at which point it came hurtling out from under the bed straight towards where I was standing in the doorway. Letting out an almighty scream I crashed into my Sister's bedroom opposite at high speed, slamming the door behind me, and nearly giving her a heart attack in the process.

Meanwhile, Mum managed to catch the spider in a tea towel, but also managed to drop it on the way down the stairs. In case it returned to my room I refused point blank to sleep in the room for at least a week afterwards, and moved into the spare room on the lower floor. Even Mum agreed it was the biggest spider she had seen over here, and her guess was that it was a female carrying eggs, (not a comforting thought believe me!)


Funnel-Web Spider
Funnel-Web Spider
Dew on Spider's Web
Dew on Spider's Web
Trap-Door Spider
Trap-Door Spider

Another time I was babysitting for a couple's children, and whilst the couple were out another vast spider decided to taunt me by tap dancing on the carpet in front of my chair. By now I realised there was only one way to deal with this problem if alone. In other words the wine glass and paper trick. I quickly grabbed an empty glass, just about fitting it over the spider, then slid an envelope underneath it. Too scared to risk throwing the spider outside in case the wind blew it back onto me, I placed it carefully on the kitchen table for the couple to dispose of later. What ended up being really funny was how their two year old son was absolutely fascinated by the spider the following day, and I became his hero for providing such great entertainment.

Of course then there was the occasion I was in the bath, and realised a spider was gently lowering itself from the ceiling towards my face. Both me and the bath water exited the bath simultaneously.

Then there was the time I went to the toilet in the middle of the night having first put on my dressing gown. As I lifted it up to sit on the loo, a large spider fell out of the back of it into the toilet bowl. This really freaked me out, as it must have been against my skin all along. I quickly flushed the chain in case it managed to jump back up on to my bare bottom whilst I did what nature intended.

Lastly, the tale that springs to mind is when I worked in the rat breeding unit, and at lunchtime we came out for our sandwiches in the small shed. The shed was equipped with a sink and electricity, and as I went to fill the kettle I looked down into the sink and saw a huge spider staring back up at me. In horror I leapt backwards, and one of the male staff kindly agreed to remove it. Funny thing was that when he picked it up it actually bit him. Alright, there was no danger of it being poisonous, but he still said it hurt, and I found out later that even some house spiders can inflict a painful, if non-venomous bite.

I want to know if they are truly more scared of us than we are of them, then why do they always seem to run towards us at high speed, rather than in the opposite direction? And what about those ones who seem to be wearing clogs because they are so huge? I am pretty damn certain I am more scared of them than they are of me!!!


Trap Door Spider
Trap Door Spider
Spider Web Dew
Spider Web Dew
Trap-door Spider
Trap-door Spider

As the years have passed I have become much more tolerant of these arachnids, and found that given the time to summon up some courage, I even managed to hold a giant Tarantula that covered both my hands completely, (possibly because it reminded me more of a Guinea-Pig than a spider due to it's size and slow movements).

I have now developed techniques that have really helped me to deal with the problem of finding a spider in my home and not being able to reach it to remove it using the glass and paper trick. I want to share these tips with you, as I know they work, and make spiders far more bearable for those of us who are generally terrified of them.

1) If you find an 'out of reach' spider, such as on your bathroom ceiling, give it a name. Last year I had one in our bathroom for a week or more, and I called him 'Harry'. By doing this I thought of him more as a pet than something to be scared of, and when he vanished on his own I was not too worried about where he had gone. I currently have one living on my car wing mirror called 'Boris', and he is kind of pretty, black with orange dots all over his body.

2) Watch as many documentaries on spiders as you can. They are fascinating creatures and once you watch how they hunt, be them trap door spiders or the spiders we all know who spin webs, you may well find your interest outweighs your fear. Did you know a spider's web is many times the strength of steel of the same diameter? Scientists are still trying to find a way to reproduce this strength to human advantage.

3) Look at a spider web in your garden first thing in the morning when it is covered in dew. Few things are more beautiful in nature, and a spider's web is a work of art.

4) Go to your local zoo and look in the spider section. Learn more about them and you will grow to appreciate them. Watching them through a glass screen will make them seem a whole lot less threatening.

5) If all else fails get a cat. My cats tend to catch most spiders in our home, and whilst I hate them killing anything, I am not usually quick enough to rescue the spider concerned. At best I find a set of legs left behind and the torso gone.

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starrkissed profile image

starrkissed  says:
14 months ago

lol just seeing the pictures freaks me out. i hate them. o.o even the teeny tiny ones.

Just_Rodney profile image

Just_Rodney  says:
14 months ago

As you say, they need to be understood, they are an important part of our very precarious eco system. They have a vital role to play. Therefore avoid them and try to avoid killing them.

The Discovery Channel aired an excellent article on the important role that Spiders and their kin perform in the overall balance and scheme of things.

mistyhorizon2003 profile image

mistyhorizon2003  says:
14 months ago

Thanks Starrkissed for your comment. They freak me out too, but I am a lot better than I used to be.

