Shocking Revelations - How Ladies Sexually Harass and Seduce Men
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I must quickly correct an impression that this hub is not against women generally, however the truth must be told. I must also warn that the pictures in this hub may be contagious to the mind, soul and body.
In developing countries like mine, the issue of sexual harassment is not so pronounced probably because of our developing nature or because what the advanced countries see as sexual harassment, we see them as “normal” way of life. At times also, what the developing countries see as sexual harassment, the advanced countries may see them as their “way of life”. What really is sexual harassment or seduction? It could be described as unwelcome physical touching, sexual or suggestive comments, jokes, unwelcome requests for sex, the display of clearly sexual material (such as photos, pin-ups or pictures) or reading matter (such as e-mails, faxes or letters). Simply put, it is unwelcome sexual attention.
Since I am not a lawyer or a law enforcement agent, I will try to give a layman explanation of my understanding of sexual harassment and how ladies knowingly or unknowingly sexually harass and seduce men. If the above description of sexual harassment and seduction is any thing to go by, it behoves therefore that even this hub could be interpreted to be sexual harassment or seduction, if proved beyond reasonable doubt. The description of sexual harassment or seduction is too elaborate that almost everything and/or every action of a woman to a man or vice versa under the sun could be said to be sexual harassment or seduction. Come to think of it, the intention of the man or woman involved in a joke for instance, may be different from the interpretation given the joke by the other party. How do you read the mind of the next person. Even in a physical touch, the intention of the person may not be as interpreted by the other person.
The above notwithstanding, the actions or inactions of most ladies is to say the least a clear act of sexual harassment and seduction. Ladies are indeed guilty of these acts.. Their latest tactics includes but not limited to wearing dresses that covers almost no part of the body, wearing things that clearly display their body physique including moving freely on the roads with micro minis and crazy shots. This trend is more pronounced in our actresses, fashion designers or so called models, students in higher institutions. Workers in different establishments are not left in the act of sexually harassing and seducing the men. Recently in Nigeria, some universities in order to reduce the incident of indecent and immoral dressing, recommended dressing code for their students. This was condemned by many people but also was seen as a welcomed development by those who saw the action as a step towards instilling the much desired discipline I our youths who they saw as the leaders of tomorrow. Some students were happy over the development while some were not.
Most of these ladies may not know that they are sexually seducing the men; and sometimes they end up being rapid. If the case of rape is established, the main cause which is indecent dressing is at this point not the issue. No one remembers that the man is a normal human that reacts to what he sees. Men by nature is attracted more by what they see. Do you know that students intentionally devise ways of sexually harassing and seducing their lecturers so as to gain one favour or the other. The so called “corporate ladies” in offices have also devised was of seducing and harassing their male counterparts sexually. In many banks in Nigeria, their corporate marketers also do their things their own ways. They dress smartly in tight micro mini dresses and skirts with open tops to display their “wares”. They commit all these atrocities without seeing anything wrong in it and in the name of marketing bank products. The managers of these banks should also share part of the blame for setting targets they know are humanly unachievable except going the extra mile. The hostile environment that the women find themselves also make them objects readily available for usage.
What these ladies do not understand is that their dressings, actions, jokes etc. are in my view constitute sexual harassments and seductive acts on men. The actresses and models indulge in these act believing that it is the nature of their jobs. Indeed ladies sexually harass men anywhere including streets, workplace, night clubs, at an interviews, in a shop. The ladies know the weak points of the men and they capitalize on it to their own advantage.
How men can overcome the ladies sexual harassment and seductive tactics
1. Talk to the harasser one on one.
2. Do not pay attention to a lady’s dressing especially if you notice any seductive motive.
3. If the lady is your senior in the office, try to be as prayerful and as disciplined as possible.
4. In different countries, there are Commissions that handles cases of sexual harassment; you may seek their advice if you feel you cannot handle it alone.
5. Above all, be prayerful not to fall victim of their various gimmicks
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Woman often seduces the man taht is why people call woman as sins
@Lady_E - thanks for your comments. Men are naturally weak when it comes to dealing with women.
