You should not change for you man because there is no guarantee that he will be for you in your changed state or condition.  If he ask you to color your hair or to wear a certain dress, then there is no harm done.  But if he ask you to change from your bubbly self to someone solemn and sad then you should not change your personality to fit him.

Some women change themselves without asking for their partner' permission; such as weight gain after a few babies.  Yet these women expect their men to love them the same way in their changed state.  This kind of change is not healthy and you should try to stay the same person who your husband married.  If he asks you to lose weight however and you were overweight before he married you then you should not change for him.  You should change for your good health.

Most of the time women are in the process of changing their man to who they would like to be.  That is a difficult task and women should stop trying to change their men.  Take him for who he is and work with what he has.  Who is to say that what ever personality change that you make to you spouse is suitable for him because you made the change. 

You should not change for your man because that means that he is not satisfied with who you are and what you bring to the table.  A man who is constantly trying to change you have not found the person he wants to be with and may be preparing to cheat or just to break up the relationship.  If you man ask you to change for him, make sure that you make a reciprocal request for him to change also.  Let him know that he is not all of that in the particular department that he is seeking to change about you.

Sometimes change and good and sometimes change is not good.  It is not good to change for your man when it comes to your personality unless you are overly abrasive and difficult to get along with.  If you are comfortable with who you are with your abrasive personality and all then he can hit the door and make sure that it is not a revolving one. 

Women in relationships make enormous changes especially when kids are added to the family.  Most of the time the woman has to leave work to care for the kids or she has to contend with daycare workers and the like.  The flexibility of a woman makes it possible for her to change when there is a need.  However, the man in the relationship for the most part continues business as usual with or without kids.  Maybe it is because the man is expected to care for the household.  It still remains to be seen that women makes the most changes when a relationships becomes serious enough for marriage.

A man should not ask the woman to make any additonal changes as she has to accommodate so many ways to make sure that everything is working as it should to reduce any problems in the relationshp.  If there is a disagreement or an argument, for the most part, it is going to be the woman who makes the compromise or to just say:  Oh alright.  We will do this your way.

Changing for your man would be like getting a tattoo because you are so much in love.  Then you will have to make a major change and erase the tattoo with laser correction if the relationship sours.  Do not make any major changes on your personality or of your body unless for the betterment of you.  You may make a major change for a man and I am not just talking tattoos here, an then he walks out with someone who he thinks need no changes.  Where would that leave you with all of the changes you would have made for him?