Hi Rodney, thanks for popping in. They are fascinating creatures, and essential to the planet, so I never kill them and simply tolerate them now, or remove them to outside.

jim10 profile image

jim10  says:
14 months ago

My wife is petrified of spiders. She has also made it so that my sons are also scared of spiders. We don't have any poisonous ones around us but they are still scared. I would probably be somewhat worried if I had deadly ones around. But I really don't think anything of them. I would even leave them in the house since they will get rid of other bugs. I just wouldn't want the spider webs everywhere. great suggestions for getting over the fear of them by the way.

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mistyhorizon2003  says:
14 months ago

Thanks Jim10, they worked out okay for me, although I am still scared of spiders, but not nearly so much as before. :)

Lady Guinevere profile image

Lady Guinevere  says:
14 months ago

I hate them, but won't go kill them either. We do have poisonous ones here..the brown recluse and the black widow and the brother of the brown recluse who has a bite just as poisonous as his brother. They have rings on their bare legs and they will jump at you. We also have HUGE black ones that come into the house a few times and they too jump right at you. I don't have to worry about any spiders or bugs that happen to come into the house. My cats love their free toys!

I got bit by one in my bed sheets a few years back and my foot swelled and my skin began to peal off. I went to the ER and they docotor that saw me--he didn't live on this planet--he told me that spiders don't bite people. My husband and I just looked at each other in amazement. I was given some anti-biotics and sent home. Now I will kill these little black ones that have a white spot on their back. I don't know what they are called or if they are poisonous because I can't find a picture or description of them on-line.

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mistyhorizon2003  says:
14 months ago

Sounds really nasty Lady Guinevere, only one thing worse than a spider in your house, and that has to be one that either jumps at you or bites you in your house.

Constant Walker profile image

Constant Walker  says:
14 months ago

I have irrational arachnophobia. My entire family has it. It's irrational because one, look at the size comparison to a very large spider and even a small toddler. The child is a monster in comparison. And two, like you said - they are fascinating creatures. Watching nature shows about how miraculous they are has definitely helped and there now a few I even like (they look like little square tanks!). I won't pick them (duh!) but I enjoy watching them.

cgull8m profile image

cgull8m  says:
14 months ago

I love the spiders, they make a great web near my rose plant and eat the bugs, so I let them grow. If I see them inside, I take them out instead of killing it. They deserve to live also.

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mistyhorizon2003  says:
14 months ago

Thanks CW for commenting, yes you can get used to them if you really try and they aren't too huge and fast moving. They are amazing creatures after all :)

cgull8m, thanks for stopping by and commentng. Spiders are definitely essential to our wellbeing, and I never kill them intentionally.

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Sara Algoe  says:
14 months ago

Well frankly speaking only population thriving these days is Human Population. So we need to help each and every animal, birds, insects, plants etc to ensure their survival.

Like ! Spiders I cant imagine an old place without spiders in the picture. Only spider I fear is the Banana Spider I saw it on TV that its more poisonous than king cobra. Size doesn't matter in this case. Great Hub!

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mistyhorizon2003  says:
14 months ago

Thanks Sara, great comment :)

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Sally's Trove  says:
14 months ago

I love spiders, to a point (I'm not afraid of them). Like you, I don't have poisonous varieties here; however, they will bite and leave you uncomfortable, if you let them. I love them because they eat every other bad bug in the house and in the garden.

But now, winter is coming on, and the spiders find their way into the house. Hey, it's warm here!

When I find a spider in the house, I usually capture it under a glass, slip a piece of rigid paper between the glass and the floor, invert the glass using the paper as the lid, and dump the spider outside.

However, this year, my house seems to be the great gathering place. Yesterday, I went to put a fesh pair of jeans on, and as I put one foot in one leg, a HUGE spider raced out from the leg of the jeans. Freaked me out. I took my running shoe and squashed it. This is not what I want to do with spiders, but this sucker was bigger than my thumb. And it was in my PANTS!

Turns out that the running shoe I squashed it with had such deep treads that, although the spider was dead, it still had a life-like form after being squashed. So I scraped it off my shoe and gave it the proper burial.

I love the photos in this Hub. Spiders are magnificent. I just wish they would stay outside.

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mistyhorizon2003  says:
14 months ago

Hi Sally, I guess I would freak too after finding one in my pants!!! The glass and paper trick works well, but for when you aren't around the cats work better still!

The cold damp weather seems to definitely bring them indoors.

Like you, I wish they would simply stay outside, or even on my car wing mirrors like they do now! :)

Callum  says:
5 months ago

Here where i live there are no poisonous spiders (apart from the false widow spider, sister to the black widow - rare). Everybody says that they see more spiders appear in their houses in the winter, whereas where i live, the hotter it gets, the more house spiders i see throughtout the house. For example, i saw no spiders of any variety in my house during the entire winter season, yet today, on the 23rd of June, i saw 4 separate spiders in my bedroom. I just wonder why?

mistyhorizon2003 profile image

mistyhorizon2003  says:
5 months ago

That is strange Callum, perhaps it is too hot for them and they come indoors to cool down. At least they aren't poinsonous though. Thanks for commenting here.

purpleangel47 profile image

purpleangel47  says:
4 months ago

I am totally impressed by how you have managed to turn your phobia around. I am 47 years old and I can't bring myself to even TOUCH the book THAT I BOUGHT about various spiders and their habitats. (In the store, I held the book up by its corners and dropped it on the counter for the cashier!)