@forlan - thanks for your comments.
you're right Philipo, those pictures and photos really are contagious to the mind, soul and body.
This must have been painful to put together. I feel for you, Brother. I think that for women, sexual harassment is when an ugly guy makes a pass at you—the ultimate insult! I don't think a woman would holler sexual harassment if Denzel Washington made a pass at them at work, for example.
I have noticed, that women will dress with their tits hanging out and then act offended if a man looks at them! I don't understand. Why are they hanging out if not to be looked at?
Thanks for the in-depth look at this subject. Sexual innuendo and harrassment does go both ways. MM
\o/ i praise GOD for this kind of hub! GOD demands purity in our way of living and part of this is to dress modesty.
You take care and stay blessed!
\o/ Flee from the temptation is all a man or woman has to do Brother Philipo...LOL!:D
@Carla - thanks for your comments.
@James - Nice comments with questions yet unanswered. I am expecting answers from women.
@Mighty Mom - I agree with you that sexual innuendo and harrassment dos go both ways but I think that the men are more at risk of temptation and the women know just how to go about it. Thanks for your comments.
Ladyeagle - Thanks for your comments. I can't agree less. Modest dressing should be encouraged. Remain blessed.
@Waren E - I also agree with your suggestion that the men should flee from the temptation. Thanks for your comments.
very thoughtful and insightful analysis. Well done for this piece
Kazeem - thanks for your comments.
This must have been painful to put together. I feel for you, Brother.
magdielqr - thanks a lot. Indeed, it isn't easy.
People in the west make too much of sex/sensuality.Its a private affair.It is absolutely beautiful if its allowed to unfold in a healthy environment,between emotionally healthy people . The cheap, watered down,degenerative sexual expression is prepackaged for the weak and feebled minded. Instead of casually flirting, it has twisted into sexual harassment(disrespect) To demystified men- They love ladylike characteristics. We would not see ladies committing this lewd behavior if they possess good self esteem.
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Man , yes , we jump the gun whenever we hear harrasement , Even justice and media over react to harrasement especially sexual ! We need to treat each case objectively keeping in mind the one who feel harrased and the one who harrassed are both humans only caught compromised by situations . All being said , We can not restrict , we have not rights to restricts the right of woman to dress the way they want , They can even go naked if they want , we dont have the rights to tell them not to ! if you have a problem , Consult a psycologist ! Monkeys are naked , yet they dont go around raping other monkeys or harrassing them . The root cause of all these problem is our repressed sexuality . Sex is not a sin ! we take it too seriously !
To say that a woman is harrassing a man because of what she wears is like saying stores harass thieves by being open. A thief is a thief by nature or desperation and will find excuses for larceny, but the responsibilty lies with the thief, not the store.
@Omi Saide - What an analogy! Thanks for your comments. I believe others are reading.
@Myriad - Thanks a lot. Indeed, men do not have the moral right to tell the women what to wear. Sex is not a sin but it has to be done decently.
@Canopygallery - Thanks a lot. I concur the fact that a thief is a thief any day, however it is dangerous tempting the thief.
I noticed that most comments centred on the dressing aspect of sexual harrassment, ignoring other aspects. Before civilization, men and women moved around without cloths yet no one noticed the nakedness of the other. Can we then say that civilization is a contributory factor to the issue of sexual harrassment?????????????
very well said "The description of sexual harassment or seduction is too elaborate that almost everything and/or every action of a woman to a man or vice versa under the sun could be said to be sexual harassment or seduction."...in today's world it is really a thin line one has to tread on
chaeilsaram - It is true that the description of sexual harrassment or seduction is too elaborate. Almost everything thing or action could be interpreted as sexual harrassment depending on who is involved. Thanks for your comments.
This is the most stupid article that i have ever read. Just show how weak you are mentally that if you see some body parts you start feeling sexually harassed.
Please grow UP !!!!
