Sex and Love exist? The pleasure derived from its expression in conjugal love is perhaps the most intense pleasures of the body and also perhaps the most absorbing. The enthusiasm that produces a pure and sincere passion takes the man or woman of itself to surrender and live to the other is more enthusiasm than most human beings have in your life.

When pleasure and love come together in mutual surrender, then it is possible to achieve a high degree of happiness and pleasure. On the other hand - as he wrote Gotzon Mikel Santamaria - when you press the quest for simple physical pleasure, pleasure that tends to turn into something momentary and fleeting, leaving a trail of dissatisfaction. Because sexual satisfaction is in fact only one part, and perhaps the smallest, the joy of sexual relations of soul and body's own surrender of conjugal love.

• But it is not always easy to distinguish what is the affection that is hungry for pleasure.

Sometimes it is very clear. Other, less so. In any case, as it is reduced to simple hunger for pleasure, is to use the other person. And that can not be good for either.

When using the other person, not love, not even the respect, because they use and stoop to their personal privacy.

The site offers sex, more than others, opportunities to serve the people as an object, even unknowingly. The sexual dimension of love makes it can bend quite easily to the pursuit of pleasure in itself, a use which always lowers the person, because it affects its deepest intimacy.

As the sex expression of our capacity to love, all reference to sexual reaches deeper, closer to the nucleus, and involves the whole person. And precisely because it has such great value and dignity, their corruption is particularly corrosive.

Each one makes of his love which makes their sexuality.

Learning to love.

The man to be happy, you must find the answer to the big questions of life. Among the issues that affect men at any time and place, that appeal to your heart, which is where the plot grows more important in its history, is undoubtedly sexuality.

Man tries to find answers to questions such as capital: How do I raise my sexuality, to own it? Therefore turn the other person's body is presented as a reflection of that person and also as an opportunity to give free loose a selfish desire for self-satisfaction.

• Then you consider sexuality a big issue?

The government is the most important of itself.

If a person does not acquire the necessary domain on their sexuality, living with a tyrant within.

Sexuality is a generic momentum between any male and female. However, the love between a man and a woman looking for maximum individualization. And for the body to be and instrument of individual love, one must master the body so that it does not get overwhelmed by immediate pleasure and selfish, and, above all, acting in the service of love. Because if you do not educate themselves and their own emotions and what is easy, when it should sprout pure love, it requires the strength of sexual selfishness. Since the moment that sexuality is no longer controlled, begins his tyranny.

As Chesterton said, think in a friendly and uninhibited sexual de-dramatized, in which sex becomes a beautiful and harmless hobby, like a tree or a flower, it would be a utopian fantasy or a sad lack of nature and human psychology.

A certain "training"

Only people can participate in love. However, do not find ready and prepared themselves. If a person allow his mind, his habits and attitudes that permeate the sexual desires not assigned to a loving kindness, will result in gradually to deteriorate its ability to truly love, and will allow you to lose one treasure more precious than any man can possess.

If you do not strive to rectify this error, selfishness far will ever own your imagination, your memory, your feelings, your desires, your mind go and will be filling in a selfish live sex.

Tend to see each other in a self-interested, above all enjoy the sensual or sexual values of that person and set will be much less in its intelligence, its virtues in their character or their feelings. The awakening of erotic pleasure before time often hide the need to create a deep friendship and pure. Moreover, a relationship based solely on a sensual attraction tends to be floating by their very nature, and is easy in a short time - to fade this attractive - end up in disappointment, or even a negative emotional reaction of antipathy and disaffection.

• Finds it difficult to rectify the deterioration in the mood to see the sex?

It depends on the depth that has the deterioration and, above all, it is firm or not the decision to overcome. The key is to recognize the need to truly make this change and decide to actually do it.

It's like a challenge: we need to cleanse, fill hygiene imagination, clarity of memory, clarity of feelings, desires, the person in totality.

