Here are some timeless secrets of seduction for the ladies. Success is guaranteed if you study the videos linked below of some of the most seductive women in the modern world. Your objective should be to subtley convince your friend that whatever you have in mind is really his idea. Try starting off with a couple of glasses of good wine and some romantic music, better still, your own singing accompanied by guitar or piano. If you're not up to singing yourself, some cabaret songs by Edith Piaf or blues by Sarah Vaughan will do fine. Jacques Brel works well, and Joni Mitdhell is a good choice, too. If he likes jazz, try Dave Brubeck's "Take Five." If he likes poetry, a romantic poetry recording can work wonders. Try some Pablo Neruda or Poe's romantic poems. If you wish and if you think he's so inclined slow dancing to something like Louie Armstrong's "A Kiss to Build a Dream On" will get the ball rolling down hill.

A big comforatble couch is a must. As you will see from the videos, don't be afraid to look straight into his eyes. Try not to blink or squint. If you blink, do it slowly while looking downward and then look into his eyes again with wide eyes and a smile. If he needs some encouragement to proceed, touching him on his arm or shoulder usually works. If he doesn't get the idea yet, a shoulder or back rub will do the trick for sure. Timing is critical--at the appropriate moment, put on Ravel's Bolero or Jacques Brel's "Valse a Mille Temps" or even Brubeck's "Blue Rondo a la Turk" for the jazz aficionado. If he's up for an encore you can't go wrong with Carl Orff's "O Fortuna" from his opera "Carmina Burana!"

Note: It shouldn't be necessary to point out that men are not attracted by gum chewers or, in most cases, cigarette smokers. Drinking more than a glass of wine or two is not advisable. Too much alcohol is a definite turnoff. If you must smoke, an elegant thin cigar might work best. As I recall Marlene Dietrich used a cigarette holder. Finally, needless to say, don't mention your ex-boy friend or mate!

Now you are ready. Go for it!