More and more it appears people are making the permanent decisions to end their lives. As unfortunate as that is in itself, it is even more so that they are in many cases ended others lives in the process. Flashing across the cable news, twitter, along with various other news outlets are heart wrenching stories of children being kidnapped, murdered, spouses killing each other, their entire families or even numerous members of their communities.

Many parents used to worry about their adolescent perhaps taking this route when something negative happened in their lives due to the very nature of what can be turbulent years. Teens measure time much differently and react much more dramatically than adults...or at least they used to. Now and then we would hear of a tragic death of a young boy or girl who committed suicide after learning their current bf or gf were breaking up with them. Instead of realizing that this occurrence might change or that they would feel better at some point in the very near future....these kids would impulsively try to end the temporary pain with a sadly very permanent solution. Remember Romeo and Juliet?

With adults committing the same horrible error in today's society it makes one wonder why?Divorce is still available. In fact in most states it is easier and less expensive than ever before. Child custody in most cases is split evenly, being called "shared parenting". While the economy might be a convenient place to foster the blame and the media certainly does that all day every day for many of society's ills. Isn't that way too simplistic? Are job losses and money woes the answer to why we are killing ourselves, our families and neighbors at an alarming rate?

What about looking at the speed with which our world moves today. Can you really get away from video communication, multi media or does it create a certain type of personal isolation? Is it possible that the generations who have not grown up without some type of computerized or video involvement does not know how to deal with real life, as opposed to reel life on those very machines or technical outlets that have given them hours of enjoyment and pleasure. Have we become so used to immediate gratification that the impulsively of blowing away our families seems less painful than going through a divorce or moving to a new town to look for a job?

We may need to consider learning social and coping skills to deal with the many trials and tests life can present. It may seem "old school"...but many times you might want to look past where one has been to know where you are going. It is difficult to teach skills to our children when we never have learned them ourselves. How many lives will have to be lost...many of them totally innocent before we discover that technology is not going to teach us everything...and while it is a tremendous tool...it cannot teach anyone how to actually live their lives....everyday...the good and the not so good days. We don't have to die to solve problems, or kill our families or friends. Sometimes it is just as simple as remembering to breathe......then keeping breathing until you can work out a living solution to your temporary  problem.