This hub is full of non sequitar and post hoc fallacies of reason--harrassment is generally deliberate and not so subtle that the "harasser" is unaware of the behavior being used. There are real victims in the world; viewers of your pictures I hardly think could count themselves amongst them.
ravalyn - thanks for your comments. I want to believe that you do not mean to be insultive. I welcome constructive critisms. I visited your hub to see how many hubs you have written only to discover that you are a newbie. You have not even written any hub. You do not have any fan. You just joined hub pages few hours ago. Anyway, welcome to hubpages. As a reminder, sexual harrassment could be described as unwelcome physical touching, sexual or suggestive comments, jokes, unwelcome requests for sex, the display of clearly sexual material (such as photos, pin-ups or pictures) or reading matter (such as e-mails, faxes or letters). Simply put, it is unwelcome sexual attention. However, you are entitled to your opinion.
It sounds to me like you still have a few "axes to grind".
I have felt hurt by both men and women. I think it's time to forgive them for what they've done and to get on with your own life's experience. It'll be over before you know it!
OK So if a woman wears a low-cut shirt and that leads a guy to molesting/raping her, then he's responding to her sexual harassment with more harassment? So what about modest girls like me who get harassed? Does that justify me harassing them back?
It just gets really confusing. Does the victim of a murder get blamed because he "looked like he wanted to get killed?" Seduction is different from forced consent. Seduction can be disregarded.
I'm not saying women don't commit sexual harassment, I'm just saying that you went too far when you wrote "Most of these ladies may not know that they are sexually seducing the men; and sometimes they end up being raped. If the case of rape is established, the main cause which is indecent dressing is at this point not the issue. No one remembers that the man is a normal human that reacts to what he sees." Maybe these are just cultural differences, but I go out on a limb to have more faith in men than to have to rape someone because he saw her boobs. Men are not dogs, or robots, or anything less than human. They have control. Now, it may be because of mental illness, a rocky past, sadness, anger, any kind of negative in someone's life that someone flaunts their body too much or to touches another person inappropriately, but it's not so simple as to blame the victim for provoking it.
Oh and a lecturer or executive who can't see through a badly dressed student/employee's seduction as a way to get her way was too stupid anyway.
@DavidLKass - Thanks for your comment. I support the forgive those that sin against you preaching because an eye for an eye will definitely leave everyone blind.
@Turnip Tornado - Thanks so much for taking another critical look at the issue of sexual harrassment and seduction. Your view was indeed from the bottom of your heart and a femanine perspective. It is ok. Please take another critical look at the description of what constitutes sexual harrassment, thereafter let me know in your sincere way what you think is sexual harrassment.
Sexual harassment is an action that makes someone feel violated.
I think you need to rewrite this hub, because you have two messages going--one about how detrimental it can be when a woman wears revealing clothes, and one about how men can't help but respond to what they see. It's muddled.
When I was a kid, some adults told a dirty joke in my presence. This was out of ignorance--they didn't realize fully that I was standing there and shouldn't hear that. But I wouldn't call that sexual harassment. I didn't feel violated, just a little awkward.
Last year at my job, an old man put a dollar bill in my back pocket. (I was wearing a tshirt, apron, jeans, my hair up, no makeup). I felt really violated for the rest of the day. It was confusing and humiliating. I would call that sexual harassment. It was something directed specifically at me, with connotations.
Most institutions should have dress codes, and most people should dress well anyway. A woman who reveals too much is violating herself in a way.
You just HAVE to remove the point about men being justified because of the way the woman was dressed. You can never, ever prove that a woman wanted something to happen to her just because of the way she was dressed, therefore, you can never say "she was asking for it." That is backwards thinking that should have died in the 1950s. God knows why I'm still arguing this obvious truth in 2009.
Men are generally guallible when they get cut-up in one on one relationship with women. Women generally assum men are weak when it comes to sex. Women seduce men in various ways.
Men tend to think women are doing them favor when dating. Where as, head or tail, men will be the loser in long-run.
When women make passes toward men, just fall for it instead of making complain to sexual harrassement.
The rule should change in these days of equality. Otherwise, it seemed like women are less equal being.
If you were on the beach in Australia, and all us Aussie girls were in Bikini's would you say that you're being sexually harrassed? Revealing clothing is not a form of Sexual Harrassment.