It is - in another context much more serious - how to train yourself to recover the freshness and agility after losing physical fitness.

• And is not it a little artificial to train there? Is not enough to have the ideas clear?

In love, as in any sport of skill, or most of the professional skills, or many other things, whether there is sufficient practice and training, things go wrong.

To learn reading, writing, dancing, singing, or even to eat, you have to be predisposed to follow a certain learning and acquire a good habit, but it is so crude and rude. To express anything well and with some grace should train themselves, grow up a little. When a person does not, it is hard for him to express what you want. He feels the frustration of not being able to communicate what's inside, not able to make the their dreams. And it happens to both express themselves verbally and to express love. If you do not educate our capacity to love and to surrender completely, instead of expressing love behave we will roughly, as happens to those who can not speak or eat.

Growing up so it is a way of approaching what each one believes they should come to be. With this effort automodelação staff, self-education, man is made more human, personalize it a little more himself.

Educate sexuality

It is unfortunate that many limit sex education to information on the functioning of the physiology and hygiene of sexuality. Things are unquestionably necessary, but not the most important and, above all, are things that today almost everyone knows to spare.

However, self-control sex drive and therefore of imagination, desire, the gaze is a fundamental part of sexuality education that few give due importance.

• And why you hit so important?

If you do not get that education drives, sexuality, appetite and any other body shall take action simply biological, and then it will easily fall prey to selfishness typical of an appetite body uneducated. Sexuality express will be in a similar way to how drink and eat or express a person who has received almost no education.

We need a look and a trained imagination to consider people as such and not as objects of sexual appetite. So when in childhood or adolescence to introduce people in an environment of frequent sexual incitement, to commit a serious threat against the affection of these people, an assault on their innocence and good faith.

• Do not exaggerate a little?

Although it seems too strong, I do not think too much, because all this has something to attack an innocent. Breaking these boys and girls the link between sex and love is a perverse form of breaking your honesty and your wisdom so necessary at this stage of life. The first movements and sexual proclivities, while still are not corrupt, have a mix of enthusiasm and pure love of youth. Burst them with his coarse overexcitation grossly impairs sexual relationship between boys and girls. In the words of Jordi Serra, "Do not mistreat tying them with rope, but slave away submerging them in an unreal world."

As he wrote Tihamer Toth, chastity is the cornerstone of the education of youth. The intensity and vehemence of the sexual instinct, this is the reason that best express the personal effort against addiction. Maybe that's why the story is testimony to the respect for women has always been a very revealing index of culture and spiritual health of a people.

Self-control on the imagination and desires

As the inappropriate use of alcohol leads to alcoholism, misuse of sex also causes a dependency and a normal overexcitation which reduces the capacity to love. And similarly, as the taste can ruin the excess of strong flavors or spicy foods also taste spoiled by erotic sex is becoming more callous, more obfuscated to perceive beauty, less capable of noble sentiments and more eager sensations artificial easily result in deviations from strangers or the maximum annoyance. Feeding the sexual instinct too leads to an anarchic functioning of the imagination and desires.

When a person acquires the habit of being carried away by the eyes, or their sexual fantasies, your mind will tend to a charge of eroticism that will trigger their instincts and make it more difficult to achieve the desired the ability to love.

• And there will be no option but to prosecute?

I think it is a matter of suppressing it, but to direct the feelings. Just the will to oppose and come away from stimuli that result to the very negative affectivity. You have to catch the annoying starts of imagination and desire, so go for educating these powers in order to properly serving our capacity to love. Understanding this is crucial to grasp the meaning of this wise Christian principle that says: Consent not in thought or in impure desires.

Who strive in this line gradually learn to live with his own body and that of others, and treat them as worthy of dignity they have. Enjoy the fruits of having acquired the freedom to self and be able to deliver to the other. Will live with the profound joy of those who enjoy a deep and mature spontaneity, in which the heart governs the instincts.

Sex and Love exist? Maybe...