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Sex Before Marriage Yes or No?

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By shinujohn2008



Sex Before Marriage should be Encouraged or Not. This is the specific question here. Definitely experts opinion is that we should avoid pre marital sex relationships. Young generation is always on the look out for secret relationships and they try to ask their friends whether this is right or not. If they ask their friends , they will get only bad guidance. If asked to a counsellor you will get the right answer. 95 % of people who indulge in relationships before marriage will have experience that their Life Fails in all ways. This is due to the doubt regarding their partners. they will start thinking that their partners also would have come through such situations as they did and this will grew tensions in family and result in breaking of relations with in 2 or 3 years after marriage. Some people who are reading this article might have done such mistakes before and are looking for further guidance

To them the only thing they can do is to forget the past. Dont make stories of your partner thinking and crossing barriers. Keep your mind calm, dont reveal past relationship to your wife or husband thinking that it will be solution. It will be a big mistake. Just wipe away the past from your memories. And concentrate on your wife or husband and children. Say "NO" to any people or situations that force you to enter into relationships before marriage. Life of humans is sacred, we are not Animals. We should always remember that and this will guide you in the right way. Teenagers usually have this kind of doubts which they should clear only by asking a good counsellor. Only tip i can give you is - Don't ask any Doubts to your Friends

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Trsmd profile image

Trsmd  says:
12 months ago

You shouldn't worry about sex before marriage. If you hide it, it's because you have the idea it's wrong. I never had my sex life from anyone because I was never ashamed of myself.

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shinujohn2008  says:
12 months ago

Great opinions

gigyboy  says:
12 months ago

dear shinu,

it's always better to have sex after the nuptial knot is tied according to me but it's vital to know the importance much earlier in life, especially in our teenage periods

monalisa  says:
12 months ago

we should avoid pre maratal sex

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shinujohn2008  says:
12 months ago

Nice to know your responses

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babarushe  says:
10 months ago

Sex before marriage is a global controversial issue among the young and singles.

Its impact is much felt among the teens.

I am almost through with a book that has a chapter dedicated to Pre-marital sex.

I am an assistant coordinator of a Youth Organization and we engage in a workshop every second sunday of each month on any issue affecting singles.

I must confess that the question that recalls often is that of sex before marriage.

I have done a little research on pre-marital sex issue on the degree of correlation between its benefits and demerits and found out that the effects are never palatable.

My conclusion is informed by what I've seen others(friends,colleagues,school mates)suffer because of engaging in it.

Most importantly is what happened to my sister which caused her her life on January 2008.

She hooked herself with a guy who pretended to love her and to marry her and before long they started mating and she decided to move in with him without any formal or informal marriage even against the consent of our parents and my siblings. Soon,she became pregnant, gave birth to a male child who took ill few months after delivery.

Consequently,she was thrown out of school, lost her relationship with the family and God because she didnt want to see or hear anything from her siblings which may be against the guy she is crazy about.

However, we continued to persuade and plead with her to come home which she did but the baby died after 10 months of birth. That was in 2006 November.

In 2007, my sister fell ill and we had to take her to all the hospitals around but we lost her on Jan.2008.

Her journey to death started the day she met that guy and gave in to sex without marriage.

I have seen girls give birth to children especially in the developing countries who they abandoned in the gutter, street corners, motherless babies homes, granny or aborted,and many of them thrown out of schools.This is a daily occurrence in my locality in the part of the world I live.

The most painful part of it is that these children are left on their own and no wonder they turn to be street urchins and gangsters engaging in all sorts of crime -robbery,prostitution,theft,rape,as to survive.No parental care and instruction. They attach little or no importance to human existence.Many become street hawkers. Its disheartening.

I know a guy who contacted gonorrhea when he was 20 years old but was poorly treated.The sickness resurfaced 20 years after in which the entire body fluid was corrupted.He died in the process.

Another young man entered a lady once and came out with STD. Unfortunately, that was his first time in sex.

Most young men have used it to trap some girls on the pretense of marriage which is an issue in the developing world of Africa because it is believed that a lady is not fulfilled until she gets married to man no matter her wealth and educational background.

Engaging in Pre-marital sex is like sitting on a keg of gun powder.It is a loaded gun waiting to explode.

I don't encourage it among the singles.

