Let's face it, our modern culture is obsessed with sex. We are bombarded by images of physical conquest and you can't even watch a movie these days without being subject to a graphic love scene. As a result, more and more people are becoming 'sexually liberated'...but where does that leave the Christian? The teen? The married couple? The single couples? Where does that leave pretty much anyone who maintains some form of moral compass?

So, no matter what 'word' you use for it (s*x, doing it, making love, whoopie, f------ etc) - it is pretty much paramount for all of us.

First of all we'll address love making and the Christian. If you're a believer, you already know that lust is the same as adultery (if you're married) and lust in and of itself is considered sinful...but how do you deal with that when everywhere you look is some 'hot young thing'? And ladies, just admit it, this problem is NOT just a male concern. You need not be watching something 'questionable' to experience lust...Just ask any woman who watches the frequently nude Bear Grylls on Man Vs. Wild! While it's more common for men to have a problem with lust (primarily because men are visual creatures), women are not completely innocent.

Truthfully, when you examine the beginning of time, it's evident that God never intended for us to idolize any member of the opposite sex besides our spouse. Without the media bombardment, we would be completely satisfied with the nudity of our own partner...Does that make sense? Basically, because God gave us free will, and we totally blew it...sin entered the world, and with it, lust. BUT, just imagine what your own sex life would be like if your husband or wife had never seen another naked (not even totally naked...even just 'shirtless') person...if you had no idea what great legs, a great butt, a great rack, or a great set of abs looked like - you'd have nothing to compare your spouse to. Thereby making him or her the hottest thing you'd ever seen - literally. I am of the belief that THAT is what God intended for marriage when he designed it. We should be so enthralled by our own spouse that lust and envy would never be an option...Sadly - that is not the case.

So, as a Christian, how do you 'deal'...well, the short and long answer is repentance and making the right decisions when we come to a crossroad. The temptation itself is NOT the sin, but acting on that temptations IS. When 'looks' turn to 'action' that's where the problem occurs. As such, we must pray daily that God is in our decisions and that we would make Godly decisions in the face of temptation...after all, PRAYER really does change things.

Now let's examine love making and the teenager...teens today are perhaps the most sexually desensitized group in history. Because they've spent much of thier lives bombarded by sexual imagery, they often have unrealistic expectations of themselves and others. Now, as you already know, it's good to preach abstinence...be it for reasons of faith or simply health protection. However, if we're being honest, teenagers are hormonally charged little lust machines...so, no matter what we prefer our teens to do, we must also teach them to protect themselves should they make the decision to have sex.

You've probably heard many people talk about the fact that 'bedroom action goes down the tubes' once you get married. The good news is THAT IS SO NOT TRUE...at least, not if you let it. However, keeping the bedroom hot when you're married takes some creativity. Married love making is undoubtedly more intimate because you know each other so well. A good rule of thumb is to use that intimacy to create passion. Contrary to popular belief, married sex is often more uninhibited than unmarried relations because there is no fear of judgment. A few quick tips for keeping sex hot in marriage is to make your physical relationship a priority. Even if you have to 'schedule' sex, you shouldn't let it fall by the wayside. Rule two is to take good care of yourself. When you're taking care of yourself, you often feel more confidence and confidence breeds sexuality. You can't truly care for another person if you don't care for yourself as well. Another good tip is to take some time out to be selfless. While this is something married couples should be doing all the time, it's ever so important in sex. Without selflessness one partner may always be 'left out'...and let's face it - ladies, if our men aren't occasionally selfless - WE are the one's left holding the 'bag of sexual frustration'. It's a good idea to be open about your desires and get creative. You don't have to buy whips and chains to be creative...you can go out on a limb by moving to a different room, sneak off to the restroom at a dinner party, make out like you did when you were kids...just have fun with it.

One area of controversy is love making and the single couple. While in this day and age it's entirely common for unmarried couples to 'bed down' with on another, it's not necessarily the best choice. That 'try before you buy' attitude may be one of the reasons so many marriages face divorce thanks to adultery. Why do I say that? Because if you've 'tried' a large group of people before settling on your spouse, you will again and again become subject to the feeling that the 'grass is greener on the other side of the fence.' However, if you don't have scads of bedroom experience, there's no longing for what you don't have. Maintaining virginity until marriage will take tons of discipline but can be incredibly rewarding.

I could go on and on about this subject because it's so taboo and so commonly discussed..but for now, I'll call it quits.