So this blog I am going to write all about our daily lives mine and Steve's that is the ups and downs the good the bad and even the nasty! Yep your gonna get it all I don't think to many people really have any idea how normal we are (gay men's lives are as married couples or as gay men period!) so I have decided to write about it. hopefully it will do two things bring about awareness and shed some light into the world of gay marriage and two, help let out some of the stress that occurs within all marriages. Yes like I preach over and over again it is always cheaper than therapy to write and journal or in this case blog. I will blog on a daily basis about our mundane lives I will try to keep it interesting for you as we do lead interesting lives and we will see where this experiment will take us!

So as I stated earlier I would be writing about our mundane lives on a daily basis so here is my entry for today August 23rd, 2009. Steven and his friend Bob are building a staircase to the upper portion of our roof something of which this queen has zero interest at all I even bitched a little this afternoon when I was asked to make a Homo Depot run (that's what we gays have affectionately named it) I tend to detest anything labor intensive it tends to send me into a crazed kind of mental whirl for some reason and I have never tried to correct this behaviour simply because I happen to agree with my gut feeling on this physical labor is boring you get dirty and sweat which is a big no no for me, so I went to Home Depot exchanged the lag bolts for a larger size came home by way of Starbucks and prepared to get myself ready for a client consult when Steven let me know that my efforts at Home Depot were in vain that what they really needed were smaller lag bolts of course this was not my fault at all but funny none the less as yet another trip to Homo Depot was required . As he left he gave me his boyish grin letting me know that he was appreciative of my efforts and all the while saying that he loved me...I just laugh at these moment because with us it is never simple and never easy you will learn this as this blog rolls on...I made my appointment just after 3pm created a fabulous color concept for my clients/friends we chatted about this and that caught up on our lives and I came home to my man still plugging away at the staircase on our roof..

August 24th,2009

Today I looked for work did the laundry went to Home Depot again with my husband and now am back looking for work again and finishing the laundry while hubby works on the stairs for the rooftop patio and his projects. Here's is a tid bit of grossness I roasted a chicken on the BBQ last week it got burnt as I left the middle burner on and low and behold it was inedible! I forgot to take it off the spit and literally forgot about for a few days gross right? it is really gross you don't even want to know! the maggots oh the maggots it was like a scene form a CSI show or something ughh! Hubby just laughed at me I can be a little brained sometimes but what can I say "Human!" so after discarding the carcass and turning on the BBQ and letting it burn for and hour and a half just to make sure I have bleached everything! and I mean everything! I touched or could have potentially touched I still feel itchy from the whole thing! ick ick ick ! I think ordering out will be the order of the day today....ah our lives, such a thing of beauty!

August 25th , 2009

Today was an interesting day for me I found myself this morning arguing with my dry cleaner again over my favourite sweater which I had her replace the buttons on some months ago but to my surprise she had lost and then adamantly told me that she had already given to me now I don't know about you but when someone says "I have already given that to you" they are pulling some shit! I know when I get back my favourite sweater!!, sistatry it on some dim witted person not this queen honey, truly! messing with my clothing is a freaking no no but she tried! now I love this dry cleaner she can get all manner of stains out of my clothes and I'm not sure what process she uses and I don't want to know she may be single handedly be responsible for the melting of Greenland but personally I don't give a shit as long as my Ralph Lauren comes home in one piece, ok. I'm not that insensitive...Is that bad or is that just normal? Suffice to say I got a call this afternoon and my sweater miraculously showed up! Ha! I swear we queens can be pretty persuasive when we want to be...Hubby and Bob are pretty much done withthe stair case and I'll post pics when it is finished nothing to write home about now but soon I promise.. I ended up at the market yet again today picking up our groceries for the week and lunch choices for hubby and when I returned withwhat I thought were good and healthy choices I found him in front of his computer monitors he has 6-8 of them eating a hot dog and fries witha soda now normally I wouldn't care at all except he has just been diagnosed withfreaking Diabetes!! so after not one but two trips to the market for him you can imagine my reaction to find him eating crap!! now I suppose any normal adult would have reacted differently than my reaction would have been but I am not a normal (if there is such a thing) adult. I freaked out in front of Bob and trust when I say Bob got it too as he stuffed a burger and fries into his mouthtoo! this is supposed to be my husbands best friend! I went off after all I thought I had to get my point across to them both aparantly. We are off the Cubs game tonight GO Cubs!!! Yep fan here!!