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pertibha321  says:
7 months ago

till when sex is inside the wals its better but when its open nothing is bad then it remember it always ateast when you are in india.

sal  says:
7 months ago

sex is before marriage is better , so no tension

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ashleebiz  says:
5 months ago

I personally believe in saving sex for marriage. However I know many people can not commite to abstinance until marriage. I read a scientific study a few weeks ago that found that chemicals are released during sex that bind a man and woman together emotionally for a long time. (For women it was days or weeks with just ONE sexual experience, for males it was only a few hours to a day or two at most.)

In dating it is best to wait AT LEAST 3-4months of getting to know one another and making sure you're in a commited relationship.

Just my two cents!

Kalpana Joshi  says:
4 months ago

Sex before marriage must be avoided at all costs. It should be strictly avoided if one is a teenager or very young. When we grow up, we understand things better and we make less mistakes. Life is very short and sex before marriage is always a mistake especially for a girl. It takes one mistake to ruin ones life.100percent of the times it is the girl who is going to suffer, not just in india but also abroad.

So dont play with fire, you will ruin yourselves, there is a proof for this.there is a reason why it is forbidden in every religion . So think twice before doing it.

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mulberry1  says:
4 months ago

It's a complex issue. I do think people shouldn't have sex until they are emotionally ready, and it's generally best if they are in a committed relationship (married). I suppose for someone who is more mature, that readiness may occur before marriage. I say this based on what I think is best for the emotional and physical health of the individual. Sex is good but you should engage in it for the right reasons.

sandra  says:
4 months ago

I had sex with 12 boys in 2 mo. after turning 17 years old then married. i wish i had told him. befor marrige he is sill with me but will only have sex with a condom....sandy

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jallivijay  says:
3 months ago

Our Country's opinions are always complex. One side Our tradition says NO to pre marital sex other it proclaims to be a real democrat. If every citizen of the country thinks in a same lines.., there shouldn't be any issues on any thing.. Unfortunately it doesn't happen.., disgustingly selfishness motivates the opinions.. In my view.. Our perspective towards sex should be corrected.. There is no damn quaking issue in sex.. it is just a normal deed..

ballu  says:
3 months ago

Sexy

sathish  says:
3 months ago

shinujohn i like you i want to date with you come to orkut and add me as your frd sex before and after marriage is not wrong its my opinion

bride_groom  says:
2 months ago

a very interesting and complicated question indeed. how to proceed with. the answer is one and only one. for sex there is no compartments as pre marital and post marital etc. marriage is altogether different and of course sex is the most important eliment is marital life. nothing other than sex can be more important and inevetable. so that force should be preserved for a conventional married life like ours in this country. where ever there is no strict marriage conventions the sex is taking predominance and a pair of persons indulge in sex and forget about that. for such a section there is no premarital and post marital. but they have sex since it is inborn in any normal individual. so in my opinion these are two different issues and better not to mix up. either have a free life with no particular bonding or live a conventional life with age old convention where premarital sex is prohibited. i am no one to assess the advantage of one over the other.

A SINGH  says:
2 months ago

I AM VERY MUCH OF OPINION THAT AS SOON AS A BOY OR GIRL STARTS GETTING SEXUAL FEELINGS,AT AN AGE, THEY SHOULD ENJOY SEX. NO BODY HAS A RIGHT TO STOP THEM. UNFORTUNATELY, WE ARE CIVILIZED ANIMALS AND WE HAVE TO FOLLOW THE SOCIAL RULES. IF NATURE IS PROVING SEXUAL FEELINGS THAT IS TO ENJOY THAT, NOT TO PUT IT DOWN. THEREFORE, ENJOY SEX BUT WITH PRECAUTION. SINGH IS KING

mike  says:
5 weeks ago

I'd like to date Sandra but marrige no not the one to take home...love ya sandra

Surendra Ranjan  says:
4 weeks ago

YES I LIKE Sexy life very handsome life mind fresh tonic

SEHAR  says:
4 weeks ago

YES IT IS GOOD TO HAVE SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE

akbar  says:
3 weeks ago

yes it is good

sonu  says:
5 days ago

pre-marital sex is a sin... read bible...sex should be enjoyed with a partner only after marriage.... i dont know where the world is going...sins are at its peak...adultery is sin... remember u have a life after death where God will judge u.. be prepared for it... its not the luxuries and comforts on earth that counts but the eternal joy... saty away from sins...only u can save yourself..

Balaji  says:
3 days ago

Superb

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