Oh so many children live through school bullying. More than likely, if you're not the one being bullied, you're the bully. I don't think there really is an 'in between' in most cases. Children tend to be so hard on themselves if they are being bullied because the most common human reaction is to blame ourselves for our pain and all the bad things that happen to us. I mean, you have to have done something wrong, right? No, not at all. I would like to share with you some of my experiences with bullying that I would like to forget.

I was a big victim of school bullying. It started from an early age and followed me everywhere up until I completed high school. The worst bullying days would have to have been in high school - Probably due to some raging hormonal problem that everyone goes through. I've had everything done to me, including being pushed down two flights of stairs when I was 12 to being knocked out intentional when I was 15. Nice, huh? Most of the time I managed to keep it all together but some days it was just too much to bear.

There are a few good ways to help your child understand that the school bullying is not their fault. One of the best things you can do is sit down with them and have a chat about what the problem is and why they think the bullying is occurring. Don't forget to ask exactly what the bullying is doing to them because it could be quite sever and they may be too embarrassed to admit 'defeat' - I know I was.

Once you know exactly what is going on your child will feel so much safer than before. With the information your child provides you with, the best thing to do is contact the school (if you already haven't). If you have already done this and the bullying is still continuing, keep on the school's back. You will need to keep at it if you want to fix the problem because you have to remember that schools can be busy and they have more than just one bullying case to deal with.

Find out more about the school counsellor. Sometimes a good way to find a solution to this kind of a problem is to set up a meeting with the school counsellor. Try to make it like a mediation session. The best thing to do is to have you, your child, the bully and their parent/s in the same room at the same time, talking about the problem because confrontation is very powerful.

Another way to make your child feel safer is to invest in a mobile phone. This is probably not ideal for a child in primary school - it's more than likely a better idea for a child in high school. Not only will that give your child peace of mind but it will also help you to feel more confident that they are safe because they are only a phone call away.

One thing my parents let me do is learn Karate. Lots of people tend to relate Karate to violence but they couldn't be further from the truth. When learning Karate you are taught how to defend yourself if need be, not abuse the skill for bad reasons. Karate also specialises and focuses a lot on discipline. It will teach your children (and I say children because it is a good thing to get all of them into, not just the bullied) a lot of good skills which will boost their confidence and it will also teach them respect.

So there you have it. There are some of my tips on school bullying. It's a hard thing to prevent but it can be quite easy to control. If you would like any other tips from me on this subject or on others, please don't hesitate to contact me.