August 26th, 2009

Let me start by saying that "My thoughts are with the Kennedy's at this time and that I celebrate a life well lived by Senator Ted Kennedy he will be missed!"

So yesterday was probably the day that most describes our lives the best! we were preparing for the Cubs game (by the by we might as well have been beaten up by three year olds on crutches it was shameful!) we got in our elevator and we realized we had no house keys! yep we locked ourselves out of our condo now we live in an elevator building meaning our front door is the elevator, cool yes but not so cool when the locksmith has to be called! but I am jumping ahead..So me and Hubby head to Wrigley knowing that in a few hours we would be faced with the daunting task of trying to get into our condo on the top floor of our building.The first plan was to go to the fire dept and ask for help as they are already with us (hubby and his burnt chicken fiasco a few months back not to be confused with my chicken experiment most recently) what is it with us and chicken? of course this was un-fortuitus for us oh wait! did I mention that not only did this go on and not only did my hubby forget his keys as well as I forgot mine but hubby didn't bring his mobile phone I brought mine but the battery died! and hubby who had stubbed his toe the other day and cut it open had been limping in pain for a few days previous to this had decided to go the the emergency room last night (thinking his toe may have been broken) leaving me to deal with the whole getting in the condo issue. We later find out that hubby has Cellulitis and had to have antibiotics and vicodin for the pain and needs to be watched. Good thing we caught this early hubby has Diabetes and needs to watch these kinds of things you see. So here I am at 10:30 at night a husband in the ER no cell phone no keys to anything and a dog waiting to go for a walk! I used a pay phone at the 7-Eleven up the block something I hadn't done in years!! funny how you get used to things isn't it? I remember using pay phones all the time and not even blinking.. Yesterday I didn't even have change for the pay phone to call a locksmith! after making change I used the payphone which was an odd sensation but familiar odd but familiar.. guess what I paid .50 cents for a phone call wow! the last time I used a payphone it was .25 cents.. so suffice to say I called a 24 hour locksmith thinking this will be the most expensive ball game we have ever been too...I have my mind on my hubby I am tired I am worried about Mousse our 11 year old Briard and I am just not in the mood anymore and just when I am ready to rip my curls outta my head! Mr. Locksmith guy shows-up!! yeah!! so he starts with the elevator un-pick-able!!! we then move on to the stairwell in the lobby almost un-pick-able but just when i think   spending the night in the lobby the stairwell door pops open ahh how do you spell relief? L O C K S M I T H ...we head up the stairs to our unit to what we both believe will be a simple task, this of course implies that anything I do or that happens in our lives is simple Ha! I should know better! not so simple it ends up that Locksmith guy has to drill the lock off but it doesn't end there!! no it couldn't be just that easy after and hour and a half, the drilled lock had been pried off the door but the deadbolt was still in the door and would not turn out of the hole thingy latch contraption !!! Cheeky thing! to open the door!! I mean this bitch will not release!!! I just had to start laughing as did "Locksmith guy" finally after much elbow grease and pounding I am surprised our neighbours haven't called the police or started a mob hit on us!!! we are in safe and sound as on 1 am this morning!!! so I walked Mousse and drove up to the hospital picked up my limping hubby brought him home put him to bed adn by the time i could relax and fall asleep it was 2:30 am hubby is still asleep and comfortable my hope is that this infection leaves him quickly I want my healthy hubby back! the only upside to all of this besides the obvious like having a healthyhusband is knowing how hard it is to break into our home. I have a level of comfort now knowing that I am that much safer in my home seeing how hard it was for a professional did wonders for my feeling of personal security this combined with our security system, lasers and private armed security force! I feel great!! :)