From WikiPedia: Sexual Harassment is... bullying or coercion of a sexual nature, or the unwelcome or inappropriate promise of rewards in exchange for sexual favors:
- Public harassers are flagrant in their seductive or sexist attitudes towards colleagues, subordinates, students, etc.
- Private harassers carefully cultivate a restrained and respectable image on the surface, but when alone with their target, their demeanor changes completely.
- Predatory harasser who gets sexual thrills from humiliating others. This harasser may become involved in sexual extortion, and may frequently harass just to see how targets respond—those who don't resist may even become targets for rape.
- Dominance harasser the most common type, who engages in harassing behaviour as an ego boost.
- Strategic or **territorial harassers who seek to maintain privilege in jobs or physical locations, for example a man's harassing female employees in a predominantly male occupation.
Um. I'm a little dumb struck here. Rape is an act of violence and anger, not because a woman dresses provocatively. I do agree that women and men should dress with appropriate protocol when called for, but I also know men stare at tits even when they are well covered with clothing or not. Blaming women for MAKING you choose your own bad behavior is a poor example of how an honest man should conduct himself.
THANK YOU HappyHer
@Turnip Tornado - Thanks once again for an honest comment on the subject of sexual harrassment and seduction. I indeed appreciate it. You have given an instance where you feel violated and another where you feel awkward. This is from your point of view. Someone else may feel and react differently from you. People are different and react to issues differently. I quite agree from the general perspective that indecent dressing is not enough to lure a man, though decent dressing is encouraged. The suggestion that this hub should be removed is well noted; however people including me should be encouraged to democratically express their views.
@Hybridway - thanks for your comments. Nice one and hitting the nail on the head.
@Stricklydating - Thanks for your comments. Agreed by popular opinion that dressing should be left out of the definition of sexual harrassment. You have made effort to classify sexual harrassment. Thanks indeed for the lecture. It is like my definition is too elaborate.
@HappyHer - thanks for your comments. Thanks for observing that women and men should dress with appropriate protocol. Your observation that men stare at tits even when they are well covered with clothin or not, is a natural thing. I quite agree that men should conduct themselves no matter the temptation.
In my culture if a man touches a womans hair that is a form of sexual molestation yet before the caucasians came women went around bare breasted. These days we go to beauty parlors and if it's a male hairdresser no one thinks a thing of it and you can be darn sure we wear tops now. Different cultures have different ideas of what is socially acceptable between the sexes but there is one thing that most definately not okay anywhere and that is RAPE! Rape is the attempted psychological/emotional murder of another human being, a weapon used by a man, a bully who resorts to physical abuse of another human being because he likes feeling powerful and feared.
It's just me - I appreciate your comments. I also appreciate the angle and experience you have shared. Thanks for educating us on the subject matter.
women are little 'exposing' in almost all cultures. I think we can't change it..they are all hormone plays!!
The only thing I think we can do is to educate woman that 'exposing' attracts only weak men. actually it keep em away from strong men. You need not announce it through medias..just tell your sister, your daughter...just that will do...whatever happens live is just 60 or 70 years...so and live happily.
How does everyone feel -specifically- about: 1 Corinthians 8?
9Be careful, however, that the exercise of your freedom does not become a stumbling block to the weak. 10For if anyone with a weak conscience sees you who have this knowledge eating in an idol's temple, won't he be emboldened to eat what has been sacrificed to idols? 11So this weak brother, for whom Christ died, is destroyed by your knowledge. 12When you sin against your brothers in this way and wound their weak conscience, you sin against Christ. 13Therefore, if what I eat causes my brother to fall into sin, I will never eat meat again, so that I will not cause him to fall.
@Satheesh - Thanks for your comments.
@Mr. Anderson - Very thought provoking. Thanks for the comments.
Lady_E says:
3 months ago
Interesting Hub.
Men seduce women, women seduce men (but in a subtle way. lol). Both sexes should realise when this is happening and not cross the line. My advice to both sexes is, when it happens don't show that you are angry or they could take it to another level and turn nasty - with false allegations. In a friendly, way ward off the advances. Unfortunately, some men are so weak and just can't help themselves and then it becomes a "one thing led to another" story. Nip it in the Bud.
Happy Independence Day. :)