Should I go Back to My Ex

The relationship that began with frequent butterflies just sort of flickered out. Maybe there was selfishness, infidelity, or a scarred past. Whatever it was, you broke up.

And now ... you’re wondering ... "Should I go back to my ex?"

This is a serious question that you must not take lightly. Going back and investing even more time and energy into a relationship that fizzled once, might leave you hesitant to walk away again, resulting in feeling stuck until some big thing happens.

Be very careful to honestly ask yourself WHY you should or should not go back to your ex.

This is a very important question to ask, why shoud I go back to my ex? Write down everything you once envisioned about your ideal mate, listing the top twenty things in priority order. Does your ex meet at least 10 of them? That is a good sign, but EVALUATE THE REST OF THE LIST and ask yourself if you are willing to give up the other things forever to be with your ex.

Do you get along well with each other's families? If so, that is a great sign that you might be able to overcome the petty things for the sake of a future of family unity.

Do you have children? That is not an automatic, "GO BACK NOW!" Signal.

But you need to consider if your ex embodies the character that you want your child to grow up with. Your life often becomes defined by your children, so if you can come together on how to raise your children as co-parents unified in thought, that might be a good reason to consider reconciliation.

If your ex doesn’t meet many of the hopes you had for a life mate, then don’t settle for less. You will regret it and resent your ex for it eventually. If you have cultural chasms in your upbringing, that could be a strong indicator that you will have problems coming together on orchestrating your future life together. If you or your ex cannot forgive big mistakes from the past and TRULY put it behind you, then you should probably stay apart. Unforgiveness is a destroyer of peace, harmony, health, stability, trust, and many other elements of healthful living. If you and your ex are considering reconciliation, sit down and communicate clear thoughts about the breakup and expectations of the future.

If there are too many red flags between the two of you, then when asking yourself, "Should I go back to my ex?" pay close attention to EVERY ONE OF THEM.

No matter how much you and your ex have between each other, don’t be afraid to cut your losses and walk away.

There IS a hope for a happy future!