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mistyhorizon2003  says:
4 months ago

So sorry to hear of your extreme phobia purpleangel47. I know it is not an easy phobia to beat, but if you possibly can, try the "naming them" idea, as it really helps once you start to think of them as a 'pet' or at least a sensient being.

Ms Chievous profile image

Ms Chievous  says:
3 months ago

Blech! I couldn't even read your hub for all the pictures! I am a real arachnaphobe. My four year old son is braver than me!

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mistyhorizon2003  says:
3 months ago

LOL Ms Chievous, you should try the main tip I suggested about "naming" the spiders as it gives them personality and makes it far more bearable to be near them.

ralwus profile image

ralwus  says:
3 months ago

I have a few in my basement I named, Fang, Sting, Bite and Hairy. Hairy is the female that ate Lil Dick, a male. I hate the damn things mostly.

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mistyhorizon2003  says:
3 months ago

So funny Ralwus, although I suspect you aren't serious??? I just love the idea of 'Hairy' eating 'Lil Dick', sounds kind of naughty. :) PS. How could you tell 'Lil Dick' was a male?????

sokx  says:
3 months ago

i watch many spider documentaries and have watched them for years each time i watch them i get more scared due to these documentaries only showing the damned poisonous ones ¬¬.

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mistyhorizon2003  says:
3 months ago

That's a shame sokx, as there are fascinating documentaries about non-poisonous spiders :)

bob  says:
2 months ago

I have a strange fear of spiders, I can run over with a container and piece of paper and catch them, and I don't mind poking them with a stick to move them, but I can't seem to sum up the courage to squish one, I suppose I imagine it fighting on in a rage. If I do end up squishing one I'm likely to put a hole in the wall making sure it won't make a come back.

bob  says:
2 months ago

The huntsman spider is just so damn quick that you can't just go to the kitchen and grab what you need or else it will vanish behind furniture only to re-appear weeks later the size of a small dinner plate, you have to keep watching them.

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mistyhorizon2003  says:
2 months ago

LOL Bob, well described. Thanks for the comment.

rvsource profile image

rvsource  says:
2 months ago

Mistyhorizon,

You write some very interesting hubs. Some of them I can identify with and wanted to comment, but in an effort to stay out of trouble I wont!

This hub however I can really relate to. I've always been terrified of spiders. I don't know why, I think it's just the strange spooky eyes and legs that creep me out.

About a week ago I was at the car wash washing my 2005 Jeep wrangler. It has a cloth top and plastic windows that you can roll up and down after unzipping the zippers. I was holding the car wash wand and running my fingers along the top edge of the cloth flap when out of no where a octagon shaped spider appeared and jumped toward me! He landed somewhere on my shirt, but I couldn't find him!! I threw the washing wand down and began to disrobe right there in the car wash! I didn't find him and I was creeped out for about an hour afterwards.

I hate spiders!

Jeff

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mistyhorizon2003  says:
2 months ago

Hi Jeff, thanks for the lovely compliments and the comment. If tha had happened to me I would have reacted much the same as you I suspect. I heard of a person once who was driving their car and pulled the sun visor down, at which point a large spider that had been snuggled up behind it fell into their lap. From what I remember they nearly crashed the car in their hurry to pull over and jump out of the car.

I also had the experience of putting on my dressing gown to go to the toilet, and as I lifted it up in order to sit down, a huge spider fell out from the inside of it and straight into the toilet bowl. That meant it had been resting against my skin all the way to the bathroom. Before putting it on I shook my dressing gown out thoroughly for weeks afterwards in case the same thing happened again.

rvsource profile image

rvsource  says:
2 months ago

I can relate for sure.

I find spiders interesting and beautiful in a way, as long as I am not touching them or close by!

I had one other instance where I nearly soiled my pants! I was living in Florida and had a hotrod in the garage I was restoring. I had on sandles as most people wear in Florida. I was walking along side the frame of the car and had my hands full. Something was making this scraping noise close by on the concrete. It sounded like a large crab or something walking across the floor. It went right over the top of my foot which was bare because of the sandles I was wearing.

I looked down and it was a large spider that had an hundreds of eggs under his body, this all rubbed against my bare foot!!! OMFG!!!

It was horrible I still get chills.

Oh and thanks for joining my fan club. I have a lot of drawing tutorials if you are into art!

Jeff

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mistyhorizon2003  says:
2 months ago

Hi Jeff, I could feel the goosebumps reading this, never mind experiencing it first hand.

Sadly art is more my Sister's field of expertise, as I am not at all artistic. I shall look at your hubs though, in case I decide to try again. Do any of them include tips on drawing pets at all, preferably in pencil?

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