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Snoring Can Ruin Relationships

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By Isabella Snow


You see it all the time in movies, a husband snoring away while his wife stares at the ceiling in mild frustration -- that's how you know it's a film, and not real life. The truth is that snoring can utterly ruin a relationship from the inside out, and I'm about to tell you how, as I have experienced it firsthand.

Before I do that, however, I'll also say that, while a perfect marriage stands a chance of surviving what I'm about to describe, the simple truth is that few of us have a perfect relationship, and that makes everyone vulnerable to the following outcome, especially if they don't take their partner's complaints seriously. Severe snoring issues aren't a joke and there are many things which can cause snoring. Sort your snoring out now so you won't be sorry -- and single -- later.


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Snoring prevents your partner from sleeping

Obvious enough, I would hope. Severe snoring would keep anyone awake, and even mild snoring can do the same for a light sleeper. This may not be that big of a deal when experienced only once in awhile, but if your woman is experiencing this every single day for several years, she's going to be insane by the end of it.

Lack of sleep affects *everything*

The person suffering from lack of sleep will, at some point, develop all sorts of problems. That's what lack of sleep does, and that's why it's used as a torture device by governments and the like. If you can't sleep, you can't function. This will inevitably affect health, appearance and job performance. It will affect libido, it will affect your relationship, it will effect everything. It can be extremely traumatic and if you doubt that, I'd ask you to average an hour a sleep per day for even one week and see how sane you are by the end of it.


Some Tips For Snorers:

  • If you're a serious snorer, consider getting tested for sleep apnea, and follow up with the appropriate medical treatment. CPAP machines work!

  • Don't sleep on your back.

  • Don't smoke.

  • If you're obese, lose weight.

  • If you don't already have one, you may want to try a pillow that's been specially designed to reduce snoring.

  • Breathing strips for the nose sometimes help in moderate cases.


Rolling over isn't always good enough.

For starters, some people still snore while on their sides. But that's not why I've included this heading: If your woman (or man) has to ask you to roll over 10 times in one night, that means she didn't sleep for most of it, if at all. Moreover, it should not be your partner's responsibility to get you into a tolerable sleeping position.

Sleeping in another room isn't always good enough.

Some people have such severe snoring issues that they are intolerable even through another wall. Yes, I am speaking from experience. This can even prove to be worse, as, without you there to tell him to turn over, he's on his back the entire time, which leads to the loudest snoring you can imagine.

Earplugs and sound machines aren't always feasible.

Some people simply can't sleep with ear plugs in. I'm one of them. Have tried it numerous times, and it's just not something I can do. White noise machines are a possibility if the snoring person is in another room (although the snorer might actually be louder, which would make it pointless), but if you're right next to each other, it's pretty useless.

Show your partner that you take their sleep seriously.

Few things feel worse than having someone just not give a crap about whether or not you're able to sleep. Snoring can really damage a person's vitality, and if you want to keep your partner around, you really need to make them feel like you care, and that you're making an effort to sort the problem out. Anything less is really selfish and unacceptable. If you expect them to stick by you through what could easily be described as a nightmare, you need to show them that you're worth sticking by.

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Em Writes profile image

Em Writes  says:
12 months ago

Helpful advice, Isabella. My husband's snores sound about like a chainsaw, but I'm fortunate in that I'm a sound sleeper so they don't generally keep me awake.

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waynet  says:
12 months ago

Apparently I am a loud snorer only when I drink (well after I have been drinking of course) this is an easy solution for my wife as she sends me downstairs to sleep on the sofa in the cold.

Isabella Snow profile image

Isabella Snow  says:
12 months ago

Em - Lucky you!! ;)

Wayne - Lucky you, too!! ;)

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izettl  says:
12 months ago

My 15 month old daughter still sleeps in bed with me and my husband sleeps in a spare bedroom. He wants to come back in our room, but to be honest, my daughter doesn't snore, making her my preferred bed mate. His snoring used to wake me and effect my sleep when we were in the same bed and I am soooo stalling on letting him come back to bed with me. He just gets mad when I mention his snoring. He knows I'm serious about my sleep- I didn't get more than 4 hours a night until my daughter was 10 months old so I'm not in the mood to kick her out and bring in my husband who will cause me to lose sleep again. Don't know what to do...  

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EricStifel  says:
12 months ago

There is always sleeping alone on a deserted island, that could certainly save a few relationships...LOL

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Tirisacha  says:
12 months ago

I'd rather have a snoring man in bed with me than no man at all...lol. :-)

jax  says:
12 months ago

Docgunnysack: do you know anyone who has had the palatoplasty? My boyfriend snores extremely loudly and I am a light sleeper...a terrible combination, I know. He has tried many things--sprays, mouth pieces, nose strips, even an experimental tonsil procedure--none of which helped. His ENT says he needs the palatoplasty because he has a lot of excess tissue on his soft palate, but it is apparently really painful and the ENT says there is only a 60% chance that it will help. I can't sleep, can't concentrate, and find myself resenting him more and more for something I know isn't his fault...but I'm tired and need some help! What do you think? thanks.

Renie  says:
12 months ago

I snore when I've had a really long day and am tired out. HAD (lol) a long distance relatiionship, and from his lack of sleep I found my snoring was keeping him awake! I felt terrible, asked him to shake me the next time. Ha. there WAS no next time. Creep/coward waited til he got home to call me and suggest we not talk as much. I ended it right there. But the idea that I had been keeping him awake w/o him telling me still bothers me, plus being ashamed about snoring.

shan  says:
11 months ago

my hubby snore's even just a little bit sometime's and it drive's me nut's i cant sleep in the same bed as him and i feel bad because he has to sleep on the uncomfortable couch but he doesnt seem to care that his snoring keep's me a wake so basicaly he is not willing to get help and i can be a sleep and his snoring will pull me out of my sleep and i just dont know what to do im ready to get another bed and put it in my kid's room for me or him to sleep in.

Caroline  says:
10 months ago

I was with a guy for a year. I had never heard such snoring in my life. It was like the sound of an aircraft. My son in the next door room was woken and I just could not remain in the same room as him. I tried all types of ear plugs and eventually we decided to go and have the back of his throat lasered. It was a very painful procedure and the surgeon did say that it could be only 50% successful. I had real hopes that this would suceed as I was sick of moving beds every night and getting no sleep. I have to say that it did not work very well and the snoring continued even though the volume was slightly less. It was one of the major factors in us splitting up.

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MightyGiant  says:
6 months ago

It is hard to sleep next to someone that is snoring, it is even worse when you are awake then try to go to sleep and you cant. I like your hub some very good information. A+

Annoyed 2 the max  says:
3 weeks ago

My g/f snores to the point of being a chainsaw! I have tried sleeping in other rooms in the house but I still hear her hacking away at the walls. I know she cares, and she does appreciate a good sleep more than most. BUT i never sleep well and Im Im a light sleeper unless I have several dozen to cope with her snoring. What can I do, as she always seems pissed off that we dont sleep together and have not for a long time? I would prefer to sleep seperately and get the sleep every person requires to function properly than to be pissed off at her each day. What am I